#FriendlessClub #15Percenters #NoFriendsNoProblem
Are you part of the 15% of men who find themselves without a group of buddies to lean on? You’re not alone! Join the community of 15%ers who navigate the world without the typical pack of friends.
How Did You End Up in the Club?
Being part of the 15% club isn’t always a choice. Some men may find themselves in this situation due to various circumstances such as:
1. Moving to a new city where they don’t know anyone.
2. Struggling with social anxiety that makes it hard to connect with others.
3. Focusing on career or personal development, leaving little time for socializing.
4. Going through a breakup or loss of a close friend that leaves them feeling isolated.
Breaking the Stigma
While society often places a strong emphasis on having a close group of friends, it’s essential to remember that being friendless doesn’t define your worth. It’s okay to march to the beat of your drum and embrace your individuality.
Embracing Solo Adventures
Without the constraints of group dynamics, you have the freedom to explore your interests and passions solo. Whether it’s traveling to new destinations, trying out new hobbies, or diving into personal growth, being a part of the 15% club allows for self-discovery and independence.
Building Connections on Your Terms
Just because you don’t have a traditional circle of friends doesn’t mean you can’t cultivate meaningful relationships. Look for like-minded individuals through shared interests, online communities, or local events to form connections that align with your values and lifestyle.
Seeking Support When Needed
It’s essential to prioritize your mental health and well-being, especially when feeling the weight of loneliness. Don’t hesitate to reach out to mental health professionals, support groups, or online resources for guidance and assistance in navigating your journey as a 15%er.
Embrace your uniqueness, pursue your passions, and remember that being part of the 15% club doesn’t define your worth. You are valid, deserving of connection, and capable of forging your path in a world that celebrates individuality. 🌟 #OwnYourStory #15PercentersUnite
Fell into depression, stopped contacting people and stopped responding to invites to anything because I don’t want to do anything. Then years went by in a flash like this and I just lost contact with everyone.
I stopped being the one to reach out first. You’ll quickly realize people really don’t care about you. I stopped caring.
Had a kid, everyone stopped contacting unless they needed something. Meh
Got married, moved to a new city then had children. My life is work, kids, house/chores with little time left. Mid 40s, meeting other dudes is always weird and uncomfortable. They already have friends. Wife is also introverted, only has a few friends whose husbands are not guys I would hang out with other than when kids are all together. Finally, my hobbies are pretty singular: reading, movies, working on my house. Hope when I have more time I can find some friends lol
Saddest part is my boomer parents have a ton of friends. They’re way more busy socially with vacations and cruises and constant parties. I’m all like, you’re 80…
At one point it was because my lieing abusive gf’s lies and bs were believed. Fuck those people anyway.
Never had friends growing up. Just used to it now.
I was always the back-up friend. After highschool communication stopped and i didn’t reach out either.
Now at 30+ people already have their friendgroups or no time. So never making any new friends just colleagues or acquaintances.
I’m just not overly social and most of the things I enjoy doing don’t really need a group to do.
And a lot of the things I like to do, I could just never found people in my social circle that both they enjoyed doing it. And I enjoyed doing it with them.
I misjudged them as friends when they were only just acquaintances.
Military. Dad did 20 then I turned around and did 20. I keep in contact with a small amount of people I’ve met throughout my career but I’ve moved every few years my entire life. I’m used to leaving people behind. It’s second nature to me now.
Autism, anxiety, and depression. Nothing I try seems to change anything. I’ve never been in a relationship either. I feel like I’m a lost cause, and no one seems to care.
after school i went to a university no one else from my school went to so lost touch there. Did a course that resulted in jobs in remote locations so lost touch there. travelled a lot for work for years so didnt seem to find myself around regularly enough to establish things and no i just have fallen into a work and family pattern
I was unable to foster friendships as a kid, teenager and a young man. With other members of my family, those were the people that stuck.
As an adult, I have work friends. As I or them leave the company, they fade away soon after. It’s sad but I’ve learned to accept it.
I cut everyone off on purpose. Deleted all my social media accounts, stopped answering texts, skipped out on funerals and family events. I suppose I was depressed. I didn’t want to drag others down with me. I also didn’t want the responsibility of friendship. Now I’m completely alone, and at least I can’t hurt anyone but myself.
I would always reach to friends until I realized they didn’t reciprocate. Once I stopped, my life became less stressful.
They keep having kids and ignoring my calls. Tired of fighting to be in their lives.
Simple. Friends get coupled up, married, kids and then barely initiate hang outs. Visits get more and more spread out. I initiate, travel to visit friends, they are busy and distracted, their wives give off the vibe that they’d rather not have visitors around so I respectfully give them their space and then years can go by between visits, we then slide into our mid 40s and 50s, time increasingly compresses. It stings because in my younger years it all felt so permanent and solid.
It just kind of worked out that way. Normal friendship opportunities simply didn’t present themselves during my formative years, so I learned early on to live and be comfortable with it.
OP 15% depends on the age. Older guys like me have zero friends. Young 30 year olds still have friends. Most do
I don’t believe that stat
For me (29M) since the end of school. Everybody wanted to study and travel, so they left. Each year the connection got worse to now, where i dort know, what they do. Also i am one of these person, who loves being alone, hates to go out and hates almost every human.
I’d rather stay home and watch my fire tv
I have a few friends left, we text once every six months, say we should get together, then never do.
I’ve been let down by friends too many times now and that’s given me serious trust issues with everyone. I’ve always made the effort with friends and time and time again I’ve been let down. It’s lead me to believe most people are disappointing and not worth the pain I’ll inevitably end up feeling. I’m lonely and it’s very tough but that somehow seems better than what I have felt with people in the past.
After high school all my friends moved away. I was already socially awkward, so going into uni was strange. I got along with some people and we’d hang after class to chat, but I wouldn’t have considered them friends. I put all my time and effort into good grades and working to support myself. So I didn’t have time for socialization and didn’t bother making more of an effort. It’s been 12 years, 10 of which were in shift work. So making friends was hard. Now I have acquaintances more than anything.
They died. 6 in 6 weeks. Just avoided attachment ever since
I have friends but I don’t have much CLOSE friends anymore. My closest friend ended up getting into using needles and drank wayyy too much so we don’t talk anymore but I keep tabs on him
and the others are very VERY Christian and I lean more towards agnostic/not really caring.
It’s very difficult at 29 to admit that I feel like I messed up my 20’s. It’s just hard to meet up with people, considering I was diagnosed with “Quiet”
BPD. Trying to figure life out and trying my damndest to not isolate.
I wouldn’t say absolute zero but basically. Same as most others so far. Put effort into relationships that wasn’t reciprocated.
I’m also (and have always been) in a weird segment of the Venn diagram. I like different things and there’s not much crossover — like football and poetry, or metal music and baking, or outdoors stuff and sci fi. I know people that are into the things I am but not usually *all* or even most things.
User name pretty much says it all. I’ve never followed the flock. I do my things my way and I’ve never been afraid to stand alone.
When you realize that those you might be interested in hanging out with have top priorities of family, careers, and pets and can never find time to fit you in if they haven’t moved away first..
Moved to a different city when I was 50. Basically impossible to make new friends now.
I stopped drinking
I became disabled and my best friend passed away.
I just prefer being alone that having fake people around me
Being too nice
Basically move to a place where is buttfuck nowhere for my job. Buttfuck nowhere people live conservatively. I don’t share their viewpoints in 99% of the things . So live quietly. Do my shit and go and secretly harbour resentment and actively looking for a way out.
I started noticing I was putting more energy into the friendships that the others were, at some point I stopped messaging first and then that was that.
Ginger. Pale, Acne. Nerd. No one wanted to be friends with me. Ever. Now I’m decades older and still don’t have any friends. Crazy, huh?
I don’t know. I honestly don’t know. Didn’t go out of my way to avoid people. I think I was sick and missed the class on “How to Make Friends” that 85% of men went to.
I got tired of the betrayals and finally stood up for myself.
My friends decided that video games and Netflix are more important. So we no longer talk.
“I never had any friends later on like the ones I had when I was twelve. Jesus, does anyone?”