#StrugglingWithLowIQ #FeelingLost #MentalHealthJourney
Hey there, brave soul! 🌟 Have you ever felt like you just don’t measure up intellectually? It can be tough navigating a world that seems to move at a quicker pace than you do. But remember, you’re not alone in your feelings of inadequacy. There are plenty of individuals out there who share similar struggles. Here’s a few thoughts to consider:
– Have you ever considered seeking out a professional evaluation or assessment for your IQ? It might provide some valuable insights into your cognitive abilities and offer a starting point for addressing any challenges.
– Embrace the idea of self-improvement and personal growth. It’s never too late to learn new skills and develop your strengths, whatever they may be.
– Remember that intelligence comes in many forms – academic success isn’t the only measure of a person’s worth. You have unique qualities and talents that make you special.
– Surround yourself with supportive individuals who uplift and encourage you. Building a strong social network can make a world of difference in boosting your self-esteem and confidence.
– Consider seeking therapy or counseling to work through any deep-seated insecurities and negative thought patterns. A mental health professional can provide tools and strategies to help you navigate your journey towards self-acceptance.
Remember, your journey towards self-discovery and growth is a personal one. Take it one step at a time and be kind to yourself along the way. You are deserving of love and acceptance, no matter where you are on your path. 🌱💕
Feel free to share your thoughts and experiences below! Let’s support each other on this challenging yet rewarding journey of self-discovery. 🌈 #YouAreNotAlone
The only way to know is to get tested.
That doesn’t define who you are. Plenty of successful people didn’t excel in school or have a clear path early on. The most important thing is finding what you’re passionate about and going for it.
Let me tell you something, those people around you were projecting their inadequacy onto you. No one is going to constantly attack you, unless they are able to see potential in you. Now you eventually believed in their lives and now you do not think highly of yourself. If you believe in this, then you will obviously generate the same results.
Just because you feel dumb, does not mean you are dumb. Just because you had no career aspirations and dreams, does not mean you are dumb. it sounds like you were neglected in someway.
I mean your own dad called you dumb because you expressed vulnerability. You needed help understanding the material and he put you down for that, when he was supposed to support you. In a sense because of that, you may feel betrayed that your own father have put you down. He hurt you and it is affecting you.
Remember, people only attack when they see potential in you. Jealousy is way more common than you may think, never underestimate it… Just because you can not see your potential, does not mean that others are not able to see it.
“The real me is a stupid, slow man with very little value.”
What ever gave you that confirmation? When someone likes you, they do not care about that because they accept you for who you are, the real you. Just because you have a negative belief and image of yourself, does not mean that the people who want to be around you, thinks ill of you.
You have issues with self-blame….
When has blaming yourself ever worked out well for you? Why do you blame yourself and attack yourself from every angle?
If a stranger, or your friend was physically attacking you. Would you allow them to continue to beat you down? Or would you run for safety, or try to defend yourself?
Blaming yourself and poking at all your insecurities is not seeking solutions. What is the solution to the situation you are in? How will you get out of this rut? When you focus on THE SOLUTION; then you will have less time to allow these negative perceptions of yourself to cloud your judgement and be able to function more in life.
It may be true, but I have personally witnessed a relative who was diagnosed with a learning disability actually improve and expand her intelligence. She just studied, worked hard, and to me this is evidence of neuroplasticity.
Is IQ fixed? I don’t know. Don’t place too much importance on IQ. There are so many variations of intelligence thankfully.
What changes do you need to make to value yourself? What changes or things can you join to begin interacting with others? What can you do with what you have to begin to show integrity with what you have! Wake up early, clean/organize what you have. Where can you volunteer your time to give back and build value in yourself?
The fact that you were able to express your thoughts and feelings in such a clear structured way, shows that you’re not dumb at all. Your abilities to reflect on your past life including your social environment indicates your intelligence. IQ is not the cause of your trouble. Find your strengths, focus on them. Get help, find a therapist. Good luck
Don’t push potential friends away. Everyone has something embarrassing about themselves. You could be the most perfect person on the planet and people will still find a way to annoy you. Loneliness is definitely having a negative impact on your self worth. When you’re depressed, it is hard to be curious. Just like how it is hard to for a beggar to be charitable. Your mind is starved for friendship, self respect, purpose and other basic emotional needs.
From career perspective, I would recommend looking into jobs that need humans and can’t be automated. For example: Pet care provider, Barber, Lawn Care provider. These jobs pay well.
Don’t compare yourself to those that are better off than you. Comparison is the thief of job. Almost nobody in your age group has life figured out. People with reportedly high IQs also have struggles in life. It’s difficult for them to fall in love for instance OR they find it depressing that they know how to solve problems but are too powerless to do so. The man with the highest IQ in South Korea committed suicide because he could not live to his country’s expectations.
For money, I recommend postponing buying things. Put things you want to buy on a shopping list and purchase if you still need it after a week. If it’s expensive, after a month. This will help you eliminate impulsive purchases. This obviously does not apply to food.
If you believe you have a mental disability, consult a doctor. They can teach you ways to better manage that disability and work with your strengths. If healthcare is not accessible, ask ChatGPT.
My experience is that brain is like a muscle – if you don’t train it, it becomes weaker. Constantly telling yourself you’re stupid, will only make things worse. Some people have far worse mental disabilities than you. Think about how lucky you are compared to them.
You’ve had a lot of “evidence” from other people about why you shouldn’t be cheerful or confident, the stutter maybe made it hard to socialise in school, your parents/teachers talking you down, etc. Now you have a confidence issue to overcome, it can be done.
Even if you have low IQ which I doubt given your level of self awareness, for the most part life is easier when you are cheerful. And if life is easy then you win more, giving confidence which makes you cheerful. It’s a bit of a cycle.
My advice is to pick up a sport. The cardio will help your mental state both in terms of mood and mental clarity, and the gradual progress will give you real proof that you are not useless. You’ll suck at first, but approach it from the point of view that you’re training for mental health benefits not for the sport itself.
A lot of guys start out lifting weights which can be good if you’re in a dark place but I think cardio is a big deal for depressed people. Also one that gives you opportunities to briefly practice social skills, something like crossfit, F45, kickboxing, etc.
Someone with a low IQ probably wouldn’t write as much as you just did, nor do they use three-syllable words. Give yourself more credit.
If you have time, ask your primary care provider to refer you to a psychiatrist or developmental neurologist so you can be evaluated and your IQ be tested. You may need a unifying diagnosis. Good luck and have faith you’ll resolve your issue.
You certainly don’t have the grammar of a slow or undereducated person. Your grasp of English language and usage is perfectly fine. You’re probably closer to average than you think.
Sounds like therapy could help you a lot.
Wow, this is so similar to myself that it’s almost scary. I’m 26, and i can relate to a lot of things you said, but I don’t think I’m unintelligent. Me personally I feel like I’ve had a learning disability and high functioning autism my whole life but I grew up in a neglectful household so I never was able to get diagnosed or help and it affected me academically and personally a lot. Maybe you just have a disability which doesn’t mean you’re stupid it just means you learn differently, and you may not have had the help you needed to thrive. Either way, I hope things get better and I’ll be your friend if you want!
Maybe because no one explained anything to you, most of the time it’s just comprehensive issue more then anything else. Learn more and you’ll get a better iq
Go get tested, OP. You don’t have a low IQ- but you may have a learning disability.
Should’ve caught it in primary school, but the next best time to figure that out is now.