#LettingGoOfFirstTimeBaggage #SexualExperience #Prostitute #Regret #MovingOn
Hey there, 🌟
I understand that having your first sexual experience with a prostitute can leave you feeling a mix of emotions, from shame and regret to anger and disappointment. But it’s important to remember that your past does not define you, and you have the power to let go of this baggage and move forward.
Here are some steps you can take to help you release the weight of this experience and find peace within yourself:
## Acknowledge Your Feelings
It’s completely normal to feel a range of emotions about your first time with a prostitute. Allow yourself to acknowledge these feelings without judgment. It’s okay to be upset, angry, or even ashamed. Once you accept these emotions, you can start to work through them.
## Challenge Negative Thoughts
It’s easy to get caught up in negative self-talk, but remember that your worth is not determined by one experience. Try to challenge those thoughts that tell you that you are “pathetic” or “ashamed.” Replace them with positive affirmations that remind you of your value and self-worth.
## Seek Support
Talking to someone you trust about your feelings can be incredibly healing. Whether it’s a friend, family member, therapist, or support group, having a safe space to share your story can help you process your emotions and gain perspective.
## Focus on the Present
While it’s important to acknowledge your past experiences, it’s equally important to focus on the present moment. What matters most is how you move forward from here. Take this as an opportunity to learn and grow, rather than letting it hold you back.
## Practice Self-Compassion
Be gentle with yourself during this time. Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding that you would offer a friend facing a similar situation. Show yourself compassion and forgiveness as you work through your emotions.
## Explore New Relationships
If you feel ready, consider exploring new relationships or sexual experiences with people who respect and care for you. Remember that intimacy is about connection, trust, and mutual respect, and you deserve to experience it in a positive and fulfilling way.
## Letting Go of Labels
Don’t let society’s expectations of what a “normal” first sexual experience should look like dictate how you feel about your own. Your journey is unique to you, and there is no right or wrong way to navigate it. Let go of the need to categorize or compare your experience to others’.
In conclusion, remember that it’s never too late to let go of past baggage and start fresh. By taking the time to process your emotions, seek support, and practice self-compassion, you can release the weight of your first time with a prostitute and move forward with confidence and self-love. You deserve to feel at peace with your past and hopeful for your future. 🌈
If you’re struggling to let go of this experience, consider seeking professional help or therapy to support you on your journey towards healing. You are not alone, and there is always help available to guide you towards a place of peace and self-acceptance. 💖
Remember, your worth is not defined by one moment in time. You are so much more than your past experiences, and you have the strength within you to overcome any obstacles that come your way. Embrace your journey, release your baggage, and step into a brighter, more empowered future. You’ve got this! 🌟
Stay strong and keep shining bright. You are worthy of love, forgiveness, and happiness. 💗
With love and support,
[Your Name] 🌸
I don’t think the people who got drunk and slept with a girl at a college party did any better than you. Your life is your life. Your past happened, and you can accept it and learn from it, or you can fight against it and suffer more than necessary.
Acknowledge that this is an absolutely pointless practice, what’s done is done and the past cannot be changed.
You have to live in the present, if you still struggling then see a therapist about this
It’s not something that bad, the whole thing of a special first time is a bit too romanticized. I’m not sure most people could say their first time was magical. With time it’ll fade and you’ll count the really good ones 🙂
From experience, sex workers are supposed to be pros at that, you could also consider it as “having your first fine dining experience at a Michelin star restaurant” lol
You are your own worse enemy.
Don’t shame yourself. You didn’t throw anything away. Try to think of it as your first (and only) time with THAT WOMAN. Every person is a new first. This doesn’t have to matter if you allow yourself to let it go.
So instead of having your first time with an amateur and have so-so sex, you went for a professional who knew what she was doing. Kudos!
Whatever happened in your past is at most a memory. Leave it at that and don’t fret about it.
Your first time doesn’t really mean anything. To be honest, most people’s first time, being with someone they love or not, are bad. Think about it as a weight off your shoulders – now you have experience, and can use it to improve. It’s only uphill from here, so just go for it.
You didn’t throw anything away, virginity, neither male nor female, has no value.
You’re applying more significance to this then you need to. Yes, you can pretend like it “didn’t count,” there is no arbiter or judge to say otherwise
You didn’t throw anything away. It’s not some precious family heirloom you threw in the dumpster behind a waffle house. You put WAY too much emphasis on this. Your first time is such an insignificant footnote in your overall life to intentionally jeopardize your future over it is crazy.
You want to know what I would think if my best friend told me his first time was with a sex worker? The same thing I would think if he told me his first time was with a girl he met on tinder. I couldn’t care less.
As you grow, you will mature. Like now. So think of the entire thing as a life lesson. And as far it being the first time, it doesn’t matter to anyone and it will lose significance to you as you age as well
Nobodies first sex was good. Get over it and don’t think about it.
Set yourself free. The only way forward seems to be forgiving yourself.
I don’t think you did anything wrong, and the whole idea of your “first time” is irrelevant.
If you really feel extraordinarily horrible about it, vow to avoid it in future and view it as a valuable lesson.
Either way, letting it go, comes from within
After you bang more girls, you won’t even care about how you lost your virginity.
Put it behind you. Everyone has had a bad sexual experience once in their life. Just don’t tell too many people. Ki da keep it to yourself
Accept it and quit beating yourself up over it. No one died here.
The only pathetic things about this is assigning value to virginity in the first place. It’s only meaningful if you’re saving yourself for someone special, and even then that’s a cultural thing. You banged the stripper, fine. Just hook up with more than just that one person and get a taste of life’s variety, and stop dwelling on what can’t be changed.
Went to a party once. Two escorts turned up (sex workers) early hours of the morning and I immediately left. Both were foreign and didn’t speak a word of English. Heard stories the day after about how ‘everyone had a go’ and it made me feel sick. No longer speak to those who were there.
Will never be something I’d be comfortable with. It’s a dangerous business and exploitation on a level I’ll never be okay with.
In your regard, I’d say to be happy your vision no longer aligns to negatives from your past. It’s good growth on your part!
Go second time
Its as bad as you make it out to be. Dont guilt yourself anymore.
also, that was the way, a long time ago… and some people still do it that way because they just want to get it out of themselves and move on.
Have you had sex since then with anyone else? It sounds like it’s really affecting you because it was a bad experience, if you have other experiences that are better it might help you move on and stop dwelling on it.
Also it would probably help if you stop comparing yourself to everyone around you. It’s just going to make you feel worse about it. And I can guarantee you, you’re not the only person who has lost it to a sex worker or who had a bad first experience.
“We suffer more in our minds than in reality.” – Seneca
Honestly you’re putting all this pressure on yourself. I use to be an IV herion addict. I did so much I use to care about and the longer I became sober the more I just cared about having a good life. Worry about having a good life and you’ll stop caring about one shitty night in the past. Don’t put yourself through something over literally one night. Sorry it played out that way but you’re fine homie.
I would recommend therapy. I know exactly how difficult it is to feel like you didn’t get those “first“ experiences, I was raped before I even had my first kiss and I have had anger and jealousy that other people I knew got to experience that stuff the way you’re supposed to, a little bit at a time with somebody you actually care about. Don’t let anybody tell you that you’re overreacting or anything else, you’re allowed to feel how you feel. Talking it out with a professional can really help, I know it did me.
Don’t sweat it man, once you go 5+ years without sex, you’re basically a virgin again
Trust me dude, when you’re older and settle down with someone you love, it will just be an embarrassing story. The good thing though is that I don’t think anyone has a good first time. It’s all just embarrassing, and you learn something from it.
If it’s any consolation I think this was very normal in the olden days.
The other way to look at is is that it doesn’t define you now or then. More, the past is what we want it to be.
I’m so sorry that your first time was met with so much pressure. That’s really hard to work through. I’m going to agree with a lot of the other comments; your first time is never good. It doesn’t need to count unless you choose to. And I can explain that better in a second.
My husband actually lost his virginity to a sec worker as well. His was also kind of a pressure thing. He was 17, got told his girlfriend would hate him for being inexperienced and his friend set it up for him. Three times. He hated all three and never counts any of those as his first time. While he acknowledges that it happened, he just kind of pushes it aside.
When I was younger, I had to go to therapy for some abuse. One of the things I was told a lot of things and a few stuck with me. My first time can be anything I want it to be. My first time with someone I love, with someone I’m dating, with someone I made the first move on, someone with brown hair, anything I choose. My first time is my terms, not someone else’s. You may not feel great about your last experience, but that doesn’t have to be YOUR experience. You get to choose that for yourself. You said felt pressured and that can mean it wasn’t your choice to do it.
A lot of people will say there’s shame in this and there shouldn’t be. It is a really common thing to learn as well. There are a lot more people than you’d expect who have lost their virginity to a sec worker and honestly, they’re just people. You pay for sex in other ways regardless of who they are. Even if it’s just paying for it with your time and a piece of you.
If you are still having troubles coping though, I’d look into talking to a professional. You shouldn’t feel this burden for the rest of your life.
8 billion people on this planet, most will at some point in their lives have sex. Your virginity isn’t special, now go find a girlfriend and enjoy sex how you want.
Stop dwelling on something you can’t change.
Don’t beat yourself up too bad man. It’s not like you killed someone or ruined your life or someone else’s. It’s literally the oldest profession. You will probably look back at this one day and laugh
don’t put so much value in your first time, the main thing people remember from their first time is how bad they were at it.
Arnold had a good thing to say about reflecting on his past. Something along the lines of, “there’s really not a lot in it for me to think about the past. I’m more interested in the future and what I’m going to do.” It’s good advice. We can’t change the past we can only create a better future for ourselves. Forget about it and go find a girl you care about to have great sex with.
That sounds absolutely horrible. I’m sorry that happened to you. Your “friends” or whoever pressured you into having sex at the strip club sound like complete assholes.
It’s bullying in the worst possible way. At 18 you are still young and it’s easy to make mistakes
Especially if you have “bad friends”. When I was 15 or so my mates pressured me into making out with a drunk chick and 30 years later I still bitterly regret that as I am unsure if she consented or was just really drunk. It felt not right in the moment and it was just a really uncomfortable situation that I didn’t actually want to be in. But my “friends” pressured me and I was young, weak and stupid.
I don’t hate myself. But I do resent my “friends” and honestly if they lay burning in the gutter I am not sure I would piss on them.
We can’t undo the past. Only try to learn from it and not repeat past mistakes. I think that changing your focus might help. You didn’t lose your virginity to a sex worker of your own intent. It was not your idea. You only did it because of the situation and those around you. It is a shitty situation. But you lived through it. You are reflecting on it and in my opinion you have healthy thoughts about it. It’s ok to feel bitter. But not at yourself. It wasn’t your idea. You seem to understand that other people have value and that is a great basis for forming relationships.
Your crappy experience does not define you. You can let it go and walk with your head high.
My husband lost his virginity at 16 to a female friend at a party. She called him over to go upstairs and bang, and he accepted the invitation. Like 99% of dudes, he busted within moments of making skin-to-skin contact for the first time. She proceeded to go downstairs and semi-talk trash about the minute-man performance. Even losing it to someone you know can kinda suck
Not a day goes by that I even think about the girl I lost my virginity to. The only people who I can see losing their virginity being special is those who wait until marriage or if it was like high school sweethearts who lost their virginity to each other and are currently married.
I don’t think most people care. It’s honestly probably better that you lost it to a sex worker because you aren’t going to be good your first time having sex. Just think about how it is for people who lost it to someone they actually deeply cared about. They just had some pretty shitty sex with someone they actually care about.
Perhaps the only way to get over someone is under another