#HelpNeeded #BabyFeverEmergency #TooYoungForKids
Hey guys, so I’ve got an interesting situation for y’all. Me 19-M and my gf 18-F have been together for a good 2 years now and something has come up out of nowhere.
So as you saw by the title, my gf has baby fever. But it’s bad, like REALLY bad.
She is having crying episodes that last hours and all she always says is that she wants to be a mom and have a kid. But we have a problem here guys. As you see by the ages, we are WAY too young to be having little copies of us running around. We still live with parents, aren’t the most financially stable, and also aren’t married yet.
I’m doing all I can to calm her down but I’m under heavy fire and need some support here. What do you guys think I should do? 🤔
Let’s brainstorm together and figure out a solution! Don’t leave me hanging, I need all the advice I can get on this one. Hit me up with your thoughts and experiences. #HelpMeOut #Let‘sFigureThisOut
Get the hell outta there
She wants a child she can’t afford? She’s not even married and lives with her parents.
Run for the hills dude. This chick is messed up!
You need to tell her parents because she need a therapist
As a young mom… dont do it… im having a grandchild at 37… im way to young 😂😂
Get.Out.Now. She’s manipulating you so badly.
I’d have certain times where I really wanted a baby – it would’ve been hormones, though, as I didn’t all the time (actually have never really wanted kids, apart from these moments).
Maybe you could babysit the naughtiest kids you know for a day or get her interested in furthering her education.
If she’s like this constantly, then be careful, as I have known people to lie about birth control.
To add on, along with the hormones pushing it, when I’ve wanted a child under poor circumstances, I’ve felt lost/unfulfilled or other things I thought a child could fill. I didn’t really realise at the time, but in hindsight, I needed something, and when the hormones kicked in, there was that strong pull to procreate – so that was the answer for a day.
LISTEN MAN, HEAR ME OUT. YOU GOTTA GO ASAP NOW, LISTEN TO EVERYONE ELSE. IF SHE REALLY WANTS A KID THAT BAD THEN SHE WILL DO WHAT IT TAKES TO GET ONE. THATS NOT THE TYPE OF SITUATION THAT YOU WANT TO BE IN. YOU CAN FIND SOMEONE ELSE, PLENTY OF FISH IN THE SEA.
Firstly stop having sex with her. She will definitely sabotage any form of birth control.
Even if you always bring the condoms all she needs to do is use baby oil down there and it will break the latex down.
She might have hormones problem, she should get a test.
Get out as fast as you can , if nonalways a condom and always bring them and make sure you get rid of them , not the garbage can
Yeah my mother used to own a cafe had a 16 year old working for her who had the same thing. She had baby fever while with her BF and its all she wanted, she had a miscarriage and my mother told her please take it as a blessing you arent ready. She went ahead and got pregnant again not soon after and suprise suprise the boyfriend wasn’t ready and now shes a single mother.
discuss this and end it if she wont change and make sure you are wrapping up.
Break up with her, this is not normal behaviour. Crying for hours because she wants a kid, when she is honestly a kid herself is crazy.
You need to be smart and make sure you use protection and dispose of the condom yourself! Not her.
Send her over to families house that has infants, i would also have baby fever until i heard the shrieking cry or looking at the dirty house. Ovaries instantly dry and gone. Good on you for realizing what you can and cannot handle at the moment, leave asap if she doesn’t let off. You don’t need her trapping you.
The biggest issue is the financial situation in all this. Have you asked her how she expects to afford a baby? Does she expect your receptive parents to help, because if so, then she’s not as ready for a child as she thinks. Have her think about all the finances and give you a reasonable answer on how to afford it. That involves:
1)30-80$ for ONE can of formula that lasts a week if you’re lucky; sometimes you have to buy 2, depending on how much your baby eats. If she’s breastfeeding, it might be cheaper, but then you’ll need to shell out the money to get her supplies to store the milk. And even then, there’s no guarantee she’ll be able or willing to breastfeed. It’s not all it’s cracked up to be on social media: that shit hurts.
2)5-10$ for ONE onesie or outfit, which doesn’t sound expensive on its own until you realize just how quickly a baby will run through them. You’ll need a shit ton of clothes, especially for it’s first few months where it has blowouts, throws up on itself, starts drooling, and so much other stuff that just gets worse as the baby grows. You’ll likely be going through 5 outfits in one day sometimes. And the sad part is those outfits don’t last. The baby grows so fast that your baby might only be able to wear it a few times, depending on how much laundry you’re willing to do (which has its own expense by itself).
3) $150- $700 for a car seat, which is required by law. You won’t be able to even leave the hospital without one. The hospital is legally required to check that you have provided and installed a car seat into a vehicle before they allow you to leave. And no, you can’t just go buy a handmedown. You never know where they come from or if it’s been in an accident.
Speaking of which, if you get into even a minor fender bender with your baby, then the $500 car seat has to be replaced. Doesn’t matter how new it is. Happened to me. $300 car seat for my baby girl. When she was 5 weeks old, some asshat decided to slam into my back bumper. The guy totaled his car. My suv was fine, my kids were fine. It didn’t matter, though. The first thing the doctor told us was to replace the car seats. Because you just never know if it took any internal damage that you can’t see, and you don’t want to risk it failing in another accident.
And that list is just the basic starter pack for a baby. That’s not even including all the smaller stuff that adds up that you’ll need, like bibs, blankets, bassinets, baby food, cribs (another expensive item depending on where you get it), toys, teethers, etc. I’m pretty sure I’m missing some stuff here, but you get the point.
And they only get more expensive as they get older. Don’t even get me started on daycare and preschool costs, which you’re going to need if you are both going to afford this kid.
Go through that list and ask her if she’s ready for all that and what her plan is to afford it. Better yet, take her to different stores that have baby sections or baby stores and look at prices for affording children. It’s not cheap.
Having a baby is not all it’s cracked up to be. Half of it is a money pit; the other half is an emotionally and mentally exhausting reality (with all the sleepless nights, strained relationship with your partner – and yes, that’ll happen, etc).
She needs a reality check. And in the meantime, don’t have sex with her. It’s not worth the risk.
Something is going on with her, because this isn’t normal behaviour, especially if you’re saying it has come up out of nowhere. Have a discussion with her parents – let them know that lately, she’s started saying that she wants children so bad, it sends her into crying fits that last for hours. Tell them that this behaviour has only recently started and that you’re worried for her. Add that you love her very much, but you’re both way too young to be taking on this responsibility right now. Then, it’s on them to decide what they want to do next. Hopefully, it will be therapy, which she will have to accept, but still it’s the only option here.
Another thing that you should be extremely concerned about is protection. Do not go about it unprotected and do not trust her with it. Always wear a condom, preferably yours and that she hasn’t had access to. If she tries to, do not allow her to persuade you into unprotected sex and do not believe her when she says she’s on some other form of birth control. If she’s this unstable, she might be able to tamper with it or lie about it just so she can get pregnant.
I’m not saying don’t trust your girlfriend anymore, but what you’re describing is an individual who is unwell and capable of doing something stupid. Something concerning is going on with her and she needs help. Hopefully she will accept therapy, but if not and she keeps this up, then you should seriously reconsider this.
No sex. You two are too young. As another poster said, talk to her parents.
I think the message is clear in the comment section lol
No sex with this crazy girl.
You need to leave yesterday. She will not stop until she gets what she wants, and you have problems
Having child and taking care of it are two very different things.
First stop having sex, many people this crazy will sabotage protection or birth control.
Second ask her how is she planning to take care of it? Money, school, job, food, time, etc.
If she says her parents will help, make her ask them in front you.
But still I’d leave. She is too immature to have a baby. She is still practicaly a child. Lives with her parents, probably has no job to pay for it. Feel free to use this as arguments.
Baby fever = thoughts of cute babies, not thoughts of wiping shit stains, vomits and no sleep
Just let her watch on a kid with no manners don’t help her out and make sure she sees the Bad sides of having a baby that young
Rubber up, homie.
The fact she is having a childish temper tantrum shows that she isn’t ready for a kid because she will have a temper tantrum when that kid has one because she has no obvious self control. You are young and can find many girls to be in a relationship with. I wish people can learn that being in a relationship doesn’t mean your only one when it isn’t going well!
Don’t have sex with her.
DON’T HAVE SEX WITH HER.
You don’t want a kid at 19, especially in this economy. You and her don’t have good footing as independent adults and having a baby is the hardest thing a person can do.
This will end up with you two breaking up, which sucks but is better than having a baby with your high school girlfriend. Don’t throw your life away.
I would just move on, you’re asking for trouble that you don’t need to deal with. She needs to talk to a professional if she’s barely 18 and baby crazy. Chances are if you continue, she’ll sabotage condoms or BC to “accidentally” get pregnant.
Whatever you do, be very careful to NOT impregnate this girl. For one thing, she is way too immature to be a good and successful parent. And for another thing, her theatrics are emotion manipulation and if you give in to that, not only will you have a child before you’re ready to care for one but you’ll have set the stage for a lifetime of this kind of manipulation.