“How does seeing your ex move on impact you emotionally and mentally? Are you struggling to cope with their new life post-breakup? Let’s talk about how to navigate these feelings and find healing.
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Understanding Your Emotions
– Recognizing the pain
– Accepting the change
– Managing jealousy
Coping Strategies
– Focus on self-care
– Seek support from friends and family
– Engage in new hobbies or activities
Embracing Growth
– Reflect on the past relationship
– Set new goals and priorities
– Embrace personal growth and self-discovery
Let’s navigate this journey together and find peace in moving forward. Remember, you are not alone in this process.
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It hasn’t really. I’ve generally felt neutral, relieved, and/or happy to see that they’ve moved on with their lives. I don’t keep contact with my exes and don’t really consider their future my business, so it’s likely neutral info to me.
It hurts at first, like any breakup, but I actually checked my ex’s socials the other day and saw pics of him happy with a new girl. I was genuinely smiling and happy for him. Our breakup was about 6 months ago. It was a bad breakup but I am ultimuly happy we both are out of each others life. It really is for the best. I would not be the person I am today if he was still in my life. I have stopped a bunch of bad habits I had, and I started a passion project that i’ve always wanted to do. Life always seems to work out, even when it feels like my life is falling apart in the moment.
It hasn’t. It was over 15 years ago. Just general emotions of being happy he is doing well
For the longest term one, we dated almost 11 years. Honestly, it doesn’t. I don’t even know what he is up to, but I was checked out of the relationship before we broke up. I went through enough emotional trauma that I am having to unpack now and I sincerely hope he’s not fucking up anyone else’s life. I doubt he has any meaningful relationships as anyone would have to be crazy to put up with that mess. But if he is, not a thought crosses my mind about it. I am in a healthy marriage and that part of my life is long gone.
I don’t pay attention to what they are doing that is far healthier.
I don’t really know how/what any of my exes are doing, barring my first boyfriend from yearrs ago. AFAIK, my most recent ex is dating someone new? and hopefully he’s doing well! I wish them nothing but the best ofc
It hasn’t. I was too busy moving on with my own life.
It hasn’t, I’m happy for him, they’re a good match and have a lovely little family!
He cheated on me, multiple times with multiple women before we started the divorce process. He started dating a woman, while we still shared the house before I found a place and moved out. She moved in about 3 months after the divorce was finalized. They got married 9 months after the divorce.
When I tell you it hurt me to my core, it hurt even more than that. Because I saw just how much I was worth to him. Which was less than nothing with how fast he moved on. Even now, almost a year and a half post divorce, I still feel worthless. And trying to date, well, when you get passed on after one date, it adds to those feelings. Most days, I still feel worthless.
Honestly, if he’s moved on, good for him, though I genuinely hope for the sake of his next partner that he gets therapy despite him thinking that therapists are quacks due to the mediator for his parents divorce not being licensed.
I’ve moved on, and if our paths somehow cross again, he has no right to say anything about the way that I’m living my life because he needs some semblance of control, and my current boyfriend knows that he did a huge number on me, so he’s ready to protect me in the event that something happens if my ex shows up.
I honestly didn’t care. We had been over for months before we actually broke up. Seeing him moved on was great for me. It meant that I could move on without feeling guilty because I felt at the time that I was the only one feeling like it was over. I hope he finds all the happiness in the world because he wasn’t a bad guy just needed to do a lot of growing up
This is not to suggest that breakups aren’t painful, but I really truly believe that people who break up weren’t “meant to be,” so to speak.
Obviously that’s a bit easier to see if you’re the one doing the leaving, but even in the opposite case, I would just never want someone to stay with me out of obligation or pity, because that’s not the love I deserve.
So to answer your question, usually I’m really happy to see that an ex has moved on and (at least seemingly) gotten somebody or some thing in their life that will fulfill them. I do have one ex where I just felt sorry for his new lady, but that’s another story. 😂
I moved on first, he was very upset about it. Seeing him finally move on made me happy because I did feel bad that he was hurting for awhile
I feel really bad for the new girl because I know it’s the same shit
I feel sorry for the woman he’s with, I pray to any and all the Gods she doesn’t get treated they way I did. I am happily expecting a child with the man of my dreams, the man he forced away from me when I tried to move on. I have no more hard feelings, just hope the woman leaves before it feels too late.
I hope my ex is happy but seeing anything on social media, even a decade later, is not my cup of tea. I rather live my life and if I do think about them, just keep it as a memory.
He moved onto a mental health facility… So fairly validated.
It used to affect me a lot, but it doesn’t anymore. I still have an ex that I would happily run over with my car but it’s purely out of principle at this point. He has the little family he wanted, presumably with someone who also wanted that. I hope his wife is happy (because, like I said, I would happily run him over with my car) which is probably the closest to feeling positively about his life that I will ever be.
I’m happy they’re happy and not in my life anymore 🙂
It makes me happy. I’m glad that they are getting the good and wholesome things they deserve.
Lol the exes that I had a bitter resentment toward never really did anything that I considered “moving on and moving up” after we broke up, so that worked in my favour. The amicable “we’ve run our course and I wish you all the best” breakup, they carried on to do good things as far as I know, and honestly good for them. I was done with the relationship when it was over and never really looked back so the bits that I heard hear and there, I was happy for them.
So… It never really has affected me, except for being a bit smug that one is nearing 40 and he’s still is no better in any aspect of his life than he was when we broke up in my very early 20s.
Been with my husband forever, so my last breakup was quite some time ago. If you mean seeing that that my ex had met someone else, I don’t remember feeling too affected by it. But I had met someone else first, so it would have just felt nuts to be upset about it. It’s possible — maybe even likely, given my overall state of maturity back then — that I would have spiraled if they had met someone else while I was still single.
Of course it affects me. It was a long time ago and I remember feeling hurt that he met someone so quickly and so easily forgot me. But later on I reaslised that unlike me, he’s not a very independent sort of guy. I have always thrived on individuality and being able to do things myself. He on the other hand doesn’t like being single and latches onto the next person easily. It’s just he’s insecure and needs constant attention and needs to rely on someone. Although it’s hilarious as he likes to tell the guys he’s being forced by the wife to do “XX” and “YYY” when most of the time, it’s his choice.
He ended up marrying the lady he was dating after me and they have 2 or 3 kids. I don’t envy the life as I’ve met her and she’s lovely but he complains about her etc. I also am happy living my life in Sydney whilst he moved to the US with her. I honestly would never want to live in a gun totting red state and especially given the lack of state health care etc… so I honestly don’t envy his life. But I think his wife makes good money.
I pity his mum though; he left her here all by herself and pretty much abandoned her. Also he was abroad when his dad passed away so he missed a lot of things. The one thing I did love was his parents; I got along amazingly with them. I was more like them than my parents. His parents were always open minded, intellectually very smart, independent and so adventurous. Mine are a bit closeted in mindset and just fight a lot.
I haven’t been with anyone in anything serious in a long time. The most reason thing was going out on a date with someone, really enjoying his company and realising he wasn’t interested at all. Ouch, that stung and continues to sting. But I like his now girlfriend and she’s a friend. I continue to be friends with her but just don’t talk to him much unless she’s around. They’ll probably get married at the end of the year. I tell myself they’re more compatible and make a great couple.
Do I sit around and muse about my failures in love and relationships? Yes sometimes. Does it hurt to think of what could have been? Yes. Does it make me want to go out and meet someone and fall in love? It used to. Now, I just accept that I’m happy as a single person who travels a lot and does whatever I want. I think I’m happy with that lifestyle. I guess I try to focus on the positives; travel, family, friends, my own place, several degrees, speak a few languages, have money in the bank… I doubt I’ll ever date or meet anyone interested in me but as long as I can be happy with what I have and continue to grow and learn, it’s ok.
It still effects me bc I’m still angry considering he left me for her, cheated on me with her, and I’m still single / bitter. I think I’m trying to move on and get to the point of where it doesn’t affect me.
He’s her problem now.
I stay far away from both of my abusive exes. I have no idea what they’re doing and I’d like to keep it that way.
He still lives with me. It is hard, but I genuinely hope the best for him. Sad it did not work out.
If you truly love someone you will be happy if they are happy. Doesn’t mean you don’t wince….but overall you are happy for them.
I remind myself “not my circus, not my monkeys.” He’s someone else’s problem now.
I was the one who moved on first that I didn’t even experience a proper breakup… I honestly just want him to get better for himself instead of just being stuck in the past and feeling sorry for himself. I checked on rare occasions, but it seems like he got worse.
He even crawled back into my DMs at one point several months back, 6 months after we broke up. He said he was interested in being friends again. I said I was fine. Then he came up with some ridiculous story about how he found someone else, has his life together and how they’re expecting a baby, like it was some big W 😂
So it was most definitely a lie because why else would an ex crawl back to the DMs if not to try to wiggle back in? But if it wasn’t a lie, it’s even more sad…. The first thing he does is to impregnate a woman? Rip. I REALLY hope it was a lie because he is not capable of that, financially and mentally. Poor kid otherwise lol
As a rule, I don’t look back. Relationships fail for a reason. Better to learn from the failure and look forward. However most of my exes and I parted amicably, remained friendly, and I was happy for them when they found the right partner for them.
However, one particular relationship that failed in rather spectacular and painful fashion was often the topic of discussion in my friend group. (This was years after the relationship had ended.) And after a night of drinking we did google him once to see what was going on with him. We discovered he stayed on the same career path, married and had a son. (Who he named exactly the name he always said he’d use for his son.) And my first thought in this case was to feel sorry for his wife.
I haven’t “seen” him moving on exactly. But im pretty sure he packed up and continued his life as is. Im ngl when i think about it im kinda salty as hell that he threatened to kill me and he gets to go on as normal as ever, while I struggled for years afterwards
Honestly different with each partner. My first love was a middle/high school romance and after a few years he left me for another classmate. I didn’t take it well at all I was depressed for months, and seeing them together at school hurt. I really didn’t have many friends and that only outcasted me more. He ended up dropping out after a junior year and I moved on. My mom still had him on Facebook and i learned a couple years after graduating that they had a baby. I was a bit jealous because I’d been wanting kids for a long time and it gave me a “what if” mindset. But it also made me happy for him because while leaving me to be with her was really hard on both of us, being each others firsts, I realized he made the right decision because he found the true love of his life out of it, and they are happily married now.
With my two long term partners after that, I was only happy to see them move on because I ended them both due to emotionally abusive and toxic behaviors. Breaking hearts is never easy and so it’s nice to see them finding happiness without me.
I’m now engaged and just recently had my first baby in case anyone’s curious how my life is going following all that. 🙂
Good for him at least he won’t talk to me anymore
I felt sorry for his now wife. I know what she is getting and that he hasn’t done the work needed to be a partner in a relationship. My kids complain about their fighting and everything else.
It hurts but it for the best honestly it’s probably the final level of moving on
We recently had the chance to talk. We broke up five months ago. I didn’t know much but I felt like I achieved more within the last few months than him. We talked and it felt like he’s still the same and I’m a completely different person than I was.
I’m happy for them. Definitely should have stayed friends rather than move into a deeper relationship.
There’s a reason my exes and I were attracted to each other: we came from difficult, often abusive homes and were each coping in different ways. Our relationships were tumultuous. So when I look at us now, in stable relationships with kids we love and a determination to be better parents than we had, I feel so proud. There was a lot of pain at the time but wow are we strong.
Depends on how long we dated. My longest relationship was 11 years. It stung bad knowing that ex moved on within weeks of separating. I felt “replaced”. A friend told me: “you are irreplaceable. You left a giant hole in their life that they just grabbed on to anyone in an attempt to fill that hole.” That helped. But it pushed me to go to therapy, and deal with things. Got me to take my energy back. Essentially just proved to me what I knew all along, they were no good and just holding me down.
My current relationship is going on year 3. If we ended and I found out they moved on right away, even just for sex, I’d be upset again. It would sting and I’d feel replaced.
The others… I didn’t care. Haha
We broke up – she broke and I’m up
It’s been hard, but mostly because I’m single and keep hitting roadblocks. I feel hurt as we were serious, but when it came time to really discuss the future he got cold feet, and then of course with the next person they quickly got married, got a house, etc. I do want him to be happy, so I’m not sure why I get so sad thinking about him and why it’s affecting me so much. He definitely needed to do some work on himself, but I do wonder “what if” because he did want to get back together after our breakup (I didn’t trust him yet), and while I still think it’s for the best because of other reasons, it hurts since I miss him and we were good together in a lot of ways.
We broke up years ago and we are both in new relationships. He was in a new relationship a few months after we broke up, took me a little longer. I preferred to date around. He was always the type who knew what he wanted. He wanted marriage, a family etc. and I wasn’t ready for that yet.
We separated amicably, so we have each other on social media still. I was really happy for him when I saw him with his new gf. It gave me a sense of relief because I couldn’t give him what he wanted. Our relationship had been over a couple months prior to the actual breakup anyway.
I don’t see it. It doesn’t affect me, and I could not care less about what he is doing. I hope he continues to stay away forever
I had this gf not really a gf because she had a baby daddy she was dealing with and a 3 year old at the time (I’m a woman) anyhow there was a connection there. I knew the future would be us parting ways in a heartbreaking way where she continues to live her life with that guy and raise their son together. I’m moving on with my life faster than her because I’m not “stuck” or tied down to a guy or a child. I’ve just always known that it was the type of love that can’t and wouldn’t last but that’s life – I did consider what our life together would’ve looked like but it just never added up
He broke up with me for a girl on a game so I wouldn’t gaf what happened to him 😂