#Friendzone #PlatonicRelationships #Attraction #FriendshipGoals
Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you are trying to maintain a platonic relationship with an attractive woman, but intrusive thoughts keep creeping in? It’s a common scenario that many men experience, but it is possible to navigate this tricky territory with grace and respect. In this article, we will explore some tips and strategies on how to be just friends with an attractive woman without allowing intrusive thoughts to get in the way.
## Understanding the Friendzone
Before we delve into specific strategies, it’s important to understand the concept of the friendzone. The friendzone is a term used to describe a platonic relationship where one person has romantic feelings for the other, but those feelings are not reciprocated. It’s crucial to recognize when you are in the friendzone and accept it for what it is.
## Tips for Maintaining a Platonic Relationship
### 1. Set Boundaries
Establishing clear boundaries is essential when trying to maintain a platonic relationship with an attractive woman. Make it clear from the beginning that you value her friendship and respect her boundaries. Setting boundaries can help prevent any misunderstanding or mixed signals.
### 2. Focus on Common Interests
Instead of fixating on her looks or physical attraction, focus on building a strong friendship based on common interests and shared values. Engage in activities that you both enjoy and have meaningful conversations that go beyond surface-level topics.
### 3. Practice Mindfulness
When intrusive thoughts start to creep in, practice mindfulness techniques to refocus your attention. Take deep breaths, engage in a physical activity, or distract yourself with a hobby. By staying present in the moment, you can prevent intrusive thoughts from taking over.
### 4. Respect Her Autonomy
Remember that she is an autonomous individual with her own thoughts, feelings, and desires. Respect her autonomy by listening to her perspectives, being empathetic, and supporting her choices. Treat her with the same respect and consideration you would want for yourself.
### 5. Seek Support
If you find yourself struggling to maintain a platonic relationship, don’t hesitate to seek support from friends, family, or a therapist. Talking to someone about your feelings can help provide perspective and guidance on how to navigate the situation effectively.
## Conclusion
Navigating a platonic relationship with an attractive woman can be challenging, but it is possible with the right mindset and strategies in place. By setting boundaries, focusing on common interests, practicing mindfulness, respecting her autonomy, and seeking support when needed, you can maintain a healthy and fulfilling friendship without allowing intrusive thoughts to cloud your judgment. Remember that building a strong friendship takes time and effort, so be patient and compassionate with yourself as you navigate this journey. Embrace the beauty of platonic relationships and enjoy the meaningful connections you can create with others.
I am a single straight guy and have a few good friends with hot wives, one in particular I get along with really well but he gets annoyed when I talk to her much. I totally understand where he is coming from, but I would never betray a friend like that. Yes I like to have sex with women but I am also very capable of switching that off, a good friend’s wife becomes like a sister, clearly off limits.
I do it by realizing I have no chance.
There are zero problems with thoughts. Everyone can think as much as they like. Just don’t turn it into words and actions.
focus on something else like work or money
I had a male best friend for over 20 years. Took me that long to realize there was more on the other side.
If you have ever learned to meditate, accept it as a passing thought. “Acknowledge it”. Set it aside and mover on. It gets better I hear
Your first thought does not define who you are; the second one does. Meaning, if you have an intrusive thought, you either entertain it, or you dismiss it.
One of my closest friends is an exceedingly attractive women with a fantastic personality and outlook on life, but we’ve been friends for so long I have no physical attraction to her, my brain views her as family
I don’t think you’re using the phrase “intrusive thoughts” correctly you wonder, sure, but it’s not really a big deal.
It can’t be done. some will say they can some will call this comment ignorant but they’re lying to themselves, they just don’t realize it. It can’t be done because nature doesn’t work like that.
If you’re “capable of switching that off” then why are you even asking the question 🤔
maybe you watch too much porn and can’t not sexualize and objectify women. if a man or woman is attractive, that’s great, but, so what? what does that mean to you? they’re attractive and what? if you cant see a woman as anything other than a thing that men have sex with, that’s a problem.
Who cares? Your thoughts are private, they don’t hurt anyone. It’s your behavior that matters.
You don’t. Those thoughts will be there. Just make sure you have boundaries
Thoughts are fine. Actions are not.
Be gay.
No.
They don’t.
Be more attractive than her
Do you think bi people have no friends?
Simple answer. You don’t.
There’s a reason those thoughts are called “intrusive”. Because they intrude and you can’t do anything.
He turns gay.
I don’t experience any of my thoughts as intrusive.
Homie you can think about how hot your friend is, but if you act like a creep it’s a problem. Behavior is different than just thoughts
You don’t.
You just don’t act on those thoughts.
The same way a bi person can have male and female friends. The intrusive thoughts are always there, but the whole idea is if they’re your friend, you never act on them.
You don’t.
Or better question, why would you want to?
I have worked very closely with dozens of women. I just see them as humans, with nary an ‘intrusive’ thought as you put it. I don’t find ANY difference between a male coworker and female coworker.
Grow up with them since toddlers.
He definitely thinks it at times.
Same way how men can have attractive siblings and not have intrusive thoughts
Damn a lot of commentars are down so bad haha.
I think a big part comes down to what draws you to them as a friend initially. If you become friends with a woman because you think they’re attractive then that will always be there. If you become friends with them for something else then it’s easy.
I have more girl friends than guy friends at this point but I met most of them after already being with my wife so the friendship was never built on that.
By treating her like any other person.
I have been friends with a couple of head turners, and honestly… you just kind of get used to it. There’s a friend of mine who is married to a literal model. Hannah is cool as shit and is a really interesting person who is also super attractive.
After a while I just kind of… got used to her being around. We have a couple of inside jokes and she runs a great wing girl for me.
Physical atraction is okay, self control is what I expect from an adult. Know the boundaries and respect them
Why would you wanna?
It depends, if you start off as friends its easy to stay that way. I really don’t know why people make a big deal of platonic friendships between men and women . That being said often one does fall for the other and can be the best relationship to come about or not
It’s pretty easy you just think of her as a person
Some of my best friends are very attractive women, and I’m in a very happy relationship with my partner (I’m going to propose to her near the end of the year, wish my luck guys). You will always have thoughts, they’re called intrusive for a reason.
As long as you keep those thoughts to yourself and don’t act on it, you’ll have a very loving and fulfilling platonic relationship. I love my friends, genuinely and I would not trade them for anything.
That’s not really a question I can answer other than with “they just don’t”
Imagine you had a guy friend, who’s attractive by all metrics, but you still don’t think of him in that way, it’s the same, but with that woman (not the same sexuality, but the same lack of feeling)
You could try remembering that there’s a human being on the other end and then act accordingly. If you view a person holistically – the parts that are attractive, the parts that are friendly, the parts that have their own agency and problems and points of view, etc., then you have something else to focus on – the same as you would with any man you’re friends with.
Everyone thoughts, doesn’t mean you have to act on them. I’ve thoughts about how I could rule the world but haven’t follow through…yet