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**Instagram Dilemma: A Common Relationship Challenge**
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I would not mind my husband viewing attractive women, but following seems to be like he wants to develop a relationship, like he is interested in her for more than her looks.
But I would not have a problem with my husband consistently seeking out the same porn actress if he enjoyed her videos, so I guess the take-home is that its personal to you and what you feel comfortable with in your relationship
if this was my man id have him unfollow them and if he dont then id leave him cuz why does he need them he has you what does he need these random whores for
I don’t care if he follows them or looks at their pics but I do care if he likes their pics or leaves comments.
Everyone’s relationship is different and everyone has different standards and expectations.
Personally, I don’t care about this kind of thing at all. Look at whoever you want. Follow whomever you like.
For others, this is a huge issue. That’s fine, as long as you and your SO are on the same page.
I broke up with a guy because of this. I felt secondhand embarrassment being with a guy who did that and I didn’t want to ask him to change. We talked about it and he was really defensive about it, saying conversations about social media were so immature—clearly deflecting. It was a new relationship so not worth my time.
It doesn’t bother me in the slightest but you’re allowed to have your own feelings
I don’t get mad or jealous, but I’m simply not attracted to the sort of men that follow these kind of women online. My partner and i look at porn, but we don’t actively follow content creators. He doesn’t find women flashing themselves on the internet attractive. Of course hot people are hot, but we both dread “Influencers” and “Content Creators”. We’d rather go to a bar and look at hot women/men together.
But we’ve talked about it, he wouldn’t like me following hot naked guys online either, so it really just come down to you guys’ values. Some people like it, some people don’t.
Yes, this is what partly led to the end of my last relationship.
Ask him, in all seriousness, how he would feel if you followed a bunch of hot, erotically-clad and sex-positive male model accounts, making sure to highlight that you have needs too, and looking is just looking.
Miraculously, most partners tend to get on the same page after such a discussion.
It gives me the ick. Very desperate and pathetic behavior to publicly like that kinda shit. It’s like openly advertising what turns you on. It would make me uncomfortable. My husband’s Instagram is all cars, gaming, construction, computers, husband and wife comedy stuff etc..
my boyf was following hundreds of OF models on insta. i told him it made me uncomfortable and i felt disrespected due to it. he unfollowed them but i still cringe when i think about it. the fact it even had to be a discussion sucks.
It’s not a matter of being uncomfortable. It’s a matter of refusing to be with men who are openly looking for other options. If he is following all these women, best believe he’d sliding into their DMs.
Anyone that’s happy with this kind of behavior from their committed male partner is living in a fantasy world, which I definitely can understand. The idea of “I’m so confident I don’t care” is certainly a coping mechanism.
Facing the factual reality of why and what causes him to follow these types of accounts is perhaps too much to handle due to the implications.
The way I look at it (from a guy’s perspective) is that this behavior is kinda like your girl posting sexual pictures of herself.
If you’re not comfortable with that, don’t follow other people doing the same.
At the end of the day there needs to be a discussion of boundaries when in a relationship.
Personally I think you shouldn’t do either when in a relationship.
Nahhh I gave up trying to be a cool girl and tolerating that nonsense years ago.
See how he feels if u start following really buff male models that post nearly nude.
I think every relationship is different. Personally I think following a hot woman is the same as the partner watching rom coms with their “fav” hot actor
But the disrespect I can’t get over. That you should definitely be upset about.
Communication involves two parties discussing an issue. It seems like this is a one sided conversation and will continue
You have the right to have your own standards and to find a person who agrees with them and respects them. If your boyfriend has decided that he’ll just ignore your feelings about it, I think that’s a clear sign of what to expect for the rest of the relationship. I know people have broken up with their partners because of this and others who haven’t.
My concern with this is what it says about their maturity level more than anything else. Adult minded individuals don’t generally use insta as hornily as your bf. I don’t think you’ll put up with that bs for very long.
l instantaneously lose sexual attraction and respect for a guy when l discover he follows stroke accounts.
But that being said, l won’t tell him what he needs to do, l just leave the situation. His screen girlfriend can wash his crusty boxers and cook his dinners, I’m out.
It’s just so gross. Porn use in private is one thing, but the way we’ve normalized men *casually* scrolling through thousands of heavily filtered thirst traps showing everything but the genitals that don’t even look human anymore is just nauseating. All while they’re on the bus, waiting in line at the grocery store, the doctors waiting area, etc.—I’ve seen it everywhere out in the open. I wouldn’t want to have some mindless horndog mouth breather like that as my partner.
Your mileage may vary, but personally, I don’t care about insta follows or whatever. They’re not just important to me, and besides, I’d be a hypocrite since part of my feed consists of male celebs I follow and like looking at. I don’t see eye candy as equal to respect in that regard. Social media just ain’t that important compared to real life.
Uncomfortable and tbh I’d lose a lot of respect for him. I don’t date guys who have wandering eyes.
Yes. Been there done that and tried to ignore it…. He cheated. Never again.
You don’t need a separate account to “look at cute animals” …
I think it’s extremely inappropriate and it would make me very upset and uncomfortable. I don’t even really like the idea of watching porn when in a relationship (even myself) let alone just constantly indulging and staring at half naked women. You are not wrong for this. Seems like ur bf has a bit of a problem consuming this soft core porn if you will. Sorry girl.