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Have you found yourself in a similar situation where your ex is threatening to accuse you of infidelity and abandonment? It’s a tough spot to be in, especially when the custody of your child is at stake. But fear not, we’re here to provide you with some guidance and steps you can take to protect yourself and your relationship with your daughter.
## Understanding the Threats
Your ex-girlfriend’s threats to accuse you of infidelity and abandonment may be rooted in anger, hurt, and a desire to gain custody of your daughter. However, it’s important to remember that baseless accusations can backfire and have legal consequences. Here’s what you can do:
1. **Stay Calm**: It’s natural to feel upset and worried, but staying calm and composed is essential in handling the situation effectively.
2. **Seek Legal Advice**: Consult with a family law attorney to understand your rights and legal options in this scenario.
3. **Gather Evidence**: If you have proof that the accusations are false, gather evidence to support your case. This can include communication records, witnesses, or any other relevant information.
## Protecting Your Assets
If your ex-girlfriend is threatening to seize your money and business assets, it’s crucial to take proactive steps to protect your financial interests. Here’s what you can do:
1. **Separate Finances**: Ensure that your personal finances are separate from any joint accounts or investments.
2. **Update Documents**: Review and update your will, trust, and other legal documents to reflect your current circumstances and wishes.
3. **Consider Mediation**: If possible, try to resolve financial disputes through mediation or negotiation to avoid lengthy and costly legal battles.
## Custody Concerns
When it comes to custody battles, the welfare of your child should be the top priority. Here are some tips to navigate the custody issues with your ex:
1. **Focus on Co-parenting**: Maintain open communication with your ex-girlfriend and prioritize the best interests of your daughter.
2. **Document Interactions**: Keep a record of all interactions and agreements regarding custody arrangements to avoid misunderstandings.
3. **Seek Counseling**: Consider family counseling or therapy to facilitate healthy co-parenting and communication.
## Bhagavad Gita Wisdom
In times of conflict and uncertainty, it can be helpful to turn to ancient wisdom for guidance. The Bhagavad Gita teaches us about the importance of righteousness, resilience, and maintaining inner peace in the face of adversity. Remember to act with integrity, uphold the truth, and remain steadfast in your beliefs during challenging times.
In conclusion, navigating threats of accusations, financial disputes, and custody battles with an ex-partner can be overwhelming. However, by staying informed, seeking legal counsel, and prioritizing the well-being of your child, you can overcome these challenges and emerge stronger from the experience. Remember, the truth will prevail, and your actions will speak louder than baseless accusations. Stay strong, stay resilient, and trust in the process.
And to take away custody of my kid. Can she do that?
No she canβt, get yourself a lawyer now, do not waste any time. If she has written threats to you regarding this gather it all together as evidence. Record phone calls if she says this stuff over the phone. Do not let her get away with anything.
This is a legal question for a real live lawyer.
Maybe she can, maybe she can’t. It will all depend on everything.
No longer engage. Lawyer up.
Lawyer, yesterday. Get an official custody agreement in place.
Get a lawyer. We don’t even know which country you live in, so what might be legal in one would be illegal in yours and vice versa. Your situation is too complicated to entrust strangers from the internet with it.
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>now she has threatened to strip me of my share of all the businesses we invested in together while living together (I’m not interested; she can have it all because I know that ultimately, my daughter will inherit everything)Β
Don’t go such a route. You are 32. You might have other children in the future. You might want to leave that stuff for your potential new partner / wife etc. You are way to young to make such a decision.
You need to consult with a family law attorney. About a lot of stuff. Starting with time-sharing for your daughter and child support, ending with finances and assets acquired together. Depending on your state, you may qualify as common-law marriage. So, talk to an attorney and figure out what to do.
Even if you had cheated, she couldn’t just take away your child. The two of you need to have a custody agreement. As she’s being awful, you likely need to go through the court. Just fight for your child. You should be able to do a 50/50.
Good luck!
What country and state do you live in? In most cases, even if she could prove infidelity, that alone would not affect your custody, nor would it allow her to seize your assets. She’s out of her mind.
It’s best at this point to talk to a lawyer that specializes in family court, as it will probably necessary for a custody agreement at least. She’s using the fear and bully tactic that many abusive (ex)partners attempt to get what she wants, hoping that you won’t bother actually reaching out to legal aid.
>(I’m not interested; she can have it all because I know that ultimately, my daughter will inherit everything
ABSOLUTELY DO NOT LET HER HAVE WHAT SHE DOESN’T DESERVE! Just because she gets her hands on it does NOT mean it will ever reach your daughter. She may sell it all and waste the money or ruin the business. If you want to make sure your daughter inherits it, then you need to make sure you are the one that has control of it.
If sheβs going this low, sheβll probably go lower. Protect yourself and assume that she is capable of anything moving forward.
If you havenβt already, install cameras in/outside your new house and make sure your phone is set to notify you about AirTags detected near you *(Find My app β> βMeβ tab β> Customize Tracking Notifications β> Allow Notifications slider to green)*. You can also download Bluetooth Finder apps to detect any non-apple devices around you.
Get a lawyer now. Donβt give up interest in the company you invested in. Sheβs trying to manipulate you.
NAL – Cheating (even if true) will have zero effect on custody. Anything but direct neglect/abuse of the kid rarely does. Judges sometimes donβt even consider physical abuse of the other parent if the kid never witnessed it. Now, depending on your state, you might get railroaded in custody because youβre a man. The kid being 9 is good, because they canβt apply that tender years bs in this case. At a minimum, youβll get standard visitation, but you should go for 50/50 if your work schedule can accommodate that. If youβre willing to let the business go, you might be able to use that as leverage in the custody negotiations. Iβd recommend getting a female attorney (I wonβt go in into the reasons why here).
She can only do it if you refuse to go to court. You made a big mistake not getting married. You’d have so many more protections financially if you did. But as far as custody goes, you will get 50/50 as long as you ask for it.
If your income is higher than hers, you’ll have to pay child support, but I’m assuming you love your child and would want to make sure she has everything she needs at both your house and your ex’s either way.
Get a lawyer. They will direct you without the emotion. You are vague with your business interests but do not forfeit those so easily. There is zero guarantee that your daughter will inherit those interests if you let your ex take them. She could blow them all, she could remarry and leave it to step children or new children.
This is a question for a lawyer not a βdo I break up with my boyfriendβ forum full of teenagers lolΒ
Infidelity has no impact on custody. You should get a lawyer right now and start working on getting a custody agreement in place though.
First off even if you cheated the courts do not care. Your relationship with her (outside of abuse) has absolutely not relevance to custody and she tries to focus on those issues the judge will probably instruct her attorney to keep it relevant to the issues on hand.
Infidelity typically has no impact on custody orders. If you are on the birth certificates, get a lawyer to assist with establishing a legal custody agreement. Most custody agreements are established through mediation or agreement and don’t go in front of a judge. So, no testifying needed.
If you aren’t on the birth certificates, still get a lawyer and establish your paternity with the court. Then file for a custody agreement.
Also work with a lawyer to seperate from the business, if that’s what you want. Depending on your location and her role in the company, you may have other options. If that is your main source of income and isn’t easily replaced, I’d look for options to keep the business or receive a payout.
Well, I may not be permissible or wherever you live. He might want to try to catch her telling you the stuff on the phone or recording of some sort.
Get a lawyer protect yourself immediately
Get you a lawyer, ASAP! No, she canβt take custody for infidelity. BUT, yes, she might be able to for abandonment. Depends on your state. Get a lawyer.
Hopefully some of her threats are via text or email. Get an attorney.
If she is texting you the threats save them!
Why the hell havenβt you lawyered up yet? She seems prepared to.
Take control of the situation before someone takes control of it for you
I guess I’m trying to understand why you thought starting a new relationship and moving out of the family home without giving a heads up to your ex you share a child with and have been living with for the last of 11 years was the smart move to make and why you thought that this wouldn’t cause drama? You both created this weird dynamic where you share a home and businesses and a child together. You share a household together. And you’re so mesh in each other’s lives that now. Did you expect this to be smooth and drama free? Did you honestly think that the life choices that you and your ex made and how you situated your household was going to be drama-free? I don’t think she has any like to stand on in terms of custody or what not but I’m honestly confused as to how you expect it this all to go down when you chose what you did.
> she can have it all because I know that ultimately, my daughter will inherit everything
Why would you assume that? She could hand everything over to a new partner or spend it all on future family #2. You see posts all the time about parents screwing over their kids to benefit their new partners or favoring kids from partner #2 over kids from partner #1.
If you want to make sure your daughter is taken care of, do it yourself. Get a lawyer to make sure you and your daughter are protected.
Also, I donβt know what the law is in your jurisdiction but allegations of cheating donβt usually have any impact on child custody or division of assets. You need to get a lawyer so you know your rights, at the very least.
Why is no one talking about OP just up and moving? That wasnβt cool even if you guys werenβt romantic. Youβd give a roommate notice, wouldnβt you? What you did just seems petty and she responded even more petty β she wants a reaction out of you.
Your terms together werenβt very clear if you could date someone and move out without notice and think that was perfectly suitable. She is lashing out and for your best interest you better treat these threats like they arenβt empty. But for relationship advice, from what I read you donβt seem to be communicating well.
Why do people like you go online to get information about these things instead of doing the only logical thing and contacting an actual, practicing lawyer?
Without knowing everything about your case people here can only do guess work because an actual lawyer won’t give you any legal advice online without you being their client.
So immediately get a lawyer, record any interaction with her, and screenshot any messages she sends you.
Hire a lawyer and protect your interests and your daughter.
She is retaliating against you because you are in a relationship with someone else and she is clearly jealous. She had you at home all the time for years as a roommate which is where she wanted you but now youβve moved on and it hit her.