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🤔 Feeling unsure about how to approach your fiancé’s reaction to your appearance changes? You’re not alone. Many people face similar challenges in their relationships, and it can be difficult to navigate this sensitive issue. Not to worry, though – we’ve got some advice for you.
Understanding Your Fiancé’s Reaction
It’s important to consider how your fiancé’s reaction to your appearance changes might be affecting both of you. It’s not unusual for people to feel uncomfortable or unsure about changes to their partner’s appearance, but it’s also important to communicate openly and honestly about how you’re feeling.
Here are a few points to consider:
1. Communicating openly: It’s essential to talk to your fiancé about how his reaction is making you feel. Let him know that you value his opinion and would like to understand his perspective, but also express your need for support and validation.
2. Understanding his perspective: Your fiancé’s reaction to your appearance changes may be more about his own insecurities or discomfort with change than it is about your actual appearance. Try to have an open and empathetic conversation to understand where he’s coming from.
3. Seeking compromise: Finding a middle ground that makes both of you comfortable can be a good way to address this issue. For example, if he preferred your previous hair color, ask if there are other small changes you can make to accommodate his preference while still feeling good about yourself.
Applying Bhagavad Gita Teachings
The Bhagavad Gita offers valuable guidance on navigating challenges in life, including relationship dynamics. While not explicitly mentioned, some teachings from the Bhagavad Gita could still apply to your situation:
1. Selflessness: Encouraging selflessness in relationships, the Bhagavad Gita teaches the importance of understanding our partner’s perspective and making compromises that prioritize the relationship’s well-being.
2. Communication: Effective communication is another key principle in the Bhagavad Gita. It’s important to have open, honest, and respectful conversations with your fiancé to resolve any differences or misunderstandings.
Remember, the Bhagavad Gita emphasizes the importance of inner peace and mindfulness, which can be valuable in navigating relationship challenges.
Final Thoughts
In conclusion, it’s natural to feel uncertain about how to approach your fiancé’s offish reaction to your appearance changes. By communicating openly, understanding each other’s perspectives, and seeking compromise, you may be able to find a solution that works for both of you. Seeking guidance from the teachings of the Bhagavad Gita can also offer valuable insights into navigating relationship dynamics.
Ultimately, it’s essential to prioritize open communication, empathy, and mutual understanding as you work through this situation. Remember, every relationship is unique, and finding solutions that work for you and your fiancé is what matters most.
If I changed my hair radically and my bf said nothing for days I’d wonder if he needs an eye check or he just doesn’t care about me. Not that hair is the most important thing about someone you love, but if he’s intentionally not saying anything -or even worse, always saying he liked it better before.. it’s a little red flaggy. Like in a subtle way playing with your self esteem by pretending that the things you do are irrelevant.
I feel like it took him 3 days to notice. Not sure if I would be worried. Ask him what he thinks of it
Reading to much into it, sounds like he would say something obvious if he didn’t like it. It’s your body, do what you want…. I would give him credit for noticing… Even 3days late, just saying.
how would we know lol. Can’t you just ask him? He sounds like an ass though
Basically you need more complimente and reassurance which he frankly isn’t giving. Is this relationship otherwise working well? Or is he cold emotionally?
Your guy is either incredibly autistic, incredibly dumb, or just not into you. All three will lead to a challenging marriage.
Instead of just automatically assuming he’s not into you or the change in style, whatever it may be, just ask him. And if he’s just unaware of your changes, just let him know how it makes you feel. Sometimes just being straightforward is what’ll make the guy realize he might need to change his reaction (or lack there of) towards you.
You should probably ask him. No one here can tell you anything. There’s nothing to go off here.
It IS weird if that’s what you want to hear.
He doesn’t like it. It’s not that he didn’t notice, but if it’s something you don’t like your partner did, a lot of times you feel better off saying nothing. My wife cut off her hair one time, and I didn’t say anything. About a week later, she started grilling me about it. She asked if i even noticed, and I responded, obviously yes. She said that she liked it and she was getting a lot of compliments. I said cool. She asked if I liked it and I said no. She can do whatever she likes with her body, but don’t expect me to just like everything you do.
Your other comments make it seem like he sorta doesnt care about you. A v obvious hair change and it took him 3 buisness days to notice like you could have been an entirely differrnt persom and he didnt even care to notice or mention like ” oh fuk i thougjt gou were someone else”
He doesn’t like it but he does not want to hurt your feelings by saying it, and at the same time he doesn’t want to lie
Ok, well you’ve established that your boyfriend doesn’t notice you or purposely doesn’t acknowledge things that he doesn’t like about you. I suppose it’s up to you to interpret
he probably dislikes it – want to know the cool part about being fiances? open communication allows you to ask him! It’s awesome!!! Ask him ♥
Ime it means he doesn’t like it but who cares as long as you like it. Same thing happened to me this summer. Turns out I miss my long hair too.
He hates you gurl I’m sorry
Honestly I loved my fiancees long hairs when we met and started dating.
A few years later she decided to cut them, dye them, all this stuff. I didn’t like any of that. However I personally learned from previous relationships, it’s better not to Say anything. She would either get mad, be hurt, get self conscious or it’s a discussion about “I can do whatever I want” (which is true, but that doesn’t mean I have to like it).
So I basically said nothing or “oh a new haircut”, and that was it. My comment won’t grow her hair back, it won’t make her feel better. So what am I supposed to do. What is your fiancee supposed to do.
You basically started to change your appearance, wanting a reaction, but maybe he just liked the way you looked before way better.
Where iam from there is a saying that translates to “if you don’t have something nice to say, better stay silent” and I don’t think he has a positive outcome if he reacts differently, but tells you he doesn’t like it. I mean it’s obvious he doesn’t like it.
Doesn’t mean his behavior is the right way to do, but that’s maybe something you can discuss with him. And honestly, a potential marriage only works it communication is on point. So talk about everything you told us here, that you feel like he doesn’t even look at you. That’s not a little hickup, that’s a huge problem in itself.
Why are you engaged to someone who doesn’t look at you daily? Idk but that’s weird to me.
I’ve had so many hair colors and hair lengths thorough my 6 year relationship that my boyfriend doesn’t say much about it….he knows it’s a cycle and that it’ll be completely different again in 3-4 months.
Sometimes I ask his input. ” Ok, next should I go blue, or pink?”.
It’s happened before that he told me he prefered me blonde…..right after I dyed my hair black lol
It’s not the end of the world, hair grows. Don’t take it too much at heart. It’s normal to have preferences, but those preferences doesn’t reflect his general attraction towards you.
Dye ALL your hair see if he notices
He will notice when you leave him for someone better.
What flavor of neurodivergence is he working with?
You’ve been together 5 years and can’t just ask what he thinks??
**Is this the relationship you want?**
That’s all it comes down to. Yeah, he’s isn’t yelling or being outwardly abusive. But was this kind of relationship what you envisioned for yourself? A person that doesn’t really **notice** things, and when he does, he only comments of its something he doesn’t like or care for?
I’m not gonna say ‘jump ship now!’. I will tell you that you need to think long and hard about what you truly want out of a relationship. Then you need to talk to your Significant Other and see if you guys can both come to a understanding and middle ground.
Never settle, and never be afraid to ask for what you want in a relationship.
Bruh are you tryna get a reaction out of him? Just talk to him or if you can’t that’s a sign
He doesn’t like your haircut. You know he doesn’t. It’s not more complicated than that. Stop daring him to insult you and accept it if this is how you want to look.
Sounds like you do shit like this all the time, and he doesn’t notice anymore cause it’s expected.
Yea, he’s trying to not make waves by adhereing to the adage – ‘If you can’t say nothing nice. Dont say anything at all’
But it doesn’t really help in this situation, and he doesnt seem like that good an actor.
You definetly are not reading too much into it, as this is right on the surface.
No advice really. I mean, you can’t make him like the changes and he seems to be respectful of your right to make them even moreso now than when he said he liked how you looked before in earlier changes. Or he’s scared to say something. Or apathetic as his earlier noticings didn’t stop you from further changes away from what he did like.
You do you. Whether he likes it or not, it’s about liking the actual person at the end of the day.
If he doesn’t like it, would you prefer him to say that he doesn’t like it instead of not commenting at all?
Oh honey he knows EXACTLY what he’s doing, men are not “dumb” they notice snipers in a video game, he just doesn’t want to show you that he notices because that gives you power and men HATE to make you feel good about yourself
I think it is a common trait of men. Their smooth brains only understand boobs, food and pooping.
It’s a red flag that he gives you zero compliments. He liked your hair before but you would have never know because he doesn’t say he likes it or that you look good. 👎
I feel like he doesn’t notice or care about you based on this information
I’m confused how you have hair to dye if you cut it all off but talk to each other.
Just let it go and if you like it be happy with it am sure if he really loves you he will be happy just cause you are happy
It sounds like he doesn’t even like you…
He’s already taking you for granted, and needs a good kick up the arse – good luck for the future!
>Is this another way of saying he dislikes it?
Ask him what he thinks of it.. Oh my God, how can you call him your fiance, when you can’t communicate with him?
It’s your hair and body. Do what you want with them. He either loves you for you – or he doesn’t. You are not your looks.