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Hey there, it sounds like you’re going through a tough time, but know that you’re not alone. Here are a few things you can consider to help yourself during this difficult period:
– Seek therapy or counseling to address your depression and panic attacks.
– Join support groups online or in person for people who have gone through similar experiences.
– Focus on self-care activities like exercise, meditation, and spending time with loved ones.
– Consider volunteering or finding a new hobby to regain a sense of purpose.
Remember, healing takes time, so be patient with yourself. You deserve to prioritize your mental health and well-being. Stay strong, and reach out for help whenever you need it. 💪💖 #YouAreNotAlone
Sounds good! You are free now. Send him some revenge porn.
try to find a job and live your life, losing your bf doesnt mean you lost everything. breakups are quite common thing.
I broke up with my GF recently under really similar circumstances, it hurts a lot still…
But in retrospect, I think the relationship started to deteriorate when I noticed she didn’t really bring any value. We also had arguments and fights during our vacations (which I was paying btw) and I just let her go, she was bringing me down and not supporting me enough.
Just try to be a valuable person for your next relationship, work on yourself, be grateful, secure and trust your partner.
Stop overdramatising it by saying you “lost everything” for a start. Plenty of longer relationships have ended, it’s painful but still far from the end of the world. I assume you’re going to therapy as you’re on antidepressants, but if you’re not do that please. Something that is helpful for a lot of people is writing down things they’re grateful for; in your case, you might say that you’re grateful to have a roof over your head, you’re grateful you can afford your medication, you’re grateful you have family support. That could help remind you that you haven’t “lost everything”. You should also figure out if you can and want to follow through on moving countries, but without your ex. Best of luck.
It takes some time to adjust and reinvent your new life, but it will get better! A lot of people experience the same!
Being content and truly happy must come from yourself internally otherwise your happiness will always rely on external controls that will always be outside of your control. .love yourself and start a new relationship with yourself. Read Letting Go by David Hawkins
Get over it and move on with life. You’re very young and can have a fresh start at life. I know it’s not easy and you will be hurting for awhile. Things will get better with time though.
It’s time to hit the gym and start applying for jobs. Even working part time jobs will distract you enough to help you out of the hole. Never rely on someone for your happiness and self purpose. You will be better off once you come out of this. Good luck!
After looking into your profile I’m not so sure you’re a girl, or at least not a straight one. Why are you doing this?
no offense there’s bigger problems than losing your boyfriend please grow up find a hobby
You feel like you’ve lost your sense of purpose and have panic attacks everyday—that’s normal bc you had an extreme stressful life change. Perhaps you are taking the breakup personally, like you feel guilty or like you could have done something to change it. Maybe you feel unlovable. Those are all normal feelings to experience rn.
What you need to do is counteract those feelings. Do you have a pet? Can you volunteer at a pet center? Put your love into the pets and get love back from them. It will help heal your hurt so that you can go back to your normal.
The moments that define us are often unkind, uncaring and untimely. It will be okay. It sucks, but it happens to the best of us. Defining moments right?
My suggestion, is for you to take a look at what you can control, and exert some normalcy there. Doesn’t have to be a grand gesture, just something you did before your relationship. Something when your identity was singularly yours.
Take a bit of time to get back up, it’s really okay.
If you’re not sure how to make inventory of yourself, I suggest taking a peak at your internalized hierarchy of needs (Maslow). Housing, job, self care, self love. It may seem impossible, but the journey of a thousand miles starts with the first step. Pretty soon, you’ll hit that rhythm and life goes on.
Cheering for you.
#NDCQ Not Dead, Can’t Quit
NEVER give another person that kind of power over you.
He’s not worth it. I’m certain after reading your post.
Reflect what happened during the conflict between you and your ex and see what you could have done to improve or deescalate then apply it for the next relationship (unless he was inherently abusive or had anger issues).
Be self sufficient and financially indepedent as your current goal. Try to do cardio or get a bike to help your mental health. I had these issues too, excersise with treatment helped.
Goal: Stay alive.
One day at a time.
It gets better, I promise you this.
Just stay alive.
Life is worth the pain.
You’re strong and worth love.
Stay Alive.
It feels like you’ve lost everything, because you lost that version of life you thought you’d have with them. I know this feeling too well. Takes a LOT of time to adjust and find the new you. I think the anxiety comes from knowing you’re not yourself and you likely still think of how happy your old self was and want to go back to that, but unfortunately knowing you can’t and you’ve been changed forever, is a lot to process.
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First of all, what happened to you is a very big deal. What you’re feeling is normal given the circumstances, and I think all you should do right now is work towards feeling good and stable again. I’d say start small and set goals just for a day at a time, like taking a mile walk or something.
Codependency is a hell of a drug, since you were supported through (uni?) use whatever degree you earned to establish yourself as your own person and don’t rely heavily on others financially without a plan b.
Get a job.
Time heals all, so surround yourself with friends and loved ones.
You’re 28 years old! Go get a job. Volunteer. Date, have some random sex.