#MentalHealth #NewBeginnings #YouAreNotAlone
Hey there! 😊 It sounds like you’re feeling really overwhelmed right now, and I want you to know that you’re not alone in this struggle. Many people face similar challenges, especially when it comes to anxiety and feeling stuck.
So, let’s take a moment to break this down together. You mentioned that at 31, you feel like you’ve wasted your 20s and are unsure where to begin. It’s completely understandable to feel lost, especially given what you’ve gone through. Here are a few points to consider as you think about where to start:
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Acknowledge Your Feelings: It’s okay to feel anxious and uncertain. These feelings don’t define your worth or potential. 🧠✨
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Start Small: You don’t need to make huge changes overnight. Think of one small step you can take today. Maybe it’s as simple as going for a short walk or reaching out to someone you trust. 🚶♂️
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Seek Support: Consider talking to someone who can help, whether it’s a therapist, a supportive friend, or even an online community. It can be really beneficial to connect with those who understand what you’re going through. 💬👥
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Explore Interests: Think about what you might enjoy doing, even if it feels challenging. From hobbies to volunteering, every little experience can help build your confidence and give you a sense of purpose. 🎨🌍
- Set Realistic Goals: Instead of looking for a “perfect” job, focus on what you can realistically do right now. This could mean applying for part-time roles or even exploring internships that offer a supportive environment. 🎯
Remember, taking that first step is a huge victory, no matter how small it seems. So, where do you think you can start? Do you have any past experiences that might inspire your next move? Let’s chat about it!
And don’t forget, it’s never too late to reach out for help. You’ve already taken a brave step by sharing your feelings. Keep pushing forward! 💪❤️
You are if u want. It’s a choice make it, u are nowhere close to far for making that up.
Start with no more self deprecation. Are u broke now or ok? Any interest doing anything at all particular or all seems same no inclination at all? Interest, hobby ? Had to like something before 20s
30 ur life just starting… I’m 34. U don’t want to know what I did for 10 years..
Get into the gym or any physical hobby with supportive people around you. Find a job that has a good culture and accommodates your needs and schedule; in this case, working more hours is beneficial because it helps you get out of the house and away from negative thoughts, all while earning money instead of recklessly spending it. Consider changing your social media, YouTube, or television habits; if you typically watch scary or depressing shows, switch to more wholesome or uplifting content. The goal is to fill your free time with meaningful and positive activities that counteract the state of mind you’re in.
I’m not sure about your physical capabilities, but whatever they are, make the most of them. Remember, life is not about quitting when things get tough; it’s about playing the game until the end. Your suffering has a purpose: it helps develop a resilience and strength within you. Instead of focusing on shortcomings and negatives, channel your energy into growth and positivity.
Recovering from medical issues is doing something.
Now you sound ready to take on the next thing. What’s the smallest move you could make in the direction you want to go?
Find a volunteer job if you’re financially stable? Look on meet up for a social group to join. Go to public places to do your research on jobs or schools, don’t stay isolated in your room (coffee shops or libraries). Make it a rule to start talking to one stranger a day, even to say hi or comment on the weather. Join an online group for your medical issue and be active in it. Any one of these is a start. What do you think? Also therapy would be helpful if you can access that.
Daily walks in different settings. Just do it, even if only for 15 minutes.
Since you said financially stable let’s do some suggestions. Hit up your local library if you have one. Browse books. See if anything catches your interest. Ask your librarian if they know any resources for learning new things period, you could explain what happened super breifly and say you don’t know what to do next but wanted to know the resources available to you. Computer classes, crafts, gardening clubs, church outreach, whatever they do in your area or host, etc. It can be easier to talk to people who usually are kind enough to want others to succeed, librarians usually want to help others and spread knowledge and education and resources. They also might know of someone whom you’d get along well with or who might need help with their small business or organization. Although that’s asking for a lot and sounds completely ridiculous at the very least it’s a put yourself out there exercise and the first step to to trying new things.
Start adding healthy routines to your life before you add other things. So walking routine or meditation or something just for yourself to have a time to chill and relax.
You can also apply to jobs for “fun”. Like somewhere you think would be fun to work, like a home deocr store, or a flower shop, or a bakery. But you cant be worried about the outcomes while applying and just consider it practice, and if you get an interview and if you cant handle a ton of work ask for part time upfront. Can take your time working on a resume before starting this step, library can help with that too likely. Can also take this time to consider volunteering to have something to add to the resume. Volunteering could come in so many variations.
You could also try free learning resources online like learn to type really fast, learn to code, learn makeup, learn hair styling for yourself so you feel more confident, etc. The possibilities are honestly almost endless. 😅
I wish you luck in your new chapter of life.