#LifeComparison #SuccessAnxiety #FindingPurpose
Do you ever feel like you’re falling behind when you see your friends and peers achieving big things while you’re still figuring things out? 🤔 It’s so easy to get caught up in comparing ourselves to others, but remember, everyone’s journey is unique. You are exactly where you need to be at this moment.
Here’s some valuable advice to help you navigate through this challenging time:
– Reflect on your passions and interests to identify what truly excites you. 🌟
– Consider seeking guidance from a career counselor or mentor who can help you explore different paths. 👩💼
– Take small steps towards your goals, whether it’s enrolling in a course, attending workshops, or gaining experience through internships. 📚
– Remember, success is defined differently for everyone. Set realistic goals based on your own values and aspirations. 💪
Instead of feeling ashamed or comparing yourself to others, focus on your own journey and celebrate your own accomplishments, big or small. You are capable of achieving great things in your own time and in your own way. Keep moving forward and trust the process! 🌷
“Comparison is the thief of joy”
Yes, but I remind myself that everyone’s path is different and I shouldn’t compare myself.
Also thinking about how life just happens sometimes. Some people get their masters, have a high paying iob, and then get fired. A spouse dies and it’s hard to take care of the kids. Life is going great and then you have a mental illness at 46. You could have everything and then be robbed. You could be dirt poor for years and then win the lottery. Make great money for years, have a physical illness and be in debt from medical bills.
It’s so hard for me to not be ashamed sometimes, but I try to stay positive and focus on me and bettering myself. If someone is your friend, they won’t shame you for where you’re at. I encourage you to challenge yourself not to compare. Best of luck to you!
I used to feel that way after undergrad when my friends were getting married and buying starter homes but fast forward and they are struggling with coparenting and dividing assets and I just got married and bought a house so don’t compare yourself to anyone but your former self
Think I’m a prime example of this. I obtained a Masters in Business and now my peers are either half way around the world, starting a business or working their way up the corporate ladder while I’m working a minimum wage job (I might as well be a fast food worker). But I don’t feel that bad. And this is why.
One of my peers from Business School, let’s call him Fred is extremely entrepreneurial. Everyone thought he was mad in school, some of the ideas he came up with sounded crazy. I spoke to Fred on the phone the other day, he tells me his new business made him 25k last month. I look up to Fred and he makes me feel bad about essentially wasting my potential being a bum even though I have a degree.
Well here’s the clincher, I also had news of a childhood friend of mine through my mother the other day. We grew up in the same village, he’s seen some of my travels and where I’m working now (abroad) while he works in his uncle’s abattoir in our hometown. He told my mother how happy he was for me for being able to CHOOSE a minimum wage job thanks to my degree rather than HAVING to have one, like him.
So just remember. We’re all somebody’s Fred.
No ill have something most will never have. Enough 🙏😊
Sometimes kind of, but not in a way that I would think. I left a doctorate program a couple years ago due to circumstances that were largely beyond my control. I thought that if I felt anything resembling envy it would be towards my peers who were able to complete what I wasn’t able to. However, I really don’t feel that way at all, and am generally happy for them.
What I do sometimes feel envious about, for lack of a better term, are people who were smart enough to not pursue a doctorate and instead found a good paying career much earlier on, because now I don’t know what the hell I want to do and the skill set I worked hard to get over the past decade generally doesn’t pay way, and my experiences in graduate school have sort of lead me to hate the kind of work that I do.