#WhatWouldYouDo #HelpMe #FamilyFriendIssue
Hey there, if you were in my shoes, what would you do? 🤔 Dealing with a difficult situation involving a family friend can be overwhelming, especially when it becomes inappropriate and uncomfortable. But don’t worry, I’m here to help you figure out your next steps and provide some guidance on how to handle this delicate situation.
## Recognizing the Problem
First off, it’s essential to acknowledge that what you’re experiencing is not okay. It’s not your fault, and you have every right to feel uncomfortable and upset. Here are some red flags that indicate the behavior of the family friend is inappropriate:
– Making sexual comments and advances towards you
– Physical contact that makes you feel uneasy
– Trying to touch you in inappropriate ways
## Assessing the Situation
It’s crucial to assess the seriousness of the situation and understand that your safety and well-being come first. Remember, it’s not your responsibility to protect their reputation if they are behaving inappropriately.
– Keep a record of any interactions or incidents that make you feel uncomfortable
– Talk to a trusted adult about what you’re going through, whether it’s a parent, teacher, or counselor
– Consider seeking support from a professional, such as a therapist or a legal advisor
## Confrontation
Confronting the family friend about their behavior can be challenging but necessary. Here are some steps you can take when addressing the issue:
– Clearly communicate that their actions are inappropriate and unacceptable
– Set boundaries and make it clear that you will not tolerate any further advances
– Seek support from a trusted adult when having this conversation
## Seeking Help
If you’re unsure about how to proceed or feel overwhelmed by the situation, remember that you are not alone. Here are some resources you can reach out to for support:
– National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE
– Rainn.org offers online support and resources for victims of sexual assault
– Talk to a counselor or therapist who can provide guidance and emotional support
## Taking Care of Yourself
Lastly, remember to prioritize your well-being and take care of yourself during this challenging time. Here are some self-care tips to help you navigate through this situation:
– Practice self-compassion and remind yourself that you are not to blame
– Engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation
– Lean on your support system for emotional support and guidance
Remember, it’s essential to prioritize your safety and well-being above all else. You deserve to feel safe and respected in all your interactions. Don’t hesitate to reach out for help and support if you need it. You are not alone, and there are people who care about you and want to help you through this difficult situation. Take care and stay strong. 💪🏼 #YouGotThis
First off, absolutely do not allow yourself to be alone with this man, ever.
You could try telling him to stop, and it MIGHT scare him enough to get him to back off. Or he might take it badly and get more aggressive.
Probably your friends are giving you good advice and you should tell your parents – its pretty obvious this guy has an improper interest in you. If his “reputation” is ruined, it will be his own fault, NOT yours.
He’s not a good guy! Tell your parents and avoid him when you can! If you go to your room when he’s over, lock the door. Never be alone with him.
This situation is serious and you have done nothing wrong. None of this is your fault.
Practice and learn to move his hand and confidently say things like, ‘please step back, I like my personal space’ ’I’m 16, that’s not funny or appropriate.‘ Be ready to be firmer and say things like, ‘as I said, I like my personal space, stop touching me!’ or a loud, ‘no!‘ or ‘stop!’
He’s grooming you, tell your parents immediately what is happening. He needs to be caught because he will do it again to you or someone else
I would tell my parents.
You might get upset, so maybe make a list of examples with approximate time-frames so you don’t forget some of them.
DO NOT WORRY ABOUT RUINING HIS LIFE. He’s a pedophile.
First, It doesn’t matter if you never verbally said no. If you are not actively seeking it out, it is a “no” in the eyes of the law and any worthwhile person. You are not at fault for anything he has done to you, even if you like the attention. Wanting that kind of attention is normal for people your age, but you need to be seeking it from people your own age. Secondly, HE IS A PREDATOR. He may be nice otherwise, but if he is willing to act this way towards you (a minor), he is NOT a good person and he is trying to take advantage of you.
DO NOT get comfortable around him. DO NOT allow yourself to be alone with him.
And please, PLEASE tell somebody who you trust. Even if you don’t want to tell your parents, tell your friend’s parents. Tell your therapist if you have one. Tell your church leader if you go. It doesn’t matter who, just tell somebody who you trust to keep you safe. And keep doing that until this man is dealt with. Things will most likely get worse if you don’t.
Please take this advice from a person who has been raped. If I could have done any of these things, I may not have the trauma and PTSD I have now. Please trust your gut, and protect yourself.
Tell your parents asap! He will do this to others. I’m sure your not the first.
Your parents love you. They don’t want you to be preyed upon like this, whether it’s a stranger, a teacher, a boss, or even their friend. They DON’T know he is like this and not only is he preying upon you, he also preying on their false impression of who he is. He’s lying to them about what kind of person he is.
Don’t worry about “ruining his reputation”, *he* is doing the ruining, you’re just telling everyone else what he’s like.
Tell your family what he’s doing, that you don’t want to be near him, let alone be alone with him. If you can’t get away from him, say loudly, shout even, that you don’t want him touching you. Your parents’ job is to protect you. Let them do their job.
Good guy or not preying on a vulnerable minor half your age is never okay. I 15M have been exposed to people like that too and it is never acceptable to be sexual towards a child
Looking back, I would talk to my parents and give them exact details about what this guy has been doing, how it’s been escalating, and sharing exactly how it makes you feel.
It’s very, very common for predators to do exactly what this guy is doing with you. Slowly crossing your boundaries, gauging your (lack of response), and continue to escalate. This isn’t your fault. Guys like him know exactly what they’re doing.
From now on though – don’t allow yourself to be alone with him. If he tries moving close to you with your family around, duck away. If he tries touching you, you have full permission to say “Please don’t touch me.” He WILL try guilting you for this change of behaviour. This is just him trying to maintain control. Don’t let him – he doesn’t have your best interests at heart.
This guy is a creep, and if this ruins his reputation, so be it. It’ll be HIS fault.
Most people are not all good or all bad, good people can have bad qualities and bad people can have good qualities. None of this is your fault and it’s perfectly normal to like the attention and to not know how to respond to it. It’s also perfectly normal to not know how to make it stop. You need to talk to your dad about this. If you’re scared to talk to him send him a link to this post. None of this is your fault and this man is not a good man, he’s taking advantage of his status and proximity to you to take advantage of you. Good people don’t take advantage of others.
Firstly, he ruined his reputation not you, a full grown 27 year old man should NOT be making moves, gestures or comments like that to a 15 year old, actually to any teen I would say 19 and under.
Please seek help from a trusted adult/parents, you’re slowly being groomed and he will continue til it gets physical, you may like the attention now but when it starts getting serious and you feel like you can’t get out is when it starts to get scary.
Avoid him, block him, tell him not to touch you when he tries and please consider telling your parents or another trusted adult. He is testing the boundaries and seeing what he can get away with, it will escalate and can become unsafe if he feels like he can get away with it
Please tell a trusted adult at school. Preferably your school social worker but anyone you trust can help you
He is grooming you. It’s a very gradual process, which makes it harder for you to say no and then will also make you feel guilty about not saying no earlier. He is taking advantage of your innocence, good nature, and vulnerability, this is NOT your fault in any way. He is the adult and if his life is “ruined” that is all because of HIS choices and actions. He’s probably done this before, and will probably do it again unless he gets consequences for his actions. Please tell a trusted adult before this goes any further.
Tell your parents about it. Dont be alone with the creep and be vocal about not wanting him to touch you. None of this is on you, thus all the creepy guy, he is just disgusting
I (25M) do not feel it’s your fault in any way. I’ve got cousins your age and cannot even imagine (gags) doing anything remotely like that. That’s disgusting and you should put a stop on it by distancing yourself from him. Just start at least with that and see what happens. Now you might feel a thrill and blood rush because of things like this, which ONLY happens when you’re doing something you very well know you shouldn’t, but later in life when you’re a woman, you will not be proud. Do it for her, for your future self, make her proud for being a fucking badass.
He is sexually harassing you. Tell him it’s inappropriate and it needs to stop now. If it continues you need to report him. You would not be ruining his reputation. He would be ruining it!
Take screenshots of his comments on Snapchat. There’s your evidence!
Kick him in the balls and tell him to lay off or you’ll ruin his fuckin life.
Talk to your parents. Updateme
Who cares if you braying something ruins his reputation? He’s doing the ruining himself. You’re just calling him out on it.
You really just have to be honest and talk to your parents. I would personally make it perfectly clear that his a likable guy and you wish him well but the things he have done are inexcusable and you have to come clean about them. Having any sort of actual proof like hidden recordings will make it far more credible. Just know that you can’t let it continue. This is what these people do, they play nice with everyone including you so if you try to accuse them of anything, no one will believe you. It’s really bad