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Hey there! It sounds like you’re going through a really tough time right now, and I’m here to offer you some support and advice. It’s never easy to navigate through suspicions of infidelity in a relationship, especially when it leads to a breakup. But before we dive into your situation, let’s break down what you’re feeling and what you can do about it.
### Trust your instincts
As much as it hurts to suspect your partner of cheating, it’s important to trust your gut feeling. If something doesn’t feel right, it’s okay to acknowledge those emotions and explore them further.
### Communicate your concerns
Communication is key in any relationship, and it’s crucial to talk about your feelings without jumping to conclusions. Sitting down with your partner and expressing your concerns can lead to a better understanding of the situation and potentially bring you some peace of mind.
### Seek closure
Ending a relationship without closure can lead to lingering thoughts and unresolved emotions. It’s important to address any burning questions or doubts you have before making a decision that could impact your well-being.
### Reflect on your decision
Taking some time to reflect on your breakup can be beneficial for your healing process. Analyze your reasons for ending the relationship and consider if there could have been a different approach to handling the situation.
In the Bhagavad Gita, it is said that wisdom and understanding lie in the ability to let go of attachment to the results of our actions. It encourages finding peace within oneself and striving for clarity of mind. Reflect on this teaching and see if it can offer you some guidance in your current situation.
### Moving forward
Now that you’ve had some time to process your emotions, it’s important to consider your next steps. If you still feel uncertain about the breakup, you might want to have an open and honest conversation with your ex-girlfriend.
### Seek closure and healing
Closure can come in many forms, and it’s okay to seek it on your own terms. Whether it’s through a heart-to-heart conversation with your ex or finding peace within yourself, take the necessary steps to achieve closure and healing.
### Focus on self-growth
Regardless of the outcome of your relationship, it’s crucial to prioritize your personal growth and well-being. Embrace this period of self-reflection and strive to become a better version of yourself.
Remember, it’s okay to seek support from friends, family, or even professional counseling during this challenging time. Don’t be too hard on yourself, and allow yourself the space and time to heal from this experience.
I hope this advice brings you some comfort and clarity as you navigate through this difficult situation. Take care of yourself, and know that you’re not alone in this journey. Stay strong, and I wish you the best in finding peace and happiness. 🌟
whenever your girlfriend was around, said roommate, did you get any weird vibes like they liked each other? and when the roommate saw you did he look surprised or scared?
Hold your head up man.
From what you wrote it’s pretty cut and dry. She wasn’t the one for you. Confrontation would just lead to drama. This way she can beat herself up over her cruddy choice that day.
Take care of yourself. Focus on your own mind, body and soul. When you’re in a good place, you’ll have much better options.
All the best!
Peace of mind is hard to come by. You made a decision based on your gut… Always follow your gut. It’s your brain and body letting you know something is out of place and fucked up. Good job, move on.
no you are not. my crazy ex tried to blame me, manipulate me, gaslit me when i tried to show him that he cheated lol.
she would deny or would do what my ex did. we are better off without those weirdos.
I feel like this foul. It upsets me to
Hear that this guy and your girl put you in this situation. It’s fucked up
Sounds like you did the right thing.
Just for curiosity, what did she tell you when you broke up?
I think you should trust your gut on this one. Honestly the fact that you didn’t blame the cheating and just broke up with her probably hurts her more, so I think you did the right thing. It’s gonna suck for a bit and then it will get better man
You didn’t the right thing. Move on and never look back
You did the right thing.
Let me put it this way: if I wanted to be faithful, I wouldn’t be hanging out in the middle of the night with no pants on with a guy who isn’t my boyfriend.
If the trust is gone, it’s gone. You don’t need validation from the internet to trust your gut (and ears, and eyes). If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, it’s kind of beside the point to ask it, “Are you a duck?”
I think you did right to blame your demons.
The point is, this was eating you up. There was no certainty, but you believed it was possible that she had sex with him. I feel that there must have been other little observations of their behaviour that put the suspicion in your head, or more likely in your gut. The bottom line is that the trust was gone, and there was no way to get it back.
Besides that, confrontations are highly overrated as an investigative technique.
Good on you for breaking it off. I agree with the comments saying trust your gut and I’ll say your intuition is likely correct on this one. When you broke up with her did she ever ask why or anything?
Nah you caught them in the act.
Nah you know what you saw my dude. Just ending it when you realized you couldn’t live with it is the right call. People get to hung up on confronting the behavior, or somehow getting evidence together to prove it. None of that matters, its the same result. You want out and you’re out. Giving her a chance to deny it and call you crazy wouldn’t have made anything easier.
I commend you for your bravery I wish more people were like you. Stand your ground everything will work out in the end she did you a favor.
Dude, you caught them. You know it, they know it. She knows exactly why you dumped her.
Stop second guessing yourself.
You wake up to what you hear is the sounds of sex and thumping sounds. You head down stairs to find your 31 year old woman is inexplicably downstairs naked from the waist down with a 19 year old man pulling up his shorts. They ain’t playing monopoly bro. You can confront if you want, but you already know.
You made the right decision. You’re only confused now because you didn’t get proper closure from her admitting it. You found her with another man, naked from the waist down after hearing sex sounds. Let her go and find someone else who won’t fuck your roommate. Best of luck to you my bro
You know what you heard and you know what you saw. She was cheating on you. In your own place. With your roommate. I’m disgusted for you. You absolutely did the right thing and there are better women out there.
Always go with your gut. Always. You owe her nothing. Your well being and peace of mind should be the most important thing to you.
How STUPID were they to bang in the living area downstairs instead of in the privacy of his room?
I am sorry. OP got up to sex sounds, goes downstairs to see gf naked from the waist down with roommate, goes to the bathroom and goes back to bed?
Was this all a dream?
Honestly, you handled this like a boss. Don’t look back, you knew and you were right. Best part is you didn’t give her the chance to lie to you about it.
Well you could have gotten evidence, but you saved your self alot of hassle. Now don’t go over there. If you live there, move out. Let it go, I doubt you were wrong. She is garbage for doing it alone, but with you in the house, its trash. I am sorry you went through that.
How do you come down stairs see that and do nothing?
You were happy with who you thought your ex-gf was not who she has shown herself to actually be.
Did she tried to argue about the break up?? Is she wandering why? I mean if she didn’t try to fight for you then she knows why you broken up with her. Don’t look back man, move out or ask your RM to move out if you have rights to the property.
Tomorrow we’ll be seeing each other, so I’ll confront her
You did the right thing to break up with her. It’s not a court house. You don’t need to confront her and lay out the evidence. Sometimes it’s better to just walk away.
You caught them. She knows why you dumped her. Cut it clean and move on
Reading shit like this scares the hell out of me and makes me never want to open my heart again lol