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Are you struggling with the dilemma of sharing a dog with your ex-partner, but no longer wanting them in your life? 🐕 It can be a challenging and emotionally draining situation to navigate, especially when your furry friend is caught in the middle. But fear not, there are practical solutions to help you find clarity and peace of mind in this complicated scenario.
The Problem:
You and your ex-partner share a Great Dane, with her name on the dog’s papers, but you bear the majority of the responsibilities and costs associated with his care. You no longer want your ex in your life, but are conflicted about how to proceed while ensuring the well-being of your beloved pet.
Solutions:
1. Seek Mediation:
Consider involving a neutral third party, such as a mediator or counselor, to facilitate a discussion between you and your ex-partner regarding the future care and custody of the dog. This can help establish clear boundaries and expectations moving forward.
2. Create a Co-Parenting Agreement:
Develop a detailed co-parenting agreement outlining the roles, responsibilities, and financial obligations of each party regarding the care of the dog. This can help provide structure and minimize conflicts in the future.
3. Consider Legal Options:
If communication with your ex-partner becomes contentious or unproductive, consult with a legal professional to explore your rights and options in terms of ownership and custody of the dog. Legal intervention may be necessary to resolve the situation amicably.
4. Prioritize the Dog’s Well-Being:
Ultimately, the focus should always be on the best interests of the dog. Ensure that his physical and emotional needs are being met, regardless of the challenges you face with your ex-partner. Remember that he relies on you both for love, care, and stability.
In conclusion, navigating a shared dog with an ex-partner can be a challenging and complex process. However, by approaching the situation with empathy, communication, and a focus on the well-being of your furry companion, you can find a resolution that works for everyone involved. Remember, it’s okay to seek support and guidance to help you navigate this difficult time. Stay strong, and prioritize the happiness and health of your beloved dog. 🐾 #DogParenting #ComplicatedRelationships #FindingPeace
While the dog is a living being and you both love him, legally here it’s a coffee table. You don’t need to let her have visitation with the coffee table, you don’t need to talk to her about the coffee table, or anything.
If she wants to sue she’d be able to recover half the current monetary value of the dog.
The dog is property not a child.
Legally property is determined by possession. You have had his dog at your house for years.
Get it licensed with your own vet. Maybe get that chip id.
Keep paperwork of all vet and license payments.
Tell her she can’t come to your house anymore. You and your parents will consider it trespassing.
NAL. Dogs are considered property. However. Not just the initial paperwork matters. Who is on the microchip? What address? Who is on the vet paperwork? What address? If your name, address and phone number are on any of those plus with proof of paying for the dog? The dog is yours. Remove her and stop contact.
I had “custody” and all paperwork and financials on a dog that my ex would randomly pop up and want to see. I did it a few times and realized it wasn’t working for me or the dog. I didn’t want the ex in my space. The dog had anxiety being away from our home. I just stopped responding.
Possession is 9/10 of the law. Your dog, although feels like a family member, is property. You can cease all contact with your ex and she can 1. Get over it (which she most likely will) 2. Sue you in small claims court to get “her” property back and most likely lose. Stop having her pay for anything related to the dog
NAL and It might be a bit of a process but one way you could go about it is by getting everything set up in your name now and letting some time pass. Get a vet that recognizes you as the owner if your current one doesn’t. If he’s not microchipped, get it done with your information. Stop letting her pay for any daycare.
Keep all the future receipts showing that you alone pay for the vet and you should put together your previous receipts from the current vet even if you do end up finding a new one. Keep receipts when you buy food and toys. Make sure you get receipts when you pay for the doggy daycare too. You want to establish sole ownership over the dog if the time comes that you need to sever ties via court or police.
Don’t know where you live, but if your local community has a dog license and registry, put your dog on it. Stop taking any compensation/sharing expenses with her. Document the vet, and all the costs and document the time that the dog is with you. Zelle/cashapp/venmo …. whatever her some money and put “payment for dog” in the memo, then cancel or block her on all the payment apps so she cannot return any money. Change your number.
Register the dog with your state and microchip him, in a lot of states, he is legally already considered yours. Vet bills in your name? Yours. A majority of service fees in your name and money? he’s yours.
Find out what the rules and regulations in your state or country are for joint pet ownership or full ownership of a pet. I know in mine, if you have a dog or cat, *any* dog or cat, for more than five days with no owner coming to claim them within that time span, it is legally your pet. It’s also true that in my state, if you pay for the dog’s vet bills and care yourself, the animal is yours, no matter who’s the owner on paperwork, because you’re the one paying for it’s wellbeing and upkeep.
Your states/countries rules are obviously going to be different, but, there are things you can do to officially make him solely your pet and claim ownership. A big thing in many places is the fact that he *lives* with you. Meaning you *are* his owner, rightfully. I’d honestly suggest calling around and asking about pet laws, do some research without telling her about it, and see what you can do
Here’s what I’d do.
Legally, the dog is property. You need to make sure you can prove he is YOUR property in the eyes of the law.
Make sure the papers for him are all in your name. Get him chipped. Get together a reem of evidence proving you’ve been paying the expenses and taking care of him.
Send her a message saying that he’s your dog, you’re keeping him. Send her back the money she paid for him. Tell her this is how it’s going to be and not to contact you again. Block her. If she shows up at your place, call the police and tresspass her.
Invest in some cameras because if you leave him outside she might try to come and steal him and getting him back from her will be a nightmare.
That’s it. Do the right thing by her by paying her back, detach completely, enjoy your new life, deal with any aggression that comes up politely and legally.
Good luck.
If you have “owned” the dog since 2019 and been paying more than 55% of the bills then legally the dog belongs to you. You have invested time, money, and emotion into this dog since 2019 no judge is going to make you give the dog up without that money being recouped at the minimum