“Struggling at 21: How Can I Overcome Failures and Find Purpose in Life? Help! I’m a 21-year-old from Eastern Europe facing setbacks in school, work, and personal life. How can I turn things around? #lifechallenges #mentalhealth #findingpurpose #careeradvice #strugglesat21“
You’re 21. Your life has just begun. Don’t give up.
Don’t despair. At least you aren’t 30 yrs old like me, having no accomplishments to your name. I get it. Dont give up. I have to take lexapro and abilify for my mental illness (a literal curse) and praying daily for a breakthrough, but I have a support system, so I am getting by. I empathize with you, I truly get your pain and frustration. You got this, buddy. You are only 21 years old
Same here dude I was very good at school and everything but during and after the covid I obsessed with alcohol I was drinking all day long and skip classes and now I just realised I fcuked my life… and comeback seems so hard from this point
You have done the first step, figured out the problem. Now it’s time to figure out how to fix it. By the looks of it your mental health isn’t the best so start by fixing that. A strong body is a strong mind so with that in mind I want you to go on a run tomorrow. It doesn’t have to be too hard just get your body moving. Slowly but surely you’ll start to gain momentum. Cut out video games and start helping around the house, maybe doing the dishes, sweeping the floor, help your bro out with his homework. In terms of anxiety, meditation has helped me a ton. I see myself in you a year and half ago bro, same place severe anxiety, depression, just tired of life in general but I promise once you start with something such as running, the rest will follow. I hope for the best for you and if you need someone to talk to to, I’m here at your service. 🫡
You can find a trade that you find interesting. We just met, but I know you can find one. Keep searching for me, okay?
I’m 22 and I still luv with my parents now I’m enrolling for colleges
I didn’t work I’m pathetic aren’t I
You’ve been an adult for just 3 years. You are 3 adult years old. Almost nobody accomplishes anything of significance by age 21.
oh you can do a lot worse, like take up drinking as a career path
7 days after my 21st birthday I tried to take my life and I entered rehab for the 8th time in my life.
At 25 I’m almost 5 years sober, recently bought a condo, have an amazing job, an amazing host of friends, travel monthly, and am more content than I could ever imagine.
I only say that to point out that your life is far far from over. It hasn’t even really started. I’m 25 and am still so so young. I know people that “restarted” at 60 and have beautiful amazing lives.
Happiness and contentment has to come from within, that starts with taking control over what you can control and also shifting your mindset.
You know the answers. They are within your heart. Just make small effort everyday and within a year your life will be better
As you get older, you’ll realize none of the things you think matter will be important.
I’m 28. I live in a city with a high cost of living so I live at home (I help cover the rent, but it’s still cheaper than moving out). I have a decent job that I tolerate. I haven’t been in a relationship in 4 years. But I am the happiest I have ever been. I have a hobby I am passionate about and a community that I care about and they care about me. I stopped paying attention to what others are doing and started focusing on what makes me happy.
All this is to say that as you mature, you will naturally discover what is important to you. The future might bleak to you now, but whenever you see opportunities, take them and see where they lead. Be optimistic and be a genuine person. Things will sort themselves out.
Goodluck
I don’t know if you are gonna read my comment but here i go :
I am 21 too and i have not studie too, i didn’t even finish basic secundary , since 2020 i saw my life going through really fast , i was so depressive because i had no job and i lived alone so i didn’t have help , i used to think my life was done , no studie, no work experiencie about any job.
Until i met Jesus , i was atheist but i came to a point that he is truly real, so he helped me to deal with it, i started reading the bible and understanding the vanity of richness and lifetime , at 19 also got a job as a security guard and i am going well , but not because i got a job and i am a little bit better but because i found something better than richness in that life , the person of Jesus Christ .
He doesn’t gonna give you richness but he can give you the oportunity to find the truth and life .
I watched a YouTube short where someone was talking about bout self worth and it has stuck with me.
It’s really easy to be very hard on yourself.
Perhaps try and do some solo travelling, a lot of people that I have worked with and even dear friends have solo traveled and they’ve all said it was the best thing they’ve done.
With your lack of energy I would recommend exercising. I had a Personal Trainer and the way he explained to me was “you have to spend energy to make energy”. by implementing a small increase of exertion every day like maybe do 2-3 push ups or squats a day in between games for two or three days then increase to 2 sets of 3 push ups or squats. Build up slowly and don’t be disheartened when you don’t see instant results. Fitness takes time but you’ll feel the difference after a couple of weeks.
With all the being said 21yo is young, I’m 27 and I’m still learning and sorting things out. Don’t be to hard on yourself, you are doing better than you think