👀 Hey everyone! I recently stumbled upon a pretty awkward situation that I think many of us can relate to, but maybe not talk about: Parents getting a little too cozy while sharing a living space. 🙈
So here’s the deal: I live in a small apartment with my parents and my brother, and it seems like my parents have forgotten that their bedroom isn’t soundproof. 😳 Anytime they decide to have some “quality time,” my brother and I are stuck hearing way more than we ever wanted to. It’s super uncomfortable and honestly, it kind of traumatizes me each time. Can anyone relate?
Here are a few pain points that come with this situation:
- Embarrassment: It can feel humiliating to be reminded of your parents’ intimate moments, especially when you live under the same roof.
- Lack of privacy: It disrupts the sense of safety and comfort in your own home.
- Communication struggles: How do you even approach this topic without making it awkward? 🤷♂️
Honestly, I’m not against them having a romantic life, but it definitely feels wrong for it to happen so close to us. I’ve tried dropping hints that their “noisy activities” aren’t going unnoticed, but it seems like they’re either oblivious or just not taking it seriously. 😤
Possible Solutions:
- **Be Direct:** Sometimes, the best approach is to just talk about it openly. Calmly tell them how uncomfortable it makes you feel.
- **Consider a Signal:** Maybe set up a signal that indicates when you and your brother need some quiet time.
- **Talk to a Trusted Adult:** If it’s too awkward to approach your parents alone, consider discussing it with another adult who can help bring it up. 🤐
So, have any of you been in a similar situation? How did you manage to talk to your parents without it turning into a huge awkward mess? Share your tips and experiences! Let’s help each other through this. 💬
And hey, if you’re interested in more resources on communication techniques, check out this helpful link on [effective communication with parents](#). 🗣️
Looking forward to hearing your stories! #AwkwardFamilyMoments #CommunicationIsKey #LivingWithParents
Jeez. Please word the title a bit more carefully!
Just be like “damn the walls are so thin, I can really hear everything in this house!”
I’ve never seen more need of a comma in my life
Phrasing…😭
I only clicked because of the topic title.
Honestly, you don’t.
You can hint that you can hear them, and hopefully they make efforts to be quieter. But ultimately what I see recommended most on posts like this is to get some headphones.
It sucks! Hearing other people is awkward, especially parents/family!
But ultimately, it is a healthy and natural act within many relationships. It’s unrealisic to ask them to *stop* anytime you are home.
Is there a location you’d rather them have sex with you in!?!????
This is great. I’m pretty sure they know but they just don’t care.
Are you old enough to move out?
Well I’m sorry to say this but your parents are in a long standing relationship and sex it a healthy part of that. They are having sex in the place that is appropriate in their house.
The only thing you can ask of them is to maybe wait for when you two are asleep. However depending on everyone’s sleep schedules that might not be possible.
It something everyone living with parents goes though.
Ask them to buy you and your brother noise canceling headphones. Don’t even bother explaining, they will know what you’re getting at.
Go out more
They shouldn’t be having sex with you anywhere.
My jaw dropped and then I reread the title!
I think they’re trying to subtly hint to the OP he should move out
why did you word it like that 😭
First we would need to know your age group. My first reaction was for you to move out on your own. Then you mentioned your brother, so I thought you might be younger.
I would just say something like, “That movie you were watching last night in your room was pretty loud”.
Take them to a nice restaurant out of town, and if everything goes well they’ll take you to a nice hotel.
Is this the new favorite question to ask here?
Where would you prefer they have sex with you?
I need CPS!!!
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Where else would you like them to have sex with you?
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Just say no. Your parents shouldn’t be having sex with you.
Well, you can just talk to them, if it is that important to you. Personally, I think I would let them be and find a way to not bother me. I’ve been around too many parents that can’t stand each other, so that the idea of parents still being hot for each other sounds great. Of course – you still might want to talk to them and ask them to put on some loud music when they do it or something.
If you are really young you should probably talk some boundaries for sure.
It’s not wrong but at the end of the day you all live together, so certain level of compromises is expected from everyone. If it bothers you too much you should definitely talk to them and ask for a change of the status quo.
P.S. make a note to have a home with better sound isolation and distancing when you have one of your own in case you have as healthy of a relationship with future wifey.
I sumpathise with you OP. My parents took me to a nice hotel when they wanted to have sex with me.
It’s going to be easier to buy some noise cancelling headphones. They pay for everything, and one of the perks about paying for everything is deciding what and when you do things in your place.
You don’t. Get some headphones or move out if you’re old enough.
Your parents are clearly still in love and having a healthy relationship. Do you really think they are obligated to enter a dead bedroom situation just because you’re uncomfortable? Frankly, you should be glad they are still in love enough to be intimate.
Either move out, or start wearing earplugs to bed. Your parents are allowed to have sex in their own house in the privacy of their own room. I get that it’s icky for you, but unless they are being dramatically and unnecessarily loud about it, they’re absolutely not doing anything wrong.
You don’t get nosie canceling headphones and deal with it
Unless you pay rent you really don’t get a say. If they are overly loud maybe bring it up that its awkward for you, but a healthy relationship includes sex
Good lord phrasing
A: It’s not wrong.
B: It’s not weird.
Imagine what it was like in a 1 room cabin in colonial america where you were not only in the same house, but often in the same room. Possibly in the same bed.
Likely kids were in the loft, and could watch their parents do it through the cracks in the floorboards. On summer nights there would have been better lighting, and parents may not have done it under the blankets.
Lots of kids have difficulty imagining their parents as being sexual creatures.
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What would you ahve them do? “Excuse me dear, but your father and I want to bump uglies tonight, you think you can go to your boy friends, and screw with him t his evening?
You need to ask yourself why it bothers you.
I don’t know, my dude. They’re paying the rent. Maybe it’s on you to find a way to not hear them.
Purchase a noise machine and use it
Move out bro. What you’re hearing is the call to action .
Get a loud fan. Put that fan near their door. Plug that fan into a wifi outlet… When you need the white noise but don’t want to go near the switch, you will thank me. Bonus if you have an Alexa in the house.
Doh! Grammar, usage, and mechanics fail. Oh my.
Where would you like to have sex with them instead?
(seriously reword the title)
Jesus Christ that title took me out 😂😂
Put on some noisy porn loud enough for them to hear it
How old are you? Are you a bit of a homebody?
If you’re old enough to move out, your parents have already spent close to 20 years sneaking around. At some point, they need to prioritize their relationship more… and that includes sex. So if you don’t want to hear it, get out of the house more. 🤷🏼♀️
I’m a relationship and sex therapist. It’s good news your parents are having sex. Seems that they like each other and love each other. And parents who love each other make for stable family environments.
A better ask would be for AirPods. 🙂
>How to tell my parents to stop having sex with me in the apartment?
I hesitate to ask, but where do you want them to have sex with you?
Just be glad you weren’t born 100 years ago. You and your 10 siblings would have SEEN the 12th conceived.