#CareerCrisis #SoulSuckingJob #ImposterSyndrome #CareerChange
Hey there, fellow thirtysomethings! 👋 Let’s talk about that dreaded feeling of being stuck in a soul-sucking job. It’s tough, I know. But you’re not alone.
Here are a few things to consider when you’re feeling lost in your career:
– Reflect on your values and passions 🤔: What truly makes you happy and fulfilled? What kind of impact do you want to make in the world?
– Explore different career paths 🌟: Research other industries or roles that align with your interests. This could help you discover a new path that excites you.
– Consider upskilling or taking online courses 💻: You don’t have to go back to school full-time. Look for online courses or certifications that could help you transition into a new field.
– Seek guidance from a career coach or mentor 🙌: Sometimes, talking to someone who has been in your shoes can provide valuable insights and advice.
– Don’t be afraid to take a leap of faith ✨: Change is scary, but it’s also necessary for growth. Don’t let fear hold you back from pursuing a career that truly fulfills you.
Remember, it’s never too late to make a change and find a job that brings you joy. You deserve to feel fulfilled and happy in your career. So, take that first step towards a brighter future! 🌈 #CareerTransformation #FindingYourPassion
Best of luck on your journey! 💼✨
What do you do in your free time? I have a hard time believing that you’re paid $170k base for something useless. Do you experience a lack of purpose outside of your job?
Hmm I don’t and can’t think of what I might do to have that…
I’m kinda like you except no where near your pay. I get paid well for my area, far more than most people. Job is a joke. Easy as shit and we all know we are over paid. It’s soul sucking 5 days a week but I’m trapped by the pay and benefits. I got into a new hobby (skydiving) and now I don’t think of work. It’s just something to get over so I can make it to the weekend. Honestly don’t care we are losing our jobs later this year either
Hey. It sounds like you’re getting disturbed by the fact that it’s an infinite job (there’s always more stuff to be done) and without a clear purpose (convincing people to buy something might not sound very noble or whatever).
If that’s the case, I can relate.
Regarding the first part, life is also infinite (until you die). Most jobs will have that feeling even though tasks are completed and set aside. For example, if you’re a nurse it’s patient after patient. If you’re a developer it’s feature, after feature. Most jobs will make you feel like Sisyphus if you let them. I wouldn’t go running towards a new career just because of this. I would try to understand what’s up with the current setup that is draining you.
On the purpose or nobility thing, I also wouldn’t change careers looking for this. Most industries are not noble or purposeful. Even the ones that look like it aren’t. I’d recommend looking for people who do things that look noble or purposeful and see if there’s a way for you to join them somehow. Maybe your current skillset might be useful.
Finally, the imposter syndrome will drain you. Imposter syndrome is “I’m not good enough. What If I get caught? I’ll be banished to the wilderness!” and that lights up a lot of primitive fight or flight circuits in your brain. You are constantly searching for predators. Have some compassion towards yourself. Is someone telling you you are not doing a good job? No? Then, chill.
I know how draining and confusing your current situation might be but don’t despair. You are still in control and desperation will only bring you down.
I hope you find peace.
Sometimes you can find purpose in building a family and having kids. That’s where I am – a six-figure job, travel, and a side hassle don’t cut it anymore. Just a few years ago I wasn’t serious about kids, but now I am.
I’ve also done what you wanted – take time off for grad school. It’s a great break from routine but I ended up where I started and my job doesn’t satisfy me anymore. If you go that route, clearly know what you want to get out of it.
Suffering from grass is greener. I’ve been there.
Two key things : remote and high pay. Don’t lose that.
Learn to accept and train hard for something alternative you can do whilst your remote. It’s not easy though and your biggest enemy will be yourself.
Also if you have something that is productive there is a high chance you will be pushed to be over productive and get burnt out.
I completely get where you’re coming from, as I also feel the need to produce, just be careful
Don’t go back to school, it won’t achieve anything but more debt.
Your problem is that you’re slave to an employer because of your debt, no job will feel “good” in your situation. On the bright side, your income should give you the option to pay off your debt fast. Focus on that, pay off that debt.
Once you’re free, you’ll be able to look for more meaning in the job, to take sabbaticals, and so forth.
You could be unemployed for a year and really feel useless and experiencing a career crisis with also a mortgage and $100K+ student loan debt. Count your blessings. If you hate it that much, sell the house/downsize, pay off debt as quickly as possible and then quit to pursue something else.
>makes 170k a year
>unaccomplished
Something isn’t clicking here and i don’t think it’s your job choice. To anyone who thinks that their job will some how fill their life with fulfillment is thinking on the wrong train. A job is a job and part of our capitalistic hodgepodge. What fulfills you isn’t always something that makes you money. Most people will keep their passions and their work life separate for this exact reason. The people who start a business and watch it grow almost always hit a wall or experience burnout.
I think you need to have a chat with a therapist or counselor to pin down your emotions as it sounds like you’re conflating emotions with factoids of your life. You live a comfy existence at 170k a year, and a comfy existence is a door way to do something you like. Not to shatter what you have and start all over again.
but the moneys good so f’it
Am curious, could you elaborate on why you don’t like your job
I would recommend not doing that. You don’t realize just how much your life will change when you’re making half as much money. Find purpose outside of work.
Can you go for FIRE (financial independence retire early) in the next few years? I know you said you have debts and a mortgage to pay, but if you’re making $170k, you’ve probably got enough to put aside for an early retirement. Until then, you could try different hobbies/short courses at the weekend to figure out what you want to do. I just think that would give you a good balance between security and finding something you enjoy more. Btw don’t listen to people telling you that you shouldn’t feel the way you do. I’ve heard similar complaints from lots of people making large amounts of money (and tons of people feel their job is meaningless because they often are).