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Have you ever been in a situation where your partner is hesitant to come out to their parents about your relationship? It can be a challenging and emotional experience, especially when you feel like your partner is ashamed or embarrassed to be with you. In this article, we will explore the importance of communication, honesty, and acceptance in a relationship, along with some guidance on how to navigate these difficult conversations.
##Understanding the Situation
Before we dive into advice and tips on how to handle this delicate situation, let’s take a moment to understand where your fiancé, Jack, might be coming from. It’s essential to remember that everyone’s relationship with their parents is unique, and family dynamics can play a significant role in how comfortable someone feels about sharing their personal life.
– Jack’s parents were absent during his upbringing, but they have grown closer in recent years.
– They were supportive when he came out as bi but might still be adjusting to him dating men.
– He might have his reasons for not disclosing your relationship to them yet.
##Opening Up the Conversation
It’s essential to have a candid and respectful conversation with Jack about how his actions have made you feel. Here are some tips on how to approach this delicate topic:
1. Express Your Feelings: Start by sharing your emotions and concerns with Jack. Let him know how his behavior has impacted you and why it’s essential for you to be acknowledged as his partner.
2. Listen to His Perspective: Give Jack the space to explain his reasons for not disclosing your relationship to his parents. Listen attentively and try to understand where he is coming from.
3. Find Common Ground: Work together to find a solution that feels comfortable for both of you. It’s crucial to compromise and find a middle ground that respects both of your feelings and needs.
##Advice from Bhagavad Gita
In the Bhagavad Gita, Lord Krishna teaches the importance of duty and righteousness in relationships. It’s essential to prioritize honesty, respect, and communication in your partnership with Jack. While challenges may arise, staying true to your values and beliefs will guide you towards a fulfilling and harmonious relationship.
##Moving Forward
Remember that relationships require effort and understanding from both partners. It’s okay to seek support from a therapist or counselor to navigate through challenging times. Communication, patience, and empathy are key to overcoming obstacles and strengthening your bond with Jack.
In conclusion, confronting difficult situations in relationships can be daunting, but honest conversations and mutual understanding can pave the way for growth and connection. Remember to prioritize your emotional well-being and seek guidance when needed. You deserve to be in a loving and respectful relationship where both partners feel valued and accepted. Good luck on your journey towards healing and growth in your relationship with Jack.
As a guy with parents who were fuckin losers growing up I hate em and think they have no right to know wtf is going on in my life and try to avoid contact as much as possible been married for a few years now and they don’t know shit about it given your situation I’d assume it’s along similar lines
His parents are baby boomers, and I think there’s a greater percentage of that generation whom hold traditional ideas about marriage and relationships.
With that being said, even though he has come out to them as bisexual and even if they said they were accepting of it, they may not be. I think many parents can seem to be accepting when their child comes out, but the only true test of their acceptance is when they enter a relationship. It may be the case where they “accepted” him as bisexual, but your fiancé may have gotten the hint that wasn’t entirely the case, hence his presentation of you as his best friend. Not to mention that him being bisexual also would give them a glimpse of hope that he’d choose to be with a woman.
I would definitely talk with him about his real reasons for not disclosing your engagement to them. I think you should directly ask whether or not they would accept your relationship, because his coming out does not necessarily answer that as a yes.
You can’t carry on the relationship with him in secret, that’s just not realistic. If he truly loves you, he will tell them. Although it’s not easy, he’ll do it if he wants to spend his life with you.
Your fiancé might be trying to protect you from them. Specially if they have been estranged. You need to have a discussion with him about them, one where you aren’t assuming he is ashamed of you but rather that he might be ashamed of them. And even if he isn’t ashamed of them, they might be a threat to him and his chosen life. They aren’t automatically entitled to information about him or his life, specially if they have done something in the past that he had to be protected from.
I don’t think he’s ashamed of you or your family. He’s probably ashamed of what they will say to you or to him. I’m bi, my sister knows this. My close friends know this, some of my coworkers know this but my parents don’t.
My dad is very homophobic and even if I come out to my parents one day I wouldn’t want them to know if I was dating a woman as I’m afraid my dad would say something or do something bad to her.. I wouldn’t want to bring her around him but i also would never hide her from my family. Hiding your partner is painful to everyone.
Talk with your fiancé about this. He may have issues with his sexuality when it comes to his parents since it seems they are the only ones who he’s hiding you from. He needs to know that this behavior hurt you.
Dude, this is clearly about something between him and his parents that has nothing to do with you. Make him explain instead of obsessively guessing.
May I ask where is your childs mother? You never mentioned her.
Im guessing his parents are homophobic and hes never come out to them.
Has he told your sister?
It sounds like your fiancée is “grey rocking” his parents, which means he is intentionally not telling them important info about his life
There are MANY reasons that he would do this and none of them are because of you!
“Grey rocking” parents is usually because the parents currently are or previously were abusive, narcissistic, pessimistic, controlling, or some other mental health condition or personality disorder
Maybe his parents think his bi-sexuality is “just a phase” and wouldn’t be ok with him marrying a man or maybe his mom is one of those dramatic types that will take over all the wedding planning and drive him crazy!
You won’t know until you have an open and honest conversation with him!!
“Hey, I think we need to sit and talk. I was hurt that you didn’t tell your parents that we’re partners. Is there a reason for that?”
Could be any number of reasons. He may well feel as if his parents don’t “deserve” to know much about his life. You’ve only known them a short time, from an adult perspective. He’s known them his whole life. Abuse takes many forms, and neglect is one of them. A story that sounds relatively mundane to you isn’t necessarily the entire truth of the matter, especially when you factor in a child’s emotions. His parents may well be supportive, now. That doesn’t mitigate years of him feeling as if he didn’t matter to them. Talk to your partner. He’s the only one who has insight into his own thoughts and feelings. Sure, maybe he’s hiding things out of shame. He wouldn’t be the first, he won’t be the last to do so. And he might just be reverting to behavior he knows with his parents, to share as little information with them as possible. Talk, talk, talk. Love isn’t enough, and without communication, real communication, love will never survive.
This has everything to do with his relationship with his parents and nothing to do with his relationship with you…
It seems he isn’t free to be himself with his parents… and he doesn’t trust them…
Talk with him and get him to open up about their relationship… there seems to be more going on than he’s comfortable saying… maybe he’s trying to keep from them hurting you and possibly ruining what you have together…
He loves you or wouldn’t have proposed… he’s keeping parents out of your relationship for a reason… give him time and a chance to open up.. confirm to him you will be there and his parents won’t affect how much you love him..
Good luck to you both…
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> Jack’s parents came for a surprise visit on Sunday and are staying with his sister
Does his sister know?
> I know I need to talk to him about this, but I don’t know how to bring it up
“The fact that your parents don’t know we’re engaged, or even together, really surprised me and made me feel like you’re ashamed of our relationship in some way. Can you explain to me why you felt the need to hide your relationship status from your parents?”
Given the context of the situation, there’s many reasons why he would hide this from his parents that could have nothing to do with you or the way that he feels about you, but he still owes you an explanation and **the fact that he didn’t warn you ahead of time or explain his behavior after the fact is a massive red flag**.
Aw, I see why you’re hurt by that. Sorry
Fuck his dad