#LostAndUnmotivated #SeekingAdvice #MotivationStruggles
Hey everyone, I recently stumbled upon a post by someone feeling lost and unmotivated at 25, and it really struck a chord with me. 🤔 I find myself in a similar situation and I’m wondering if anyone has any advice to share.
Here’s a bit about my story:
– 25 years old, never worked
– Graduated high school in 2017 with no further education
– Lack of interests in traditional paths like careers or family
– Content with gaming, shows, and reading/writing but unsure if that’s sustainable long-term
I know I can’t stay in this rut forever, but I’m struggling to find that spark to motivate me. Have any of you been in a similar situation? Any tips on finding motivation and purpose in life?
One possible solution I’ve been considering is:
– Exploring different hobbies or activities to spark new interests
– Seeking out therapy or counseling to address underlying issues
– Setting small, achievable goals to build momentum
I’d love to hear your thoughts and insights! Let’s help each other navigate through these challenging times. 💪✨
id say try trade school/military or maybe a community college, it might be alot to handle at first but over time youll get some really good skills and itll help with being around others and working with people
First, what interests you? Do you want to go to college? Learn a trade? Learn your interests. Get a job now as a dishwasher or in construction, or stocking groceries. Something to get you out of the house. In your resume, claim you were self employed doing something like coding. Just so your resume isn’t empty. Say you don’t enjoy that work and are rethinking your options.
Join the military. At least it can give you purpose and pay for schooling when you get out.
Go get an entry part time job to see if you like it. Start from there. Lots of entry part time.jobs don’t require a work history.
Home Depot is one.
Ups is one.
If not try overnight fast food.
The whole unmotivated thing is all in your mind, since you have been starting to go downhill you’ve been trapped in your bubble with the same views on yourself, and your mind feeds more thoughts into it. You need to get out of your comfort zone, and realize it’s all in your head. Start with light exercise, push ups, sit ups and go for runs and walks. You seem lonely and everyone needs friends, you said you enjoy writing so go to your nearest writing convention, or book store and just speak to people, don’t care about what your mind tells you. We’re all npcs. Regarding your job you could sell children’s book on Amazon, or you could try to work at your local library or bookstore. Don’t force yourself to do something you don’t enjoy.
Focus on health, food that is worth its salt can be expensive, so you need money. Use that money to invest and have it multiply. There’s some motivation. I know you must feel like total crap, because such a life is total crap. You are in arrested development.
Take care of yourself like you would a friend who’s been out of it for a while. Practice waking up at 10am every day. Eat healthy food, add structure to your days little by little. Help out your parents with projects. If you can find satisfaction in completing a task, you can find motivation to find a job.
The one thing you’re missing from your post is fear and your lack of it. Most of us work because we fear being homeless, we fear going without food and starving, we fear not being able to support a significant other, we fear being negatively perceived by our friends and family.
You felt a tinge of that reading the 45 year old’s post, but you really don’t fully comprehend the consequences.
You have one life to live, there’s nothing inherently wrong with living it the way you do, but if you care at all, try and get real comfortable with the fears everyone else has that drive and motivate them.
Also, I’m assuming your mother is an enabler, very hard to change anything when someone you love is keeping you the way you are.
you will feel old but trust me you are not. take it easy and take small steps. just accept you are behind your peers and thats ok. go out looking for opportunites and don’t wait for the perfect one to land in front of you. all the best.
I just want to know, who funds your life? Like I’m sure your mom pays for food and shelter, but do you ever leave the house? Do you just ask for allowance? Genuinely curious
i commented on the other post so i’ll keep it short here, but when i was feeling at my worst and very depressed, i started running again—i’d done it on and off through college, but always dropped it after a time.
doesn’t have to be anything epic—i run maybe 3km in one go? 1.6mi round trip, just up to the chapel on the top of the hill and back. ANYTHING is better than nothing, and scientifically getting out and doing something active is good for your mental health—it might feel different for different people, but it made the world of difference to me. start with something like that! i do that since there’s no gym within 10mi of me, but if you’re more interested in swimming, football, basketball etc give that a go!
you might be good at it, in which case great, or you might be horrendous—in which case, sticking with it will mean you see that you’re capable of progress and improving, and as someone who dealt with a lot of anxiety re “what if i never achieve anything?” that makes the world of difference.
as for more long-term stuff, maybe try and do something with writing! i know the rise of AI is scary (part of why i’m pursuing animal husbandry and not concept art if i’m honest—i understand all too well) but maybe look into careers involving writing? journalism/writing for magazines/papers, writing children’s books, script/play writing etc. i don’t know enough about writing to suggest many, but have a look around! once you find something, work backward from there—say you like journalism; what qualifications do job applications for journalists request? are there any courses at a local college/uni that interest you?
in the meanwhile, pick up *some* kind of work, even if it’s just part-time at the local supermarket. it’ll prove you’re capable of doing something, it can go on your CV, it’ll take up a bit of your free time AND you’ll earn some money out of it.
i’ve seen other people suggest that having a ‘dream job’ is overrated, and that if you get some kind of job that just pays the bills, it doesn’t have to be a passion (a lot of people seem to suggest accounting in this regard) but rather a means to facilitate you enjoying life through your hobbies and other interests. i think this is a shout, especially if you’re unsure about what you’d feel passionate about doing for the rest of your life!
and remember, you’re 25—worst case scenario you go into a career and don’t love it, in which case after a while once you’ve gained the experience, earned some money, done some things, you may well find a passion after all, in which case you just… switch onto a different career path.
from a chronic overthinker, try not to overthink it if you can. for me, that involved journaling, finding ways to manage my anxiety/low self-esteem, and just plunging with the knowledge that YEAH it might turn out to be the wrong choice, but that’s a bridge i’ll cross if i come to it.
good luck!
OP, eventually you’re going to have to work, because your mom isn’t going to be there forever to help you. Sooner or later you’re going to have to grow up, mature, take on responsibility, and take care of your mom because as you grow older, she becomes more fragile due to old age. That’s part of growing and adulting.
The trick to life is that most people work at a job they don’t necessarily like, and they use that money they’re saving on the things they do enjoy. For example, I worked to build a gaming PC I always wanted because I love building PC and just gaming in general.
I can relate to the lack of motivation and helped a few friends in identical situation.
One of the harder lessons in life in my opinion is that you don’t really get to wait for motivation and have to be disciplined instead. Set yourself rules and hold yourself accountable to them.
On the flip side you should also give yourself credit for meeting smaller goals. I.e. today’s goal is to send out an application, not to get a job.
You’d be surprised at how rewarding progress is once you get started.
Same situation for myself 26 years old.
You probably just get a lot of dopamine during the day.
bad habits and addictions, start working out and eat healthy.
Prioritize finding your purpose that you wanna achieve in life.
My purpose is building a business that I would care about,
Because I like being control, autonomy and be own boss.
These things for myself more important than income level.
You need therapy. First step is getting a therapist imo
Most people aren’t motivated to work 8 hours a day, 5 days a week. You just do it, like a grownup. You should be doing it out of necessity to not be a ball and chain to your parents
OP please read this, I am 25 aswell and have the exact same situation and I worked my first day ever 2 days ago. I also dont know what to do with life, was never interested in anything in school etc. Also around 17 I became “rusted shut” as I like to call it when I was not interested in jobs and just lived with my mom. I was frustrated because all my friends were gettig bachelors and moving in with their girlfriends and stuff, I felt left behind and wanted to change it so I started going to therapie as my first step about 2 months ago aswell as career guidance at the same place as my thereapist and both helped enormously. I cannot stress how important actually working a day felt in becoming an adult. I mainly did it on advice of my therapist and because I start to need money. I have crippeling fear of failure which is also why I never worked before. I started an entry level position at a lunchroom as a server and I landed in a team of amazing and friendly people who told me I did an amazing job as a first timer. Icannot tell you how amazing that felt and I actually feel motivated to continue. Please if you have any questions DM me.
What does your mom do? Is she lonely as well? It appears she never made you do anything you weren’t comfortable with. You needed to be doing extra curricular activities as a kid and learning basic skills. You needed to get a job or go to school.
Get a part time job. Anything. You need to be ok being uncomfortable and step outside.
Also, have you tried therapy?
You can’t just focus on what interests you. Most of us aren’t interested in our work. We’re mostly interested in not ending up homeless and starve. That’s what’s needed to get us going. Other interests are only relevant if you have options.
Ignatius J. Reilly Core
Nobody is motivated to wake up every morning to go to a place they don’t want to be at.
We go to work because we need to eat and need a bed to sleep on.
If your mom is willing to pay for your food until her death, and you’re content with that? You’re living the dream, I guess.
Your motivation should come from looking at your mother who is appearently taking care of you while you are nothing but a burden and a disappointment. I couldn’t live with myself being such a burden to someone else. If that’s not motivation enough for you let’s see what happens when your mother is gone.
You’ve seen a glimpse of the future. You have a chance to change it.
Think of what you would like to realistically achieve and make steps to do so. You are almost 30. Each year you are not going forward, you are drifting backwards.
It’s better to jump than to be pushed.
Damn brother, if you need someone to talk to, I’m here for you.
Maybe look into getting your CDL & being a truck driver?
You like games, so I figure you may like driving a truck. Quick schooling, and can end up with great pay
You also dont have to deal with people much, and can bring your gaming equipment with you & play in your bedroom in the back of the truck during long hauls
Hirap buhay gar
Your motivation should come from the fact that your head is basically in a noose right now. If it doesn’t feel that way, realize that it is.
You’re also putting too much importance on how you feel about stuff. Life doesn’t care how you feel.
You say you read and write. Take your writing seriously and get a job as a content writer. You can also write books while still living with your mum. If the books you writer are really good, they can sell and by the time you leave your mum, you would have saved enough to stand on your own feet.
I honestly don’t know how anyone could or would be okay with being mediocre or less.
You’re literally cheating yourself and the rest of the world out of your potential greatness by taking this approach to life.
You don’t know what you have to offer the world because you’ve never applied yourself to anything!
You better get it together before you no longer have your mom to support you and you end up having to figure it out on your own.