#workplace #boundaries #discrimination
Hey everyone, I had a pretty concerning experience recently with my manager and wanted to get some perspective. So, a while back I had to go to the ER, and my manager started asking my coworker personal questions about it. Fast forward to last week, when I found out I might have MS and needed some time off, my manager went as far as checking up on me through my friend. 🤔
Do you think it’s appropriate for a manager to be so invasive about personal health matters? I’m feeling a bit uncomfortable about the whole situation. What do you think I should do? Any advice is appreciated!
Possible solutions:
– Have a conversation with your manager about boundaries and privacy
– Consider talking to HR for guidance
– Document any further instances for potential misconduct records
Let’s open up this discussion and share our thoughts and experiences! 🧐 #workplaceissues #healthprivacy #managingup
It’s not typical. It’s not normal. It’s not illegal.
You should put in the paperwork for intermittent FMLA, presuming that you’ve worked there at least a year and they have 50 or more employees. If so, FMLA will protect your job for these short absences, and in theory at least the employer will stop being nosey.
I echo the other comment and suggest you out in for intermittent FMLA. Hopefully your friend/coworker doesn’t divulge your personal information to this manager. You’re not required to give explicit details to him.
Sounds like your manager wants to know how you’re doing but trying not to bother you. Are you worried that your manager is trying to snoop make sure that you’re not faking? Tell your friend to be vague if you’re uncomfortable.
Is it possible your manager is inquiring about you to see if you are ok? Could they be concerned and or making sure your call outs are not bogus?
I’m sorry to hear this. They could be operating this way for a few different reasons, based on the content and wording of the texts (I’m sure paraphrased some), it doesn’t sound like they’re out to get you
To me these questions read as your manager being concerned about you. It sounds like at least some of this has manifested during working hours so of course they are concerned. Nothing is wrong with him asking how you are.
I’m sorry to hear this. Definitely get intermittent FMLA established asap. My sister was diagnosed with MS two years ago and the initial unknown caused countless sleepless nights and near constant worry. She found the National MS Society provided her with the best resources to help her navigate this new chapter of life. Virtual hug.