In this modern age, social etiquette has become increasingly complex, leaving many of us unsure of how to navigate certain situations. One such situation that can be particularly delicate to handle is informing someone, especially a stranger, about a potentially embarrassing issue they may not be aware of. In this case, discreetly telling a girl in public that she has a blood stain on her pants.
First and foremost, it is important to acknowledge the intention behind informing someone about such matters. The intention is not to embarrass or shame the person, but rather to help them avoid further discomfort or embarrassment. In this specific scenario, the girl might not even be aware of the stain on her pants, and it is a kind and considerate gesture to inform her discreetly. However, it is equally important to consider that individuals may have different reactions to such situations, so treading carefully is essential.
One approach to handling this situation with sensitivity is to involve another female if one is available. Asking a familiar female to approach and discreetly inform the girl about the stain could potentially be more comfortable for both parties involved. This is because a woman might better understand the potential embarrassment and approach the situation with empathy and tact.
However, what should you do if there isn’t a familiar female nearby? In such cases, it is important to gauge the situation and proceed accordingly. It is crucial to consider the individual’s body language, demeanor, and overall comfort level. If the girl appears approachable and receptive, it may be appropriate to discreetly let her know about the stain.
When it comes to phrasing, it is essential to choose your words carefully. You want to ensure that your message is clear, direct, and discreet. Avoid using language that could potentially embarrass the girl further or draw unnecessary attention to the situation. For example, saying something like, “Excuse me, I hope you don’t mind me letting you know, but I noticed there is a mark on your pants. I just thought you might want to know,” can convey the message in a considerate manner.
Moreover, non-verbal cues can play a significant role in how the message is received. Maintaining a calm and friendly demeanor, making appropriate eye contact, and speaking softly can help put the girl at ease and make her more receptive to the information. It is vital to emphasize that your intention is solely to inform her and not to judge or embarrass her.
Ultimately, the decision to inform the girl about the blood stain on her pants rests on individual judgment. Each person and situation is unique, and there is no one-size-fits-all approach. Some individuals may appreciate being informed, while others may feel embarrassed or sensitive about the matter. It is crucial to be empathetic and considerate, always keeping in mind the potential impact your actions may have on the person involved.
Furthermore, it is essential to remember that everyone makes mistakes or encounters unfortunate circumstances at some point in their lives. By discreetly informing someone about such an issue, you showcase kindness and empathy, potentially alleviating their discomfort and preventing further embarrassment. It is an opportunity to extend a helping hand and demonstrate that we are all in this human experience together.
In conclusion, it is generally acceptable and even commendable to discreetly inform a girl in public about a blood stain on her pants. However, caution must be exercised in order to approach the situation with sensitivity and empathy. If possible, involving a familiar female can help ensure a more comfortable interaction. Nevertheless, it is crucial to consider each individual’s unique circumstances and react accordingly. By doing so, we can promote kindness, understanding, and respectful interaction in our daily lives.
Don’t tell her that you think it’s blood. Just say “hey, I think you sat on something”. Leave it at that.
As a female yes please tell me, just be discreet. I’d rather be embarrassed by one person seeing than everyone around me
I would definitely want to know! Just do it discreetly without embarrassing her.
“Not sure what it is, but I noticed something on your pants.”
As a female, I can say yes that we would really like it if you did that. Or at least I would… I can’t speak for everyone. It’s embarrassing to walk around with a blood stain on our pants especially when no one says anything and we just keep going about our day. Just be careful about how you approach the person. Like often women think the worst when a guy approaches them, so just say something along the lines of “hey, you have a stain on the back of your pants. I just thought I would let you know.” Generally speaking, they will check it and then thank you (or freak out over it since depending on the pants and the stain and the person, it makes a huge difference). But yea, I know I’d personally appreciate it if someone told me 🙂
cup your hands around your mouth and shout “hey everyone! this girl just had her period!”
Yes definitely but discreetly. It’s a natural part of life but it doesn’t need to be announced to the world. I wouldn’t worry about finding another female, in fact, I would be impressed if a male had the courage to address such a (still!) taboo subject.
As a guy, one of my kids was in a swimming lesson at an indoor pool. I noticed one of the instructors, a woman in a one-piece suit, had a split at her tailbone. I went up to her and said, “Just so you know, there is a hole at the tailbone of your swimsuit.” She thanked me, went to the office, and put on a pair of shorts.
I always try to do that for strangers, especially things like their backpacks being open. Or when a girls skirt is folded up. As long as you don’t bring out a megaphone, I would be forever thankful to you and never forget your heroic deeds
Absolutely ok. If they have an issue with it then that’s a them problem and they hold their nose up with a visible stain all day.
As a woman that gets zero warning when it’s coming I would greatly appreciate anyone approaching me to let me know. Obviously if it can be done discreetly that would be best but yes I would be very grateful!
Yes, and I gave her my flannel to wrap around her as she was in public and yes she was a total stranger.
It’s good to let someone know but especially if you don’t know them well saying “I think you sat on something/I think someone spilled a drink on you” or some other polite white lie is better so she can at least pretend no one noticed and feel less embarrassed.
Clear your throat. Then clearly and loudly, YOU ON YOUR PERIOD RIGHT NOW?
absolutely. i have 3 sisters and they would all agree to have that extremely small minute of embarrassment than to find out the whole day no one told you and everyone saw.
I’ll be honest, as an ER nurse I would have zero issues doing it and would easily pull it off.
I do some kind of variation of this literally dozens of times… a day…
yes please tell me discreetly- “I think there is something on your pants, you may want to go check it out as soon as you can”
Personally I would be grateful to be informed, as long as done discreetly and respectfully. A simple “hey it looks like you have something on the back of your pants, you may want to check” Is plenty sufficient. No need to offer to help or hang around.
“Excuse me, I don’t mean to be impolite, but you have a stain on your pants.”
I was driving a loaner as my car was at the dealership for repairs. The SUV was much higher than I was accustomed to and had cloth seats rather than leather. To get out I slid to the edge of the seat and carefully lowered myself out of the car. I went into the Stop & Shop supermarket, shopped for produce and got stuck on a ridiculously long line at the deli. I must have been waiting 30 minutes to get cold cuts. I pushed my cart to the opposite side of the store to shop for bread and dairy items. Next to the yogurt a woman approached and told me my skirt was hiked up. Turns out my ass was hanging out the whole time I was shopping! 😳. The only positive in this situation is that this happened long before people posted videos of every damn thing they see.
I do not know you, kind Long Island lady, but if you are out there reading this, from the bottom of my heart: Thank you for saying something!
I actually had a guy let me know at the doctors office. It was during covid and we all had masks so it was suuuuper bad. They only heard my name and birthday but didn’t see my whole face!
Anyways he came up behind me really close and whispered in my ear and it made me jump. He actually gave me his flannel which was like an xxl to cover up and he let me keep it. I just threw it away cause I only wore it around my waist to catch any leftovers. The nurse took me to the bathroom before my appt to clean up too.
Embarrassing as that would be it’ll be worse when she gets home and realizes it’s been all day
Discrete is the word of the day. When dealing with anything that’s potentially embarrassing this is the word if you’re a polite and empathetic person.
Some chick kept staring at me in the gym the other day. I usually go with my fiancé to the gym and I was there with her, anyways this girl had a hole in her shorts where her butt is.
My fiancé went up and told her she had a hole there lol reading this just reminded me about it.
Don’t tell her it’s blood. Just casually mention that she spilled something on her pants. She’ll know what it is.
Of course. I don’t care if your male or female. Some women may feel weird but it’s better to be informed imo.
Yes please tell us lol
As someone who menstrates I’d definitely appreciate the heads up. In my books this is genuine of you as it shows you care about it and don’t want anyone laughing or making fun of a stranger 🙂
Yes for the love of all that’s holy, quietly tell me. Don’t make a big fuss, but chances are that I’ve got a sweater or something stashed nearby that I could tie around my waist until I can slink off to change my pants and wince about this for the rest of my life.
I have. It was Taco Bell, like 11:30pm (they close the lobby at midnight), busy with a bunch of drunk college kids, and I look in front of me and see a girl in tight white pants with some red showing. It’s just a body function, fuck it, so I took a couple steps towards her and said, “Hey, ummm, just gonna be real with ya as I figure the sooner the better, but it’s not the best time of month to wear white pants.” Instantly her eyes doubled in size and she just said “thank you…. LISA, GIVE ME YOUR HOODIE NOW!” She took her friends hoodie and tied it around her waist and walked off.
Yes. It is ok to tell us if we are showing blood. And I’m really glad you said the word discreetly. Something simple like *”excuse me ma’am / Miss /or if you know their name, I don’t mean to embarrass you but you may wish to go to the bathroom, your showing/ your leaking.”* You can stop after the word bathroom, but they may not understand what you mean.
My episode happened in 6th grade, and I was wearing white jeans. Couldn’t figure out why people in class kept looking at me even went to PE and back to class before somebody finally told me, and of course by then everybody else knew and everybody else was laughing at me behind my back but it was not discreetly done it was shouted at me from across the room.
A discrete “hey, you have something on the back of your pants” will likely do it. And yes, please do, nobody wants to be walking around unaware they have blood on their pants.
Actually my oblivious friend in elementary (I got mine young) when my period started at school without me noticing told me “did you sit in ketchup or something?”. That would probably work too lol.
Maybe say something like “excuse me but I think you sat in something?” Would ease the blow of embarrassment (for me at least)
I had a respectful young man my sophomore year of high school discreetly tell me “hey, looks like you sat in some ketchup”. I know I turned red but I immediately asked for a hall pass. One of the least agonizing ways to be told. And he never mentioned it again and I never had an issue making eye contact with him after. High school me was mortified. The woman I am today is thankful and I’ve taught our sons how to respond in that same type of situation.