#Unemployed #LifeFailing #CareerAdvice
👋Hey there! It sounds like you’re going through a tough time, but don’t worry, there are definitely things you can do to turn things around and build a successful future. Let’s break it down step by step and figure out a plan for you.
##Assessing Your Situation
First things first, it’s important to take a step back and assess where you’re at and what you want for your future. Here are some questions to consider:
– What are your skills and strengths?
– What type of work do you enjoy?
– What are your long-term career goals?
– Are there any obstacles or challenges you need to overcome?
##Exploring Your Options
It’s clear that you’re unhappy with the fast food service and EMS volunteer work. That’s totally okay! It’s important to find a career path that aligns with your interests and skills. Here are a few options to consider:
– Research different industries and job opportunities that align with your interests
– Explore trade schools or certification programs that could provide you with valuable skills
– Consider internships or entry-level positions in fields that interest you
##Seeking Support and Guidance
Feeling lost and unsure about your future is completely normal, but it’s important to seek support and guidance from others. Here are some options for support:
– Talk to a career counselor or advisor who can help you explore different career paths and make a plan for your future
– Reach out to family and friends for support and advice
– Consider joining support groups or online forums for individuals in similar situations
##Taking Action
Now that you have a better understanding of your situation and some potential career paths, it’s time to take action. Here are some steps you can take to start building a better future for yourself:
– Update your resume and start applying for entry-level positions in industries that interest you
– Consider enrolling in a trade school or certification program to gain new skills and qualifications
– Network with professionals in industries that interest you and seek out mentorship opportunities
##Staying Positive and Persistent
It’s important to remember that building a successful future takes time and perseverance. Here are some tips for staying positive and persistent:
– Set realistic goals for yourself and celebrate small victories along the way
– Surround yourself with positive and supportive individuals who believe in your potential
– Stay open-minded and flexible as you navigate your career path, and don’t be afraid to pivot if necessary
In conclusion, it’s completely normal to feel lost and unsure about your future, but there are definitely steps you can take to build a successful and fulfilling career. Remember to assess your skills and interests, explore different career options, seek support and guidance, take action, and stay positive and persistent. You’ve got this! Good luck on your journey to a brighter future.
First question: what did failing miserably as an EMT look like? What specifically does that mean?
Take a deep breath, you are only 19. Everything may feel permanent and weighty right now, but you have so much life ahead of you and so many chances to figure things out. We are rooting for you!
As for what to do – Military? Coast Guard? Merchant Marine? Welder / Machinist? Water treatment operator? Post office? There are infinite paths for you, keep moving ahead!
Enlist in the military and get a clearance. Then use the gi bill to go to college and get a job in tech. You’ll clear 6 figures.
Why can’t you go to college? Not that I’m saying you should, but I want to understand what your barrier is.
Volunteer at something lower stakes than EMS. Work at a food bank, read to old people at a retirement home, pull invasive weeds on a trail, clean cages at the shelter. This will enhance your resume and help you make connections that could lead to a paid job.
Read some books and spend less time on screens. Doesn’t matter what kind of books. Hell, read graphic novels if you want. Popular science books are a good choice if you want to get smarter.
You’re not failing at life, there are a lot of 19 yr olds that haven’t got out of the nest yet, you just need to start taking steps toward it and be okay with failure, because there WILL be setbacks, but you gotta keep trying.
You’re 19 my friend, you’re not failing. I had no idea what I wanted to do at 19.
I tried community college, and while 1 of my classes were fun, I found that post-secondary workloads were too much for me (I hate homework and assignments/projects) so I stopped doing that after a few months.
I took some time to think, and decided I’d like to try a trade. I literally just picked what sounded coolest to me, welding.
I’ve been welding for 3 years now and I have passed my red seal test as well. It’s decent money for me being just 22.
Will I weld forever? I doubt it. It’s true that trades can be tough work sometimes and it’s definitely not for everyone, but the point is, I just hopped in and tried something. I’ll have this real skill that I can fall back on at anytime in my life if I need to.
So my advice to you is get out and try anything and everything that appeals to you. It might take 2 tries like me, or it might take 20.
The beauty of life, especially when we’re so young, is that we can do whatever we want to do – so go out and give a bunch of stuff a shot, you might be surprised with what you enjoy!
Anybody can go to community college. I was a tutor at my community college and watched all kinds of people learn to study, learn to plan their time wisely, and learn to be successful. Single immigrant mothers, people who dropped out of high school, a senior citizen who was going back to school for the first time in over 40 years, etc.
Community colleges offer free tutoring. Professors offer office hours help if you go visit them. There are academic counselors to help you find what your interests are and what classes you need to get where you want to go. There are tons of free services to help you be successful in college. The only thing you need is strong desire to succeed and the work ethic. If you studied enough to eventually pass your EMT tests, you can study enough to be successful in college – especially if you take advantage of things like tutoring.
Listen, I’m only 20 and I felt exactly like this. There is one thing, and one thing only you should start telling yourself right now. There is always time.
You’re 19. That’s crazy young. You shouldn’t have everything figured out, you won’t, and it’s ok. Slow down. Think about what you actually want. Stop comparing yourself to others. There’s time to do what you want. Even if that’s not achievable as a career, there’s still time to do what you’re really passionate about, if you can find that.
Nobody’s life is over at 19 unless they’re actually dead. It’s alright
This may or may not help you….
When you go into a grocery store, what do you think is going on? Most likely, keeping the shelves stocked with food and beverages and utensils, right?
What really goes on is more like a theater production. Instead of thinking of it as moving the goods, think of it as a performance. Everything and everyone is either a prop, a costume, or an actor. The store is a stage, and the entire thing is a dramatic production. Everything is situated to get your attention, things are often described and priced in order to give you some little pleasure, like ‘finding a special’ or running into something you realize is useful or that you need but weren’t looking for. All the store employees could just as well be dressed as princes or princesses.
It doesn’t matter whether the ‘retail’ is groceries, cars, or lumber – it’s the same game. Same goes for services – generally people selling internet and cell phones do a lot better than medical staff, since the medical people are overworked and probably don’t care. In the latter case, their customers show up anyway.
Quite possibly your problems have to do with ‘appearances’ – your employers don’t see you performing in the role as they envision it. You don’t have to be fake, but what you have to do is figure out what kind of role is ‘natural’ for your personality.
You’re 19 you’re still so young. Have you tried job corps? I heard they provide housing but be sure the job field they offer is something you’re interested in. Also is there a reason you can’t do college? If it’s financial reasons then take student loans and be smart about it(picking an employable major and sticking to in state, applying for scholarships).
Why exactly can’t you find work as a paid EMT?
Pondering what to do and not doing anything are wasting of time.
What you did is not a waste. You have a good mindset, keep doing things for your job/career. As long as you are keep doing something, the stars will align for you.
You just like to quit when things get hard. You’re a quitter. And that comes with other things. I don’t get why you want to fail yourself? You like to fail? Why not push yourself to actually learn something, instead of saying F it I quit. Because it’s easier to quit then try to figure out your jumbled up mess in your head, isn’t it? Am I wrong tho, if I am.. ai apologize. I don’t think I am tho.
Can you tell me what city or state you’re located in. Or message me and I can help you with a job I think hou would like in that field
https://www.jobcorps.gov/
What do you want to do in life? What fields are you interested in working in?
Why can’t you go to college or trade school?
What’s the root cause of the previous jobs not working out
Like did you walk out cause you got splashed with grease? Or did it not work out because you don’t like riding in the back of the truck?
Spend some time to think about what the cause was- and then spend some time to think about WHY that is a problem for you but wasn’t for others (that one might take some time) and while doing that keep trying and failing or succeeding while keeping in mind that you’ll always learn more from your failures than your successes in life. So the more you fail the wiser you can become- so long as you are making sure to do that learning part after.
The military is your answer.
Try education.
Stop the whining and choose. You see your friends doing things with their lives. You should get started.
U are just 19 trust me there is a big road ahead. Trust me u have ample time to learn a skill and be really good at it.
Try maybe trade school.
From a long time suicide attempt survivor in their 30’s who’s made it through some tough stuff:
Don’t lost hope or give in to the dark. Life is shit. Times are hard. For most people unless you’re the 1%. But that doesn’t mean there’s not options or things to try. You have so much life ahead of you at 19, and it’s ok that you aren’t settled in something. You have a world of options in the age of information. Do some soul searching and learn what you want and want to contribute to the world. And while you’re doing the internal work,
Try and fail. Try and give things chances. Take the jobs that are stepping stones and mundane because they’re helping you and building your experience. Know that starter jobs (and a lot of jobs) require us to do things we don’t like or deal with people that may get under our skin. Get out, get the experience, make the money, learn how workplaces work, and plan your next moves.
Earn your stripes and don’t give up that your haven’t found a career you enjoy. It takes time. You put in hours. You try different things. You set aside judgement. You release expectations. You handle things like an adult. You pay your bills and do hard things but have independence and financial flexibility to keep working up to the next levels of your journey.
A friend once told me “if not you, then who? If not now, then when?”
Motivation follows action (as my therapist spouse says). So don’t expect to want it or like it until you do it.
Don’t wait on anyone to make your life better. We get to make over 35000 decisions each day. So choose what will get you to where you want.
Cultivate HOPE for yourself. Believe in yourself and your capacity to grow. Believe in your ability to make your life great despite the BS in the world. And go out and do the things!
It’s possible, but up to you and you alone at the end of the day.
Also hop of the gram and social media more. It skews our perception and we think others are better off and the world is worse off than reality. It does terrible things for our perception, self-esteem and everything else. Remind yourself of actual reality outside of screens and touch base with your loved ones outside of screens.
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Make a rash decision and then spend the next few years dealing with the consequences. Live a little.
If I could go back I would find a trade that interested me. Steady work, union hopefully- you can keep your eye for something else but in the meantime you can apprentice the trade you like that will give you skills for life. Also, I didn’t find a job/career that suits me until I was 34. I didn’t serving/bartending which was a waste because there are no benefits in most of those jobs. It a skilled trade you can start retirement- I know it seems far off but if you start putting a little at your age you can retire instead of working until you die.
It’s good that you can experiment with what you like at 19, your not a failure you are doing what someone in your position should be doing. Trying new things. You know EMS stuff probably isn’t for you. Try some more stuff. Look into education. Most of us don’t get into a “career job” until ten ten+ years after 19.
Just get up and do something every day and do it with purpose. You will be fine. It’s discouraging when something doesn’t work out, but it looks like you have a support system. A lot of people don’t have an option for failure and get stuck in jobs they are unsuited for.
You have many options and as long as you keep getting up and trying and have a work ethic you will be fine you will find something.
Take what u can. Recession is in play
Failing in life at 19? Wtf?
First you have to accept you are a lazy person who has quite a big ego. You’re wrong and being mature means retooling your outlook to be appreciative for the opportunities you have had.
The good news is you are at a perfect age to chalk this up to you going through the necessary hardships to become a top performer.
I don’t know why you can’t go to college, but if it’s because of money, you can use FASFA once you’re 25 and go for free. I did it and it was a great experience.
I remember being 18.. alone, broke and on my own. Worked two jobs, went to community college. Here’s how good my decision making was back then. My car broke down and I joined the military.. haha..
I turned 19 in bootcamp.. Got out at 22.. and started out all over again.
It’s not so bad man. I say study your arse off during your 20’s & 30’s.. keep pushing and before to know it, you’ll have made it.
God speed