and better sleep health, consider investing in separate beds.
Sleep is an essential aspect of our overall health and well-being. It not only rejuvenates us but also plays a significant role in our physical and mental functioning. However, when sharing a bed with a partner, sleep disturbances can occur, affecting both individuals’ quality of sleep. This is where the concept of separate beds comes in, offering a potential solution to improve your sleep health.
In the case of the author of this recommendation, he and his wife initially struggled with sharing a bed due to issues such as blanket battles and different sleep patterns. The author’s wife, being a light sleeper, was easily disturbed by the author’s restless movements during sleep. This became a more significant problem as their children grew older, and the wife had to balance work commitments alongside the demands of parenting.
After years of struggling, the wife finally suggested the idea of buying two separate beds for their room. The author’s initial resistance to the idea is not uncommon. Many individuals perceive separate beds as a reflection of relationship issues or a lack of intimacy. However, as the author discovered, this is far from the truth.
Separate beds do not indicate a decline in love or intimacy between partners. Instead, it signifies the recognition of the importance of quality sleep and the impact it has on one’s overall health and daily functioning. In fact, it is an act of love and consideration for each other’s well-being. By sleeping separately, partners can create an environment that is conducive to their unique sleep needs, leading to improved sleep health for both individuals.
One of the primary benefits of separate beds is the elimination of disturbances. Each partner can establish their own sleep space, free from the disruptions caused by their partner’s movements, snoring, or different sleep schedules. For individuals who experience restless sleep or have medical conditions that affect sleep, having a space solely dedicated to their specific needs can be a game-changer.
Moreover, separate beds can also provide comfort and privacy, allowing each partner to customize their sleep environment according to their preferences. This could include choosing a specific mattress type, utilizing personalized bedding, or controlling the room temperature to promote optimal sleep conditions. By prioritizing individual comfort, partners can wake up feeling refreshed and rejuvenated, ready to face the day’s challenges.
While social norms may dictate that couples should share a bed, it is essential to prioritize your own health and well-being. Understand that the quality of your sleep directly affects your physical, mental, and emotional health. By choosing separate beds, you are prioritizing your sleep needs and taking proactive steps towards improving your overall sleep health.
It is also important to address any concerns or stigmas associated with separate beds. The reactions of friends and family should not dictate the decisions you make to improve your sleep health. Ultimately, it is your well-being that matters the most, and creating an environment that supports restful sleep is a significant step towards achieving optimal health and happiness.
In conclusion, separate beds can indeed improve your sleep health and overall well-being. As the author’s experience demonstrates, sleeping separately does not diminish the love or intimacy shared between partners. Instead, it allows for the creation of an environment that caters to each individual’s sleep needs, ensuring restorative and rejuvenating sleep. The decision to invest in separate beds is an act of self-care and consideration towards yourself and your partner, recognizing the importance of quality sleep in maintaining a healthy and fulfilling life. So, let go of any societal expectations and embrace the idea of separate beds for the sake of your sleep health.
Separate bedrooms I’d say. The best thing you can do to yourself is to sleep alone.
we went with separate blankets. made a world of difference.
Split king adjustable bed. One set of T-XL sheets & blanket for each of you and fits inside a king sized bed frame.
My husband and I were at a resort where the room options were two full size beds or two full sized beds pushed together. It was so nice I told my husband I would recreate that in our house if we had the space.
My partner and I are talking about buying two queen-sized beds and pushing them together into mega-voltron-bed. Bad idea? I guess we’ll find out.
Have a friend who shook legs in the night. Turns out sleep apnea was the culprit. He now has a sleep apnea mask (as well as separate blankies) and they are happily able to share a bed! Worth getting a sleep study done for sure regardless of if you want to share a bed again.
This isn’t true for everyone. My wife and I sleep horrible when we’re not in the same bed next to each other.
King bed made entirely of memory foam with tons of blankets and pillows, also an A+ move
Me and my now ex wife figured out that sleeping in separate houses with other people solved the problem but ymmv
We have a king, it’s alone or meet in the middle and separate blankets. Same thing
We just buy blankets that are one size larger than the bed.
Took it a step further many years ago, on account of snoring and other sound issues – separate rooms entirely. I advocate this to other couples, whenever I get the chance. My husband still grumbles about it, but he can’t deny the better sleep experience.
You really should invest in a high quality mattress that doesn’t transfer motion to the other side. They test mattresses by having glasses of water resting on one side of the mattress as someone moves around on the other side to show how much/little motion transfer there is, even for heavy people.
I know a high quality mattress can be expensive, but you really should splurge on the absolute best mattress you can afford, given how long they last and what a huge difference they make on your quality of life.
As they say, never skimp on the things that separate you from the ground (mattress, shoes, tyres, etc).
My wife is from a European country where it is more common than not to have two comforters on a larger bed. And any bed over a queen is two mattresses on one box spring. We have a single king mattress, but I love the two comforters.
A memory foam mattress also limits noticeable movement from the other person. But I guess if this works
My parents had two twin beds pushed together all of their marriage. They were both big blanket thieves. Now dad continues it with his GF (mom died).
Just get two blankets? I never understand why couples need to share a blanket.
We have a California King. He gets all the covers. Even in the dead of winter I will kick the covers off. I sleep hot. He sleeps like it’s the middle of Ice Ball Earth. He snores. I wear earplugs. We’re still sharing the same bed even after 38 years. We’re happy.
It’s the norm in Northern European countries to each have your own separate duvet, which was the best thing I’d ever heard of for my last relationship. He needed a weighted blanket and I need to snorkel parts of my body and roll the duvet into a body pillow and sleep like a maniac. Separate blankets made perfect sense
We have separate bedrooms and have been together for 7 years. It is wonderful! I miss him, but I also love having my own room and bed. He snores and now I don’t get woken up by him snoring and being loud in the morning.
We’re having our first baby soon and it’ll also be nice to switch her off between our rooms so we can each get some peaceful sleep throughout the week.
😀 nothing wrong with it! We’re in our early 30s and I am much nicer since we started this last year.
Husband and I have seperate blankets and two twin xl beds that are adjustable! He sleeps with his head elevated to help his snoring and I have it set for side sleeping. I love it.
My brother and his GF have done this since cohabitating three years ago out of their 7 year relationship and oh man does it work for them. They admitted to themselves and each other they’re both sprawlers, sleep hot, and extremely light to boot. They almost broke up before sleeping in separate rooms and they both attribute that move being integral to the longevity of their relationship. I will most likely do the same thing the next time I live with a partner.
We’ve been married almost 48 years. Last 20 years in separate rooms. It’s beautiful. No snoring, Jimmy legs or blanket stealing.
My wife and I solved the sheet-stealing problem by just putting two different sets of bedsheets and blankets on our bed that stop at the halfway point.
Second, we have a great mattress… one of those mattresses like where the kid jumps on the mattress next to the glass of red wine. So my wife and I don’t feel each other move.
Also, I said from day one that if somebody touches me when I am sleeping, I wake up immediately and really don’t get back to sleep easily, and that there was absolutely no way I could have her wrapping herself around me like I’m a teddy bear or something, so that issue was never was a problem for us.
Also, just as a final note, before I met my wife: When I moved into my first apartment, my parents gave me some furniture, including a bedroom set from their guest bedroom that had two twin beds. I just pushed the beds together in the master bedroom and made one big bed out of them. When I had a girl move in with me (things didn’t work out), I did the same setup with sheets that I mentioned above. So we had two twin beds like you… but for bedroom antics, we had so much space for activities.
My wife and I (together 10 years, married 7 as of this month) have actually slept in separate bedrooms altogether for the past 3-4 years. We’re both naturally pretty independent people, sleep very differently, and also keep pretty different hours, so it gives us our own spaces where we can be our dual gremlin selves without bothering the other. Plus we get to go, “Hey, wanna come over to my place?”
I am lying here at 4 am next to my beloved husband who is flopping around like a fish on a pier and plotting on how to tell him I want separate beds. Like tomorrow!
Mom works days, dad works nights. It was killing their marriage trying to share a bed. They have separate rooms now and they’ve had so few issues since making the switch. Fully support.
My wife and I have had our own rooms for over 20 years. I never wake up frustrated at her because she snored or stole the blankets.
we are together 17 years, married 15 years…
we have had separate bedrooms almost the entire time.
we can both have as much clothing as we want, personal closet for junk and stuff, watch our own shows at night…
like OP said, it does not change how much we love each other. just makes us not hate each other
We have two small children who migrate to our bed during the night. So now we have separate bedrooms. She sleeps alone until the kids migrate. I sleep with the dogs. It has actually been really good and increased sexy fun time counts. Once the kids are older and stay in their own rooms we will probably go back to one bed. We actually sleep well together. Just not with all the extra bodies.
After we had our daughter I experienced pretty bad insomnia and would only get an average of 5 hours a night. That was until my husband decided to try sleeping on the couch one night and I slept right through the night… he’s been sleeping there for almost a year now. Yea I feel bad about it constantly because I’d rather him sleep on a bed but we’re both getting WAY better sleep so it’s working for both of us.