RelationshipGoals: How Much Time Should You Spend with Your Significant Other Each Week?
Hey there! If you’re wondering about how much time you should be spending with your significant other each week, you’re not alone. Finding the right balance between spending quality time together and maintaining individual interests and responsibilities can be a tricky task. But don’t worry, I’ve got some tips to help you navigate this aspect of your relationship.
Setting the Tone: The Importance of Quality Time
Quality time with your significant other is crucial for building a strong and healthy relationship. It allows you to connect on a deeper level, strengthen your bond, and create lasting memories together. However, the amount of time you spend together may vary depending on your individual preferences, schedules, and commitments.
Actionable Steps: Finding the Sweet Spot
Here are some actionable steps you can take to determine the appropriate amount of time to spend with your SO each week:
- Communication is Key: Have an open and honest conversation with your partner about your expectations regarding time spent together.
- Consider Your Schedules: Take into account your work, social, and personal commitments to find a balance that works for both of you.
- Quality Over Quantity: Focus on making the time you spend together meaningful and enjoyable, rather than just counting the hours.
- Personal Time Matters: Remember to prioritize your own well-being and interests, as a healthy relationship includes space for individual growth.
- Flexibility is Key: Be willing to adjust your time together based on changing circumstances and needs.
Metrics & Unique Insights
According to a study by the University of Illinois, couples who spend around 5-7 hours of quality time together per week tend to report higher levels of relationship satisfaction. However, it’s important to remember that every relationship is unique, and what works for one couple may not work for another.
Recommendations & Examples
Ultimately, the right amount of time to spend with your SO each week will depend on your individual preferences and circumstances. Some couples may thrive with daily interactions, while others may prefer a few quality date nights a week. It’s all about finding a balance that works for you both.
So, take the time to communicate with your partner, prioritize quality over quantity, and remember to make room for personal growth and self-care. By finding the right balance, you can nurture a strong and fulfilling relationship with your significant other. 🌟
I hope these tips help you navigate the question of how much time to spend with your SO each week. Remember, the key is to find what works best for both of you and enjoy the journey together! ❤️
There’s no specific amount. For us, it’s generally as much time as we both have available to enjoy spending together. We live together, so that’s a good amount, and we make the most of it.
Probably like once a week, if dating. If I was married, everyday.
My husband and I both work from home almost full time, some days we’re only apart to use the bathroom. Works great for us!
My husband and I are happily married. From the time we come home from work and go to bed, we’re together, except for his hour and a half of video game time. This works well for us but I see other people going crazy with our routine.
I would say it’s based on relationship stage and lifestyles. Married? We basically spend 24/7 together. When we were dating? Anywhere from a few times a week to every day, but not all day.
We live together, but he works an hour away so he isn’t home sometimes, he also travels for his hobbies a few times a year, We have most weekends together but we’re also both fiercely independent and will spend large amounts of time doing our own thing in different rooms even if he is home.
We spend a lot of time together, but not in the same ways that a lot of people would.
10 years together though and I wouldn’t change a thing
Everyone will have their own idea of what is considered “appropriate.”
For my partner and me, we both work at home full-time and are gamers. So we are essentially around each other all the time, often playing video games together after work. Sometimes he wants to play his own games and I play mine (or watch TV/do a different hobby), but for the most part, we’re constantly together.
I am a bit of extrovert though, so I’m more likely to go to social functions with or without him.
When we weren’t living together, we were typically spending 2-3 days with each other, but we were “semi” long distance (as in, it would be a 1 to 1.5 hour drive to get to each other).
I think it depends on the ppl in the relationship. Some ppl are more independent and others more dependent. Also depends on if you live together or not and what your work schedules are like.
When I was in a relationship and things were good, I wanted to spend any free time I had together. Even if it was just a hour after work. I don’t think it’s about the amount of time you spend together – it’s what you do with that time.
I spend 99% of my time with my spouse and it works great for us.
We’d prefer to be together most of the time but we both have full time jobs. Years ago we we worked together, lived together and went to college together, it was a blast and I miss those days!
My boyfriend travels for work and is usually gone Sunday or Monday night through Thursday. We don’t live together and spend minimum two/maximum four nights together per week (sometimes he’s home a random week night too). We usually have other stuff going on during the daytime so we are not always with each other the whole time even if we spend the night together.
If he goes somewhere fun for work, I’ll tag along with him and we will make a long weekend trip out of it and spend every minute together. It’s a great way to reconnect and brings us close together. It’s tough to have him gone so much but it works for us. We prioritize our time together when he’s home and make sure we stay connected when he’s away.
Whatever works for the two people in question is what’s appropriate. There’s no set number of hours or anything.
I’m an introvert, and he’s a very social extrovert. He’s out of the house (and my hair) 3 evenings a week, and plays D&D online one evening a week.
The remaining evenings are for chilling and streaming tv, going out for dinner and grocery shopping, and sometimes D&D.
Sometimes, we’ll go out to a live event on the weekend, or a popup festival or event, but he knows my limit is two “things” per weekend.
Overall, it’s good. I get to read.
Personally, I feel like I’m missing them and feeling disconnected if we don’t have quality time a couple nights a week. But if I never have a weekend day and a couple weeknights to decide my own schedule, I start feeling stifled and overwhelmed.
In the past, I feel like in my most successful relationships, we’ve had one deliberate date day/night, where we do some adventure or mutually important household collaborative task, and one deliberate low key hangout night every week. Then the other days of the week we either do our own thing or hang out together as the mood strikes.
It depends on how much you enjoy each others’ company! I definitely don’t think it’s healthy to spend 24/7 together. I’m someone who LOVES to be around my SO (when I have one), but I also need my space. Ideally, they understand that and aren’t offended by that.
I live with him so basically anytime we aren’t at work
I don’t live with my boyfriend, and I like hanging out with him at least for a night and a full day Friday night to Sunday night. We usually hang out for the whole weekend though. I used to hang with him on a weekday or two, but then we realized we both weren’t as productive during the week. I find this to be the perfect balance since we can be productive during the week and rest on the weekends. I also have a lot of hobbies he doesn’t do, so I save my weekday evenings for those.
I don’t live with my SO, we’ve been together almost 3 years. We spend almost every weekend together sometimes more sometimes less. It’s a happy balance right now. We also will have phone dates through out the week, watch certain shows together over FaceTime, etc. so if you count those as spending time together then it’s a bit more than every weekend
We’re married so we’re together every day, weekdays after work from 5 until I go to bed at 9. Weekends we have family time most of the time, we’ll do a couple hours alone time but mostly together
I mean…. We’re married and both work from home. So we’re together all the time.
The conversation kind of changes to how much personal time we get lol. But I honestly just like hanging out with him so 🤷🏻♀️
As long as it’s not infringing upon responsibilities, who cares. For me I’d say every waking moment I can. I’m single rn tho🥲
My boyfriend and i just broke up. A huge issue in our relationship was the amount of time we spent together. It was constant. From day 1 we were together 24/7 and it was too much for me. He could never respect that, and i never stood my ground. He was always making me feel guilty for not wanting to spend all of my time with him. In reality, it’s normal to need your alone time and personal space, and it’s definitely necessary in the early stages of a relationship. Even more so when you’re a young woman still learning about yourself. I know this isn’t exactly what the post was asking but i think it’s important to leave this here for anyone who needs to hear it.
Been married for 33 years, we own a company together and have a home office, we are together 24/7 except for a few hours a day when he leaves to take care of our customers, I love our life! I usually do all the shopping and he qlwqywn
I’m married. I don’t know what counts as hanging out. We’re usually just in the same room together doing our own thing. We watch TV for maybe 30 minutes every day.
I’m very happy with what we have going on. Proximity works for me. And then I cuddle viciously at night.
It’s nice.
I need 8 hours of alone time a day 5 days a week. I work from home and I definitely wouldn’t date someone who works from home too because I can’t spend 24/7 around my partner, I start finding him annoying and start loosing my attraction. I need him to go to work and leave me alone at the house. Then I’m happy to spend the weekend together doing fun things.
Currently I’m traveling with a partner and it’s been 3 months of us being together 24/7 and we are both tired and agree that it’s too much time together. We are only separated when we use the bathroom, that’s too much for me.
It depends if you’re a new couple or long term. Does living together count? I think for a relationship under 1 year, 2-3 times a week is fine. If you’re married and living together I imagine monthly “hang outs” whether that’s movies or dinner is complete fine. Likely both working or dealing with kids will make “dates” much rarer.
My wife has slowly become more and more distant… when together we rarely speak, the majority of the time is spent in separate rooms. She used to be like a magnet stuck to me. today that force is to more neutral to repulsive, 🤣texts are responded to eventually, calls are nonexistent, she doesn’t seem to enjoy my presence
BUT,
She says she is happy
So I think the answer is they will tell you what the appropriate amount of time is…. their attitude towards you can be used as a barometer.
As long as yours and hers opinions of the “appropriate amount” are similar, you should be fine.
My wife used to think “all time” was appropriate, now she thinks 1-17 minues per day is appropriate.
Personally want more time but 🤷♂️ for now….