Struggling with regret from past decisions? Share your top tips for overcoming it! #mentalhealth #selfimprovement #lifedecisions #regret #personaldevelopment
How to Move Past Regret and Embrace Your Future
Have you ever found yourself stuck in a cycle of regret over choices you made in the past? It’s a common struggle that many people face. Here are some tips to help you let go of those negative feelings and move forward with confidence and positivity:
1. Practice self-compassion: Be kind to yourself and understand that everyone makes mistakes.
2. Focus on the present: Instead of dwelling on the past, concentrate on what you can do right now to improve your situation.
3. Learn from your past: Use your past experiences as lessons to guide your future decisions.
4. Talk it out: Sharing your feelings with a trusted friend or therapist can help you gain perspective and find solutions.
5. Take action: Instead of ruminating on the past, take proactive steps towards creating the future you want.
Remember, it’s never too late to make positive changes in your life. By letting go of regret and focusing on growth and self-improvement, you can create a brighter and more fulfilling future for yourself. So, how do you personally deal with regret and move forward? Share your tips below! #growthmindset #movingforward #positivity
By saying “everything happens for a reason.” If those mistakes didn’t happen, I probably wouldn’t be who I am now, and I quite like who I am now!
I don’t regret them, so there’s nothing for me to get over like that. Were my decisions always the best ones? Not even close. Do I have the trust, love, respect and belief that the person I was at the time did tried to the best that she could with the choices available to her and the information that she had? Yes. I don’t regret my choices even if some of them resulted more in valuable life lessons than intended results.
I give myself grace for having been younger, less experienced, less knowledgeable, and for doing my best fumbling along with what I had and knew at the time. Rather than regretting choices where I would have potentially made a different decision with the knowledge I have now and as the person I am now, I use those lessons more towards my future and working to make decisions that are better aligned with my true intent going forward. I can’t undo past decisions, but I can continue to work towards making better ones now and in the future based on what I’ve learned. Regret wastes energy, imo.
I just accept they are part of me and let me be the person I’m now.
I moved on and learned from past mistakes. I can’t travel in time , no point in dwelling on things I can’t change
What’s the point in regretting the things I can’t change?
I regret using drugs and becoming homeless at 17 when I was kicked out for using drugs but what is the value in giving any mental space to that?
Nothing to do but move on and make the best of the life I have
I don’t really have any regrets. I’ve made mistakes, sure, but I accept that’s how I’ve learned and grown into the person I am today.
I wouldn’t be who I am and where I am today if I didn’t make those decisions when I was younger. Right here feels like where I’m meant to be for the time being.
I just do my best to learn from those things to live my life better and happier as I go forward. Also helps with my empathy for young people I know now, the mistakes they make, and doing my best to be a positive influence to help them avoid their own regrets.
But really all positive and negative things that happen in life ultimately influence us. So no real point in dwelling on it, we just make the best of it.
making even worse choices as an adult that i can regret instead. LOL
Recognizing that it was in the past, and I can do absolutely nothing about it. Then moving forward learning from the mistakes I made so I can continue to grow as a person.
Oh boy. Still working on it. I have many. The best answer I can come up with is trying to redeem and make amends for my mistakes.
The only thing I regret is having had regrets in the first place.
I really haven’t. You just move on and they become regrets.
Consider it as a “lived and learned experience”
I really don’t like the whole “everything happens for a reason” shtick. I think its kind of a lame cop put. But when im feeling really embarrassed/regretful about the things in my past I try really hard to remind myself that I have what I have now. And what I have now is really good. And I might not have it of I had made different choices.
I also try to remind myself that although those things weren’t great, there’s literally nothing I can do to change it so obsessing over it does no good.
Every time i catch myself overthinking about it I finish off with “but at least i didn’t kms!” and it makes me feel better.
I didnt. I just kept living
I think about what happened after the thing I regretted and how it’s lead me to where I am today. I’m pretty content with my life and my past decisions, good and bad, are the reason why.
Forgive yourself and make better choices. We’ve all done things we regret. It’s part of life & becoming who we’re supposed to be.
I believe everything happens for me rather than to me. Hence everything is for my greater glory
I tell myself, look you did some dumb shit, but at least you got it out of the way while you were young and you learned a lot from it. Plus making dumb decisions has helped me become less judgmental of people. Also I hope it will provide me with good parenting material. I will be able to tell my kids about all the dumb stuff I did and the bad outcomes I suffered as a consequence and hopefully they will just spare themselves the hassle of doing it too…or if they do dumb stuff at least they will know that mom did some idiotic stuff too when she was young so I can totally chat to her about crap.
Now when I look back… all those mistakes were part of leaning and made me who I am today
I didn’t.
To me there’s no such thing as living without regrets entirely, reflecting on our past choices is how we learn and make better decisions in the future after all. In that sense we all have that feeling of “what could have been if I had just done things differently”
It’s okay to feel that way sometimes, it’s normal. Doing so continuously, to me at least, is an indication that a person has a fundamental lack of self compassion. They are overly critical of themselves and find it easier (perhaps even comforting) to stew in self loathing.
And exercise that’s been helping me is closing my eyes in a silent space and literally picturing myself as two people, the person I am now and myself as a child. I talk both as myself to that inner child and as that inner child to myself. I allow myself as the inner child to voice my feelings openly and without a filter, as children are to do. I then as my adult self comfort, validate, educate, reassure, and guide that inner child as I would my own.
At first it was difficult because I wasn’t even aware of how harshly I was talking to myself, but when I pictured what I would say to myself to a struggling kid I realized “I’m very mean and judgmental of myself”. I vividly remember coming to a place where I could clearly see myself as both crying and hugging myself when that little me could trust that I had their best interests at heart, that I don’t have to be afraid of myself. That regardless of my choices that I will forever love myself and accept who I am.
I made and continue to make as effort to be more patient, compassionate, and forgiving of myself through that lens. It doesn’t mean I don’t discipline myself or avoid correcting poor behaviors/beliefs, it just means that when I do it’s always from a place of kindness to myself. Just as a child can’t know any better than what they do and act on it so can’t anyone else. I’m gonna make choices that a future me will look back on and think was short sighted or even a bit silly, but that just means I’ve grown.
So I owe it to myself in the future, myself in the past, and myself now to make the most of what and who I am. Accept my feelings, understand them, then adjust my behavior to reach a more desired outcome.
TLDR: We all make mistakes. Accept them, learn from them, and be kind to yourself. It’s your unique journey in life and that itself is pretty special.
by acknowledging that i did the best with what i had in that moment
You can’t turn back. You have to keep moving. You made a mistake or a bad choice, next time you will know what to do. Tomorrow can be better.
You made the best decision based on the information you had at the time.
I don’t think… no I know that I wouldn’t be the woman I am today if I hadn’t made every decision I did. You learn from those mistakes. You recognize what made you make that decision and why you did it. I don’t regret anything because everything that’s happened has taught me more than I could’ve ever known. I am a better person for it. I am a better daughter, sister, girlfriend, and friend.
Started making better decisions.
Well, sometimes you don’t. Sometimes you wish you hadn’t wasted your 20s drifting and trying to survive. But it makes me grasp everyday by the horns and plan things I want to do.
I haven’t. I think about my mistakes everyday and it’s eating me alive
I learned that regretting things benefits me in absolutely no way. It has already been done. The only thing I can do is learn from my mistakes and try to laugh it off.
I don’t regret anything because if I changed anything I wouldn’t be who I am now. Even the worst relationship I had- I call him the best/worst one because I learned how to stand up for myself and leave him. I good with all of it.
My Mom spent most her life hating my Dad after the divorce, probably because it was easier to hate him than herself.
I always try to remember that if I’m happy with where I am I can’t regret getting here
This actually implies that I got over it
Keep moving forward remember where you came from. Every choice I have ever made seems to be biting me in the butt right now. Yes I regret my choices but I have learned and have become stronger. I have experienced more than people my age and I’m almost 30, I’d put my experience in life closer to 45 or 50 years. If I can help a younger person not make mistakes I have made it is worth it.
I have learned to finally have empathy for my younger self. And remind myself to just be better than yesterday everyday forever
I say, “It already happened, and I made it through.”
There is literally nothing you can do about it now.
Knowing that everything is an education. Some paid more fees than the others. And then forgive yourself. If you knew then what you know now, you wouldn’t be making those decisions. Knowing you’re not a fool. You’re just inexperienced.
Therapy
I see it as , what can I do now that I can look back on and be proud of.
You can’t change the past. So make today and tomorrow better for yourself.
I can’t change what happened. All I can do is learn from it, and move on. I can realize that the mistakes I did make or the things that happened in my life are all part of who I am and I love who I am.