#CareerAdvice #WorkplaceChallenges #JobSatisfaction #PromotionStruggles
Hey everyone! 😊
I came across a pretty thought-provoking situation that I’d love your input on. A senior manager recently told a colleague of mine something pretty disheartening: “You know you are not one of the favorites, so won’t get promotions or opportunities.” After investing five years and countless hours into the job, that must feel like a punch to the gut.
So, here’s the question: If you were in this position, would you consider quitting? 🤔
Here are a few thoughts to ponder:
- Commitment: Putting in five years of hard work can make anyone feel somewhat tied to a company, so would quitting feel like throwing all that effort away?
- Opportunities Elsewhere: Is it time to explore other options? Sometimes a fresh start can open doors that were previously closed.
- Self-Worth: How do you balance your sense of self-worth against feedback like this?
- Work Environment: A workplace that doesn’t value your contribution or ambitions isn’t ideal. Is it worth staying in an environment where you feel undervalued?
I think it’s crucial to weigh the pros and cons of your situation. If it feels like the odds are stacked against you despite your hard work, maybe it’s time to think about what you truly want from your career.
What do you think? Have you faced a similar dilemma? How did you handle it? Did you choose to stay, or did you move on? I’d love to hear your experiences and any tips you might have for someone dealing with this tough situation!
Looking forward to your thoughts! 💬✨
Yes. Line up another job and get the hell out. They did you a favor by telling you. I was in a similar position, out of a team of four I was team lead and putting in crazy hours and travel for the company. One guy in the department we called the “golden boy” was out sick all the time, when he was at work he didn’t do anything. I made less than anyone in my department, same logic as you. I wasn’t the favorite, I didn’t go golfing with the boss. Leave. Find someone that appreciates your value.
just a question, were they speaking to you in a ‘off the record’ or casual way. As in, ‘Hey, this place clearly practices favoritism and you’re not in that social circle’ kindof way? Seems they could’ve been trying to help you out with a career path.
Otherwise, if it was just a bad thing to say I’d probably mention it to HR. That and start looking for work elsewhere.
Yep. At a former job, my boss mentioned to me that I didn’t seem happy and could always find another job. So, I did and they were very surprised & angry when I resigned!
Without a second thought, unless the job offered something really special.
Job hopping is the main way people progress now. Working your way up at one place can work, but you need to get very lucky with both the place and the offers of progression that they make.
Please update when you land a better gig and please make your walk out epic
Find another job and quit without notice.
I would be actively working on my exit. Adding to this, they *want* you to leave, which is why this was said to you. I would expect the next step will be actively looking for reasons to fire you. Stop working a lot of extra hours and going above and beyond. Put that energy into your job search, networking, and any certs or training that would be helpful. Run your PTO/sick leave balance down, etc. Prepare to exit.
Look at your finances. See how long you could last without something lined up. Then get something lined up.
Then, go ahead and put in your bare minimum. Let the firm know that you’re quitting, because even if you don’t have something lined up, you’d rather be broke than deal with the hatred in the workplace you deal with each day.
Depends who said it? Look for opportunities elsewhere. Look at their face when submitting your notice.
When you resign..you should tell that manger dude ..hey man you definitely are not my favorite and seeing your ugly face started to make me sick so here is my resignation before I throw up
The answer is you should find something else soon. The question after that is how do you leave. It matters a lot whether the person said this because they want to help you out or if they were mocking you. It’s the difference between “I hate to see you destroy yourself for no gain, you deserve better” and “lol, we don’t like you and it’s funny you hadn’t figured that out yet”.
Same situation here. Try not to quit preemptively. Use your time offs to work on your resume and apply to jobs ASAP without raising any suspicion. Then only once you have something lined up leave.
Find a new job and sign a contract before you leave. To make him salty report him to HR.
Remember, in every organisation you’re just a number. Never work silly hours. Just be in good relationship with your manager, actually do the stuff you are supposed to do, but never overdue. Follow last in, first out principle and enjoy life outside work.
Also, do not try to stay at one place more than 2-3 years. Just change the workplace every now and then (if possible) and enjoy that 10-20% salary increase when changing.
Most layoffs are not because people underperform, it’s the budget.
On your last day, thank your manager for the head’s up on never being promoted comment.
Same here. Subordinates ganged up on me spreading rumors I wasn’t doing my job when in fact my work was as clean as it gets no code errors when running the test jobs. They didn’t think I would leave because I would have hard time getting another one and I would put up with the shit show. They were stunned I was leaving. The cherry on the cake was they couldn’t back fill it due to funding. Glad I was gone. I thanked myself later greatly so u do the same.
Get your act together, start searching for a new job immediately. Don’t waste another minute in that toxic environment. Prepare your exit strategy and lock something down first. Remember, you deserve better than being treated like a spare part. Prioritize your future; they’re clearly not valuing you.
Do you want to continue to work for a company that doesn’t value you? I think you know what to do.
Y’all, I’m horrified. I consider myself and the people I work with professionals. I’m seeing stories similar to this where management conduct is so grossly over the top inappropriate. How is saying this to an employee not a personnel/hr issue in corporate world?
How did you respond to this?
As for the advice OP is requesting, I’d ride it out until another offer is secured.
Get a new job.
Definitely get out of there!! It sounds like that person is highly unprofessional!
Always have a job lined up before quitting.