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Hey everyone, I’m reaching out for some advice and support. So, here’s my situation: I was with my kids’ father for seven years, and we have two amazing kids together, aged 6 and 8. We were never married, and when we split in 2018, we managed to keep things civil and shared responsibilities 50/50 without going to court.
Now, things have taken a serious turn. He was working at a federal women’s prison, but he got suspended earlier this year due to an investigation regarding sexual favors for contraband. Fast forward to September 4, he was arrested and is facing seven counts involving three different inmates and one correctional officer. The allegations date back to June 2023, and it’s unsettling to know that there’s DNA evidence involved.
I’m worried about the implications of these charges, especially since he could potentially become a sex offender. I’ve filed for full custody since his arrest, but I’m feeling a bit conflicted about it. He’s actually a wonderful dad and loves our kids dearly, but I’m not sure if I made the right call. 🤔
Here are some of my main concerns:
- Impact on Kids: How do I break the news to them? They believe he’s just away for work, and I want to handle it delicately.
- Future of Custody: What does this mean for my custody filing? Is it the right move given how he is as a father?
- Legal Guidance: I could really use some tips on navigating this situation in court and what I should be asking for.
I’m really hoping to hear from anyone who’s experienced something similar or has tips on how to manage such tricky circumstances. Your insights would be invaluable! Let’s chat about this. How did you approach telling kids about a parent’s legal troubles? Any suggestions on managing custody battles under such serious allegations?
>I did file for full custody as soon as he got arrested and I’m not sure if I did the right thing.
There are very few situations in which “I started the process to keep my children away from a sex offender” is a bad thing. I know that he seems like a good dad, but …
I recommend finding a good therapist to help your children (and you, also) process this information and deal with what is going to be an incredibly stressful and possibly traumatic situation.
His availability for custody and visitation are likely to be diminished while he handles the prosecution and possible prison term. His income will be diminished dramatically.
I don’t think it is at all unreasonable to have a family court establish a formal custody, visitation, and support agreement to guide your co-parenting efforts now and in the future.
>I’m worried about is he being a sex offender
That is out of your control. But it’s not a foregone conclusion that a court will decide that he is a danger to his children or other children. Not every RSO is automatically ordered to stay away from children, especially their own.
A ”wonderful dad” sets an example of what a man is and how a man behaves. Your kids’ father knew how to act like a good person in certain areas of his life. The true measure of a good human being is how they act when no one is looking or they think they won’t get caught. This guy used his position and authority to scam women for sex. Wait for more charges to follow.