LostInMy20s #Overwhelmed #LookingForHope
Hey there! 👋 I read your post and my heart goes out to you. It’s tough feeling like you’ve missed out on opportunities and are drowning in despair. But hey, you’re not alone in feeling this way. Many of us have gone through similar struggles and come out on the other side.
Here are a few things you might find helpful:
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Start Small: You mentioned feeling discouraged about developing new skills. Take it one step at a time. Set small, achievable goals for yourself.
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Seek Support: You mentioned loneliness and depression. Don’t hesitate to reach out to a therapist or counselor for help. It’s okay to ask for support.
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Networking: You mentioned being socially inept, but don’t let that hold you back. Start small by attending virtual events or joining online communities related to your interests.
- Explore Urban Planning: If you’re interested in urban planning and development, look for online courses or workshops to build your knowledge. You might be surprised by the opportunities that come your way.
Remember, it’s never too late to make a change and work towards a brighter future. Take small steps, be gentle with yourself, and keep moving forward. Keep the faith, my friend. 💪 #YouGotThis
Hey, we are in eerily similar places. I’m a former web developer recovering from my second manic/psychotic episode while staying with my family. I’m applying to a variety of jobs, including web development positions, but I’m not excited about any of them and I feel incredibly out of practice and not confident at all, especially given how difficult tech interviews can be.
I have definitely been there with depression and I’m trying really hard to fend it off myself right now. After my first manic episode (I was 29), what helped me was (forcing myself to) find community, which helped to gradually build up my confidence and start to feel like a person again. And then I naturally found myself getting excited about things like I used to.
When we’re depressed and isolated, it’s so easy to get stuck in the negative way we see ourselves. You’re still recovering from a really intense experience and I think you deserve to give yourself a lot of grace and empathy. You don’t have to have it all figured out right now. And remember you don’t have to do all the things (networking, internships, etc.) all at once, it’s all one little step at a time.
All that said, re: actual career thoughts, you have a computer science background, so you likely have an analytical/problem-solving kind of brain and that seems like it would lend itself well to urban planning/development. Offshoot idea: I wonder if you’d be interested in civil or environmental engineering?
Call centre job. A lot of people work their way from their call centre experience.