“What are some common annoyances from your female friends?”
#Friendship #Annoyances #FemaleFriends #PetPeeves
Annoying Habits
– Can you relate to when your friends talk too loudly on the phone in public places?
– Do your friends always leave their belongings all over your house when they come to visit?
Relationship Dynamics
– How do you feel when your female friends give unsolicited relationship advice?
– Is it frustrating when your friends cancel plans last minute without a valid reason?
Communication Challenges
– What irks you the most about your female friends constantly texting you during work hours?
– Have you ever dealt with friends who gossip too much and spread rumors?
Engage in the conversation and share your thoughts on the little things that may bother you about your female friends!
Ask me to be respectful when they ask me questions
Only ever talks about their boyfriend when they want to complain/vent, then can’t figure out why I don’t like the guy after only ever being told bad things about him.
Posted photos with me to make her boyfriend jealous.
They tend to try and cross the barrier for friendship.
You’ve met my wife.
Go on tinder or something.
Gossip.
If I can’t do or say anything around you because everything is passed along to friends, family and God knows who, then I might as well not bother.
I think for me the number on thing is validation seeking. Especially on social media. “Bad hair day….” NO GIRL! You put on load of makeup before you took that shot.
Act flirty or dumb when asking me for a favor
Get bitchy with wait staff.
I have a coworker friend who always finds a way to make whatever topic that is being discussed about her. I just had a son and with that comes sleep deprivation. When I came back from paternity leave I was discussing newborns with some other coworkers she joins in and goes, “Oh my god, I can’t imagine how much sleep you’re getting. Or not getting, ha! I feel that. My puppy wakes me up whenever she wants in the middle of the night. It’s so tiring. I’m basically a parent too!” Thank the lord I was too tired to care then.
Date terrible people and then take months to break up after I lay out any future red flags the guy will definitely express.
“I can’t believe he’s not ready for real commitment”
I told you that 5 minutes after I first met him 3 months ago
“I just thought he was different”
“I’m a Feminist until it doesn’t benefit me.”
That was from a conversation in which some of my female friends were talking about moving furniture.
Invalidation and beimg unhelpful. Generally I have found that trying to find emotional safety with female friends where they have already found it with me tends to lead to them arguing about my realities and experiences, basically claiming that they’re untrue or just ‘deal with it’. When they’ve asked how they can help, I’ve given them straight forward, reasonable ways to which they agree to do…. then never do… then when asked why, try to throw their shame on me
Insist that your mess is clutter but their mess is both strategically organized and necessary.
Asks for advice but doesn’t seem to hear anything coming out my mouth
1. When they make everything about them.
2. Ask for advice then don’t take it.
3. Only talks about boys
Chastise me for occasionally objectifying women, only to then spend an entire taxi ride telling each other (with me there in the taxi) how one particular hot guy who was there that night would “definitely get it”
e: Another one, who has sex with other women as well as men literally said, when talking about a woman from the past: “She had really nice tits!” lol
Complain to me about men/their significant other. Especially the friends I’ve known for a long time.
Like, girl, I know you, and he’s not wrong.
Man-bashing in my presence, I don’t need have to deal with it much these days. But it’s always a sad reminder of how they might think of you.
Complain to me about how they “cant find a good guy” or how “there arent any good single men out there” like.. i get the sentiment, dating is hard, and yea a lot of men are pretty shit, I understand the need to vet about this too. But i guarantee its harder for me than it is for any of the women whove said this to me though, i think most women are blissfully unaware of their privileged position in dating – i just don’t complain about it to them. Also, they know im single and they say stuff like “all single men are trash” to my face.. umm ouch?? I know they dont mean me, but that technically does include me and it’s annoying to be “blamed” indirectly for the state of dating when im not the problem. Im not even that bad, im educated, employed, i workout, i have hobbies, im an artist, im into fashion, im hygienic, people say im sociable and outgoing. Im also not a complete douche. On paper I shouldnt have a problem, right? but in reality i have one thing working against me, which is just that i have a kinda ugly face, and that one thing alone is enough to make it near impossible to even get a date. Thats just how it is. My point here is that my women friends are complaining about the taste of their wine to someone who is dying of thirst, and they dont even realise how out of touch it looks from my pov.
One of them that I talk to go has a terrible streak with men, Im talking like in the year I’ve been with my gf, she’s been with 5 different guys. I even tell her to date women cuz damn
She goes after guys that are literally a red flag (string her along, dont put in too much effort, POS guy, etc) and then gets upset when I tell her “You need therapy, not a relationship”. She agrees with me that she has terrible taste in men
And its the same result every time : she goes for a guy –> it seems to go well –> doesnt work out –> she cuts herself over it –> meets a new guy like a week or 2 later –> rinse and repeat
Overall, her going for obvious red flags is what that annoys me
The moment you’re honest and direct, you automatically become a bad guy.
Openly make sexist comments about men. It’s different when it’s on the other foot, and even then I’m not immature enough to think my experience with the opposite sex is perfectly representative.
What especially sucks is that these particular friends know I got nominated for a few awards for undergrad papers in gender studies. I know the issues being faced in terms of gender differences. Why are you complaining to me about men, but give a sour look when I make a joke about women?
Call me. Talk for 20 minutes about their day. Non stop. Then when they’re done, they ask if I am ok and when I start answering how my day went, they end the conversation or dismiss what I’m saying anyway.
Being ask-holes (asking for advice or an opinion then doing the exact opposite even though it’ll end up terribly,) blanket and total man bashing, bitching about men objectifying them but turning right around and saying things like “that guy’s a total daddy, he could get it,” double standards, and the inability to pick a goddamned restaurant.
The line separating friendship and something more is clearly delineated and enforced by them presuming that the guy will eventually try and cross that line. While this might be true at some level, women always seem to blur that line when it suits them. When in need of favors or help with something, the friends I’ve had tended to act too friendly and borderline flirty. When they feel attention-starved, they’ll do the same but expect me to be like a BF placeholder, oversharing personal information, asking about personal information of my own and even acting jealous in some situations. On top of all of that, whatever remains of any female friendship, either what I described above or an actual good friendship, simply dies as soon as she starts dating someone else.
A minor thing: they’re lousy at giving advice, specially regarding dating.
Validation Seeking, Need to expand further?
They ask how we are doing, then immediately take over the conversation and make it about them.
Acting like i’m their non-romantic boyfriend
When they ask for advice, do the exact opposite and then cry to me when it turns out badly. Look, I understand I don’t have the best advice, I don’t have all the answers. But when your boyfriend beats the shit out of you, I tell you to file a restraining order at the minimum and you decide to take him back, you’re the fool
For me it is the disappearing for extended periods of time when they get gf/bf then show up when shit goes sour with their S/O.
Expect girlfriend benefits without providing anything in return.
The endless men are trash conversations. One of my friends is dating trying to find a husband right now and every time we are together it’s inevitable they shit on whatever dude she’s dating. Like she’s perfect in every way and everything he does is wrong.
Yet the second I say the last date I went on was a disaster because the girl was simultaneously boring and dumpster fire as well as 40 pounds heavier than her pictures, I’m a massive asshole because I should just accept her how she is, she had “courage” to go on the date with me and I should be happy they are even there.
I hate how you can criticize women at all for anything at any time or you’re a massive misogynistic asshole who hates women.
Damn, I need to check on my guy friends more, this shit sounds horrible. How many times have I done shit like that damn.
God that sucks.
Talks about abusive ex.
Goes back to him.
Talks about abusive ex.
Makes up with the prick for the umpteenth time in a row.
Abuser starts drinking again.
Abuser starts abusing her. Again.
Leaves abusive ex yet again just to repeat the cycle again because the fat fuck just knows what buttons to press in order to win her over again.
Ladies, y’all have got to break these goddamned cycles at some fucking point. Too many of y’all have died trying already. Burn the boats. Burn the bridges. Cut these terrible guys out of your lives. Y’all genuinely deserve better. Hell, make a plan with allies if needed.
Never admitting they could have made a mistake. It is so stereotypical and i loathe it.
You’re a man so you should pay for everything. Chivalry blah blah blah.
Now I don’t have any female friends. My life has been peaceful.
This has been a hard one for me: female friends that only want you around when they need something heavy moved, some handyman task done, or when a boy breaks their heart.
Those are all great things to do for someone that is your friend, but when they ignore your texts or plan stuff without you, it sucks.
It’s been hard recently, but I’ve really started to cut off women that do that.
There was one recently where I had gone out with this girl a few times and she ended up not seeming interested. Totally cool. She kind of just stopped responding to texts and invitations to do things. Also fine. I had helped her fix her car at some point.
So, two months go by. No word from the girl. I’m not new to the dating world, so I just move on and feel a little sad that there wasn’t much closure. Then, one day, she texts me. Her car is dead on the side of the road and she doesn’t know who to call. I sat there for probably 5min debating whether I should just ignore it. She’s not destitute and it was a nice day and she was in a nice part of town. I finally decided to go help her mostly out of curiosity to see if she’d try to apologize or come up with some reason.
Nope. I mean, she said thank you and. We got her running well enough to get her to a mechanic. I texted her a few days later to ask how she was and if they’d fixed her car. No response. It’s been about two months since.
That kind of thing used to happen a LOT. I’m pretty good with cars, home repairs, and just listening. For my own sanity, female “friends” that don’t reciprocate get the boot. 😂
Make stupid dating decisions. No Cindy, he’s not scared to commit, he just doesn’t like you and wants consistent sex