#virginity #sexuality #relationshipadvice #intimacy #dating #selfworth #casualsex
🤔 Will men sleep with an older virgin? This is a question that many individuals may ponder at some point in their lives. As a 27-year-old woman about to turn 28, the pressure to lose your virginity may feel overwhelming. But it’s important to remember that your worth is not determined by your sexual experience or lack thereof.
Here are a few things to consider and some insights to hopefully bring some clarity to your situation.
### Understanding Your Worth and Sexual Experience
It’s crucial to recognize that your virginity is not a stain or a burden. Your value as a person is not defined by whether or not you’ve had sexual experiences. Everyone’s journey with intimacy and relationships is unique, and it’s okay to take your time and wait until you feel ready.
### Seeking a Meaningful Connection
You mentioned that you’ve always wanted to lose your virginity with a boyfriend. This desire for a meaningful and emotionally connected experience is completely valid. It’s important to prioritize your emotional and physical comfort when considering intimate relationships.
### Exploring Casual Relationships
While you may have initially envisioned losing your virginity in a committed relationship, you’re beginning to understand your physical needs for pleasure and companionship. If the idea of exploring casual relationships feels right for you, it’s important to approach it with careful consideration and clear communication with potential partners.
### Avoiding Desperation and Unhealthy Choices
Feeling undesirable or inexperienced can lead to thoughts of extreme measures, such as selling your virginity or engaging with married individuals. It’s essential to step back and recognize that these actions are not the solution. Your worth and dignity are far more valuable than any temporary validation from others.
### Honoring Your Boundaries
It’s clear that you’ve encountered individuals who didn’t respect your limits or comfort. This is not a reflection of your desirability or worth. Setting and enforcing your boundaries is essential in any relationship, regardless of your level of experience.
### Seeking Support and Guidance
It’s evident that you’re grappling with complex emotions and uncertainties about your sexual journey. Consider seeking support from a trusted friend, family member, or professional therapist. Having a safe space to process your feelings and receive guidance can be incredibly beneficial.
### Embracing Self-Discovery
Ultimately, your sexual journey is a deeply personal and individual experience. Take the time to explore and understand your desires, preferences, and boundaries. Embracing self-discovery and empowerment can lead to more fulfilling and satisfying relationships in the future.
In conclusion, it’s important to remember that your worth is not contingent on your sexual experience. You deserve to be seen, valued, and respected for who you are, regardless of your virginity status. Take your time, honor your boundaries, and prioritize your emotional well-being as you navigate relationships and intimacy. And remember, your journey is entirely your own, and you have the power to shape it in a way that feels authentic and fulfilling to you.
Yes they will…
If they’re patient and emotionally mature
if they understand why you’re still a virgin
and
If they’re convinced that you won’t regret what you’re about to do.
A lot of guys will think it’s a bit strange, but ignore them. You have your reasons. The person who’s right for you will want to sit down and truly understand.
I don’t know if casual is the right answer. It might be but it brings its own complications.
Men will sleep with a rock, you’ve got nothing to worry about. My best advice would be to be open with whatever guy you take that step with. If he’s not a dummy he’ll go slow and make sure you’re comfortable during everything
With the right person, if you’re a virgin or not won’t matter either way
Men will sleep with anyone that has a pulse
My wife was 28 and a virgin when we got married. So…I wouldn’t worry about it.
Hmm, those who just seek pleasure will about just sleep with anything that has holes…
Now, i do was a virgin. 27 and a man.. still innecperienced.. but i feel like it shouldnt matter for men. I feel like it more matters to women if man at almost 30s knows nothing. But hey im 36 almost. 2 relationships behind me. And about 8 years since last relationship ( als last time i had sex, and 8 years makes me feel like a virgib again 😀 ) but now at 36 i just yeeted a burger at all that and just enjoy other aspects of life. Im a working nurse, i can afford just about anything that i would desire. Oneday a cabin in nordic fjords before i retire. Probs get me a husky then and life is good.
But you dun worry. I know plently of estonian women in 30s who are virgins. Some panic over it. Others be like me.
Oh, even if u just let someone pop ur cherry, or sell it. You would propably still feel like what you feel.. i’d sugsest someone u are just comfortable with who knows maybe even a friend who might be cool with it. Just get naked get comfortable with eachother. Communicate alot over everystep, get that feedback over every touch and feeling and fully immerse in it. If that first time is wholesome it boosts you confidence for next time with new guy… or thats what i think.
If you’ve waited this long you might as well wait for a patient partner who you can explore and learn with. It’s only a turn off to someone just wants to use you as a cum bucket. You sound like you have more to offer.
“Older virgin” “I’m 28”
I came in to this expecting a 68 year old virgin. You’ll be fine. Just put yourself out there and most dudes will jump at the opportunity
So there are two kinds of people… If my math is right at this hour.
1) Those who care only about themselves. The correct term may be narcissists, but they doesn’t have to necessarily be. It could be that they’re just spoiled brats who didn’t grow up yet and may never get to the point where they will care for more than themselves.
They’re definitely not long term relationship material. They’re in just for their personal fun. If there’s no quick fun to get, they don’t want to be in. If there’s effort that needs to be put to get to the fun, they’re out. If you’re not ready to hit the ground running, they’re out.
When I say fun, obviously it leads at some point to sex. So what about virginity then? Obviously, healthy virgins are completely able to have sex, but they don’t have experience and it takes some time to even get started. You’ll have to deal with pain, maybe blood, insecurities, fear… Definitely not fun in any way, unless you’re lucky. But of course, there’s no way to know, and it could go either way. What if you’ll start crying from the pain? That will definitely be a blocker in the fun, and they’ll have to call it quits until you’re ready to try again. And when will that again be? A minute? An hour? A day? A week? A month? Who knows…
Then experience is not something you get overnight, unless you’re a prodigy. That means even more time needs to be spent with you to get you up to speed. That’s a lot of effort for little reward in the timespan someone is willing to spend with you, because let’s face it, if you look for fun, you most likely don’t look for the long term.
My advice, stay clear of those.
2) Those who are not mentally ill, are normal and are willing to put in the effort. They don’t get in a relationship just to get some quick fun and then be on their way. They will be there for you during the process of building the relationship together, will give you the space you need to be comfortable and will not force you into something. They will not lose interest at the slightest sign of difficulty and will put effort in the relationship. They will gladly accept you if you are a virgin and will not expect you to be a pornstar to please them.
Of course, that doesn’t mean they will give you infinite time, as everyone has a certain timeframe within which they’re expecting to achieve certain things, but those are to be discussed from the beginning of the relationship. Communication and proper expectations are needed in a healthy relationship, and if the goals don’t align, that’s also fine. You don’t have to be with the first person you meet, and that person is definitely not the only one you’ll meet.
If you ask me, you should be ending the relationship in its early stages when you see a misalignment in your goals. There’s nothing wrong with parting ways with someone who’s not fit for you. Doing so allows you to avoid the first type and at the same time, will give you more chances to find the second type which would be fit for you.
If anything, around your age is where you should be looking for a relationship, as you’re supposed to be established in life, in the sense that you are expected to be independent at this point.
You shouldn’t cry over losing the first type of person. If it was a second type, maybe, but even then, there’s nothing you can do if your goals are not aligned, and you would feel miserable for the rest of your life in the situation that you stay. Better to shed a few tears now then to find the right person later, than doing something on a whim and regretting it for the rest of your life.
Now I did say all this, but I don’t really have any context. So it could also be some issue on your side which you need to work out. Maybe your health, attitude or something else. I have no context, so I can’t say anything about that, therefore this answer is incomplete.
Yes but no, sleep around is ok with girls who been around the block but your not that. So for me it would have to mean something more then a fun night with a friend
Coming from a guy’s perspective, I know most folks here are saying men will fuck anything.
I wouldn’t ever go for something casual with a virgin. Your first time is typically not very good, and someone looking for casual is not going to want to put in the time and effort investment for someone else’s first time.
I have a teen niece at home who desperately wants to not be a virgin anymore, and I’ll offer the same statement I told her, “it doesn’t need to be a long-term boyfriend, but at least let it be someone who means something to you.”
That one will come along if you are honest about your intentions from the start, any one who ignores you or is too immature to tell you if they are okay with it right from the start, just isn’t worth your time.
It’s not a problem that you are a virgin, but like any good sex, relationship, or pizza order, communication is key.
Did you tell him you’re a virgin? And that’s why you didn’t go all the way? If he didn’t know that he might have been really confused.
Just be honest about it. In my online dating days I dated 3 virgin girls, all in their late 20s. We talked about it, and I explained that as a more experienced person, I would not feel comfortable being in a committed relationship with them. One of them we just decided to be friends. The other two they decided they were ready to have the experience with me so they could get it out of the way. One of those two essentially “dumped” me afterward. The other one we became fuckbuddies for awhile and just eventually fell out of touch.
Same story but I was the guy in the equation… I waited 6 months because she was worth it. Most people probably wouldn’t but those guys aren’t worth it. There are guys out there who will respect your boundaries, you just might have to get through a few idiots first.
I’m 33 and also a virgin, I hope you find someone who you can be open about your concerns with and don’t feel as if you are alone in your struggle. Whatever reasons you had for waiting are good ones and if you aren’t ready you aren’t ready. Best of luck friend we believe in you.
I can see how this will limit your dating pool. In my own experience, most men see being a virgin as a red flag, especially in your age range. I’m not saying it’s right, but it seems like a lot of men (and women too) see a virgin at that age as someone who is waiting for marriage or someone who will get too attached if you do have sex with them. You don’t have to tell someone you are a virgin, you can just say you are inexperienced.
Men fuck jars of peanut butter. Hope this helps!!
Be careful, a lot of men will sleep with any, thing, person, etc..
Will women ever stop referring to men as if they are all the same person.
I honestly think having a friend you trust set you up on a date is the best case scenario for finding someone to lose your virginity to while still being casual and/or looking for romance. It wasn’t anything to write home about tbh, but he was at least more familiar and comfortable than finding someone online
I would say try harder girl, educate yourself when it comes to sex and sexuality, be prepared, don’t expect a man to come and teach you usually they don’t even know what we like or need and that is normal. Take the lead, search info on the internet, experiment on your own. Fight this insecurity , not gonna lie men are willing to fck anything but surely theyre not gonna like an insecure woman by their side.
Also do some research on sexual orientation, maybe you fit in some other type and not the usual society norm and that is okay. Self discovery is life saving
Men will sleep with a ham sandwich…
If she has a pussy
Yes, yes they will
A lot of men prefer virgins. This is nothing to worry about
Only if a man finds you attractive or when he is horny it does not matter whether you are a virgin or not. Sorry to say it this blund.
Men will sleep with anything and everything. There’s always a man who is into it…
Just find some less experienced guy maybe identify a place or niche of guys that are less likely to be experienced. Then you’re in the same boat and not so many expectations. Look for leaping clubs or chess clubs idk but I know there are plenty of guys in the same boat
“Will men sleep wi…”
Yes
The answer’s always yes
Would you date a man with children? Divorced? Poor? Ugly? Just trying to probe the specifics of your criteria.
Because as many have already said: finding a date as a girl is trivial, regardless of appearance, economic status, social awkwardness, etc.
I feel like you are looking for a… top tier guy, that checks all these boxes in your mind -and to that point, being 28 (just being honest here) is going to make it harder for you to catch a guy that like.. REALLY likes you. You can find a guy that really likes you, don’t get me wrong, but he is going to have baggage at this point in life.
I may be totally off, but the scenario you are describing is just very unusual and nearly unheard of. There is information missing to make this picture complete.
Hell yeah they will. Signed, man.
Please take this advice:
It’s not them. It’s you. Take time to learn about yourself. Talk to family and friends. Ask them how they perceive you. Decide to change what needs to change. Be happy with your progress. Any step toward change is a triumph.
Ask your friends if they have anyone single they wouldn’t mind setting you up with. Try a double date if possible. Use your friend to keep the conversation going and help with the awkwardness.
If your on the dating apps stop being so damn picky. Just go out on the date. Even if he’s not your perfect type just go out. Maybe make a new friend if it doesn’t become romantic.
Ugly and fat people can find love and happiness. Beautiful and skinny people can end up alone forever. Be willing to be social and you’ll have more opportunities for love. Realize it’s all about personality and willingness to express yourself and accept people for a flaw or two.
First of all, you’re not that old. Second of all, why are you telling these guys you’re a virgin? Maybe just don’t do that. 99% of guys I’ve slept with(yes, over 100) have never asked how many times I’ve had sex and most don’t want to know anyway. If you’re worried about being bad in bed don’t. I’ve had bad sex with people who have had multiple partners so experience doesn’t always mean anything.
Just find a person you like that you wanna do it with and go for it. If you’re not comfortable doing something with them tell them that(but omit that it’s because you’re a virgin). But if you’re uncomfortable with a lot of things in the process, then that might be why you’re still a virgin?
Men will sleep with anything. Don’t let anyone convince you otherwise.
RIP your inbox
​
but yeah, im 26 and a virgin and I would def sleep with a 28 year old virgin lol
You’re not a burden. He’s probably just salty he didn’t get past oral. Tbh if you’re dealing with a guy like that, I say he did you a favor by ignoring you. You don’t need some dude like that in your life. A real man would respect your boundaries, just sayin.
![gif](giphy|kaq6GnxDlJaBq)
Rest in peace in box.