#VirginSex #SexualPleasure #VirginityMyths #SexualExpectations #SexualExperience
🤔 I know this is a funny question, lol, but it’s one that many people have wondered about. The idea that virgins overestimate how pleasurable sex is and are usually disappointed is a common belief, but is there any truth to it? Let’s dive into the topic and explore the myths and realities surrounding virginity and sexual pleasure.
## What are the common misconceptions about virginity and sex?
When it comes to virginity and sexual pleasure, there are several misconceptions that contribute to the idea that virgins overestimate the pleasure of sex. Some of these misconceptions include:
1. Media portrayal: Many movies, TV shows, and books depict sex as an incredibly pleasurable and fulfilling experience. This portrayal can create unrealistic expectations for virgins who have yet to experience it themselves.
2. Lack of education: Sex education in many parts of the world is lacking or outdated. This can lead to misconceptions about what to expect from sex, especially for those who have not yet had the opportunity to learn about it in a comprehensive and accurate manner.
3. Pressure to perform: There is often societal pressure for individuals to have a positive and pleasurable sexual experience. This pressure can lead to anxiety and unrealistic expectations, particularly for those who are about to have sex for the first time.
## The reality of sexual pleasure for virgins
Contrary to the common belief that virgins overestimate the pleasure of sex, the reality is much more complex. Here are some important points to consider:
1. Individual experiences vary: Just like with any other aspect of life, individual experiences with sex and sexual pleasure vary greatly. Not all virgins have unrealistic expectations, and not all of them are disappointed with their first sexual experience.
2. Communication is key: The level of communication between sexual partners can greatly impact the pleasure of the experience. Open and honest communication can help ensure that both partners’ needs and desires are met, regardless of their level of sexual experience.
3. Pleasure takes time: For many people, sexual pleasure is something that develops and improves over time. It’s important to remember that the first sexual experience is just that – a first experience. With time, practice, and communication, sexual pleasure can become more fulfilling for individuals, regardless of their virginity status.
## Managing expectations and promoting realistic attitudes towards sex
Instead of perpetuating the myths and misconceptions about virginity and sexual pleasure, it’s important to promote a more realistic and open-minded attitude towards sex. Here are some tips for managing expectations and promoting a healthy approach to sex:
1. Educate and communicate: Providing comprehensive and accurate sex education can help dispel myths and misconceptions about sex. Encouraging open communication between sexual partners can also help ensure that both parties have realistic expectations and a positive experience.
2. Empower individuals: It’s important to empower individuals to make their own decisions about their sexual experiences. By promoting autonomy and informed decision-making, we can help individuals approach sex with a more realistic and empowered mindset.
3. Destigmatize virginity: Virginity is a social construct that holds different meanings for different people. By destigmatizing virginity and acknowledging that everyone’s sexual journey is unique, we can help reduce the pressure and expectations surrounding the first sexual experience.
In conclusion, while the idea that virgins overestimate the pleasure of sex is a common belief, the reality is much more nuanced. By promoting education, communication, and realistic attitudes towards sex, we can help individuals have more positive and fulfilling sexual experiences, regardless of their virginity status. So, let’s continue to have open and honest conversations about sex and pleasure, and support each other in creating a more positive and empowered sexual culture.
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Yeah it’s not like a porno lol
Sex is largely reflective of those involved, assuming those involved experience sex in a relatively ‘typical’ manner.
Shit sex is shit sex, good sex is good sex.
Sex to me isn’t life changingly good, but it’s enjoyable to when it’s good.
The emotional connection with another is the lingering positivity for me, more so than circumstantial sex
They do get disappointed because it’s not this magic revelation they make it out to be.
Then they find a partner they click with and discover it’s a magic revelation that’s totally awesome.
It’s not about how pleasurable it actually is, it’s about how sex takes practice and knowing what your partner likes to make it that pleasurable. It’s not something anyone gets right on the first try
Kinda. The first time is often very awkward and even painful. There is a social ideal about how the first time has to be “perfect” etc. If you start riding a bike, or skiing or something, do you think the first time will be the best? Nah, you have to practice. It’s kinda similar with sex. It gets better the more you give it
I was. Remember when it happened, the first joke I made was about how much more complicated and anxiety-inducing it was than just jerking off, and how it didn’t really feel much better. Connection was nice and it felt nice making her cum and paying attention to her, but I generally just felt like a disappointment.
My case. Yes
Yes i was disappointed. Its nice but not the all mighty heaven its made out to be.
Bruh I ain’t gonna lie it was magical for me shit felt like I was getting a really warm hug from somebody I loved a great deal I don’t think I can replicate that feeling ever again lol.
Sex isn’t over estimated in its pleasure, people’s partners suck and don’t make sure they also enjoy the occasion. Sex should be one of the best feelings you will ever feel, for both parties involved, or you are doing it wrong.
My first time was pretty disappointing, but it was also spur of the moment on a hill in the woods. It’s like any cooperative game— it gets more fun if you know what you’re doing.
Probably. But wouldn’t it be even more awkward to fall hard for the one they gave their virginity to? I wonder if that ever happens outside of romance stories.
Not counting those who married their first lover.
Yesss, I was curious and excited but then after I was like 😐
The first time (or few times) is going to kind of suck. Luke all things in life, though, it takes practice, and once you figure out how to do it right, it’s pretty good for 20-30 years. After that you kind of get over it. I mean, you’ll still have it if it happens, but you stop going out of your way to seek it out.
Didn’t know it’d be that much work
I think it can be. You build up the idea of up in your head, and when the time comes, it not as good as you’d imagined. However I think that I’d you’re a virgin and your partner is quite experienced, it wouldn’t be as big of a let down.
I can see a woman feeling that way about her first time because it probably hurts, they have to deal with their hymen, and young guys don’t last very long. As a man, I certainly didn’t think it was overrated.
No
The first time is almost always awkward and over too quickly. It takes practice to become good at it and really enjoy it.
Not to hijack OP’s Q, but how painful/uncomfortable IS the first time for a female?
It was for me
I was HORRIBLY underwhelmed when I lost my virginity to a girl in high school.
Turns out I just really liked men 🤷♂️
They put the pussy on a pedestal.
for me, there is now way POSSIBLE to OVER-estimate how pleasureable sex is.
i was one horny little [age 11] individual, used to read my dads penthouse forums and rub one out to his penthouses, Eros, Club, Hustler, etc … [Club was my fav]. i do think however that knowing as much about sex from magazines made me VERY shy, hence…
my first time with my girlfriend [i was 19], i mean, when youve never had it and you imagine what it will be like and then you have it, it was fukkin amazing.
ive only ever been disappointed [as a guy], once.
It felt as wonderful as I thought it would feel.
It’s one of those things that gets hyped up so much that as a young 15 year old you think will have you walking away a completely new person with a refined, mature eye on the intricacies of life.
Naw you feel exactly the same and walk around going “wow this is the first time I played cod while not a virgin” and “wow this is the first I’ve eaten arby’s not a virgin”
Same thing happens when you graduate lol
Depends on the person. I definitely was because my first time was without a lot of important information I needed as a gay guy. Even though it wasn’t super fun, it was still fun, and it’s way more fun now I know what I’m doing and what I like.
I actually estimated pretty well on how pleasurable sex is once I got married.
I don’t know..
it was really magical for me the very first time also a bit traumatic in the way it happened though.
then it sparked my interest in porn when I got online at 10…
They overestimate it because they underestimate how much they’ll suck at it the first, I dunno, dozen times or so.
[Survey](https://www.multivu.com/players/English/8528451-tenga-unveils-2019-self-pleasure-report/docs/Full2019Report_1557144644685-1929663640.pdf) shows that more than half of respondants rate sex no better than masturbation. So yes, many people will be disappointed.
This was pretty much my experience
Neh. I thoroughly enjoyed my first time with my wife.
Depends on how old they are I’d guess. If they’re like up to 30+ I’d guarentee they have very high or weird expectations. My sister was seeing this guy that was a virgin in his late 30’s, and he had such weird ideals about sex she had to oink like a pig to turn him on because of the weird fetishes he developed. Meanwhile, I took my current boyfriends virginity at 20, and he was extremely vanilla and came in no exaggeration 1 second. He still cums unfortunately extremely fast even after 2 years, so I don’t think he had extremely high expectations and enjoys it a lot every time
i did. lmao
Depends. I personally have loved it. I’d admit I was disappointed about all of the romanticization I associated with it, but overall it’s better than I could have ever expected. How physically pleasurable it is, is like nothing else I’ve ever experienced. I’d put intimate sex as top 1 of my things to keep on living.
I really doubt it. It’s pretty damn pleasurable. That being said, it’s a lot messier and more “yucky” than one might think
It was for me, cuz I was expecting it to be exactly like porn. Boy was I wrong. But with the right partner, it clicked and became very pleasurable
Some, but not most. Most people are just disappointing because losing your virginity is bound to be an awkward experience, jerking off is better than awkward sex and virgins tend to know a lot about masturbation. Actually having good sex, specially with someone you’re really attracted to and who you really like is great, love is great. But then again that too can be ruined by age and “awkward” experiences.
I’m still a virgin at 26, and I feel this. One of my friends (non-virgin) explained that it’s not really a significant change to you or your social status, it’s just all in your head. I’ve had a few chances to sleep with people, who I didn’t know keep in mind, and I turned them down. Partially because I kind of have high standards for the kind of girl I’m looking for ngl, but also because I don’t want to be one of those really awkward people who loses their virginity to some stranger I met in a club or wherever, and doesn’t know what to do. When if I know someone who I could practice with, then it would be easier if you know what I mean.
I think the sweet spot is to be a late bloomer, but not to the point it’s pathetic. I matured enough to realize it wasn’t the end all be all by the time I lost the V card at 21.
Yes, well. At least the first time.
When I was a teenager I thought it would be reasonable to expect something in between a passionate sex scene you see in movies and the raw energy and excitement of porn.
Turns out it’s much more awkward. Like going to the dentist naked… only to discover that the dentist is also just a naked teenager who thinks YOU’RE the dentist and expects you to know how to preform this procedure.
Edit: But with time you’ll get better at it and if you find the right partner it’s as amazing as you hoped for.
I know anecdotally that wasn’t the case for me. Lost my virginity in high school to my best friend instead of doing our AP World History final. It ruled and afterwards we made Mac and cheese together. 10/10 experience.
No. Nah, man. Fuck nah, man. I believe you’d get your ass kicked for saying something like that, man.
Broadly speaking, straight women are disappointed because straight men are not very good at sex, period. The kind of nonsense that straight women are conditioned to tolerate (pain, lack of pleasure, etc) doesn’t help.
Definitely. But this is not surprising. Most people who don’t know what something is like will over or underestimate it. And since the Western world makes literally EVERYTHING about sex, it shouldn’t come as a surprise that virgins would overthink it. Sad and pathetic, if you ask me.
Changed my tune once a found a girl fucking like her life depended on it, then it became so fun