#RelationshipAdvice #BoyfriendIssues #LateNightThoughts
Oh no, it sounds like you’re going through a tough situation right now. Discovering something unexpected on your boyfriend’s phone can be a shock. It’s completely normal to feel a mix of emotions – anger, confusion, sadness, and even betrayal. But before you act impulsively, let’s take a step back and think about the best way to handle this delicate situation.
Here are some steps to consider:
1. **Take a deep breath**: It’s important to calm yourself down before making any decisions. Emotions run high in moments like this, and it’s essential to think things through with a clear mind.
2. **Communicate with your boyfriend**: Once you’ve had some time to process your feelings, have a calm and honest conversation with your boyfriend. Express your concerns and ask for an explanation. It’s crucial to listen to his side of the story before jumping to conclusions.
3. **Set boundaries**: Depending on the outcome of your conversation, it might be necessary to establish boundaries in your relationship. Trust is the foundation of any healthy relationship, and it’s essential to make sure both partners feel respected and valued.
4. **Seek support**: If you’re feeling overwhelmed or unsure of how to proceed, consider talking to a trusted friend or family member. Sometimes an outside perspective can provide valuable insights and support during challenging times.
5. **Take care of yourself**: Remember to prioritize your well-being throughout this process. It’s okay to feel hurt and upset, but make sure to practice self-care and engage in activities that bring you comfort and peace.
6. **Reflect on your values**: In times of uncertainty, it can be helpful to reflect on your values and what you want in a relationship. Consider what is important to you and how you envision a healthy and fulfilling partnership.
Advice based on Bhagavad Gita:
In moments of difficulty, it’s essential to remember that everything happens for a reason. Life is full of challenges and obstacles that test our strength and resilience. Just as Arjuna faced dilemmas in the battlefield, we too encounter struggles in our personal lives. The key is to act with clarity, courage, and compassion, guided by our inner wisdom and values.
Remember, you have the strength to overcome this hurdle and emerge stronger on the other side. Trust in your intuition and the path that lies ahead. Stay true to yourself and your values, and you will find the clarity and peace you seek.
Above all, be gentle with yourself during this time of uncertainty. You deserve love, respect, and understanding. Trust in the journey ahead, and trust in your ability to navigate through this challenging moment with grace and resilience. Stay strong, and know that you are never alone.
I hope this advice helps you navigate through this tough situation. Remember, you are deserving of love and respect in all your relationships. Take care of yourself, and everything will fall into place in due time. 💖 #RelationshipAdvice #TrustYourself #StayStrong
[Text message in question](https://imgur.com/a/BVVf7Et)
“Goddess”?!! I mean for fucks sake
Wake him up and get an answer
next steps would be to ask how long hes been cheating with his ex and make him explain himself if you want and then figure out what to do about the lease so you can dump his ass
What’s dussie
Send this photo to his cellphone from yours. Ruin his whole day from the minute he wakes up.
Even the name on the text labeled as “A” only so you wouldn’t know on the lock screen if he got a notification, that’s such a classic cheater move. Are you able to afford the rent on your own for a few months? If not, as you said, talk to the office/the landlord before kicking him out but, it doesn’t really matter anyway because you can’t really act as if you didn’t see anything until October so… might as well confront him right away. Personally I would wake him up because I know I wouldn’t be able to hide it or even sleep, but maybe that’s a bit intense… I’m sorry this is happening to you.
Be careful how you approach him! My wife’s friend got attacked when she found a very similar message on her husband’s phone. If any chance he could be like that try to have a friend there when you approach.
Or dm me, and I can make your day for ya! Maybe you could fall asleep tomorrow with a video of you telling me how much bigger and better I am
Damn it’s fucking rough, it’s not like you will be able to look at him in the eyes for the time being without appear disgusted and angry. If you have friends I suggest you take some days and ask them if you can sleep there and explain the situation (someone you trust for sure). Then try to contact the landlord or agency and explain the situation briefly, it could help. Anyway, you can move but it will take time to find something not too expensive you can afford.
Whatever excuses he finds out, he is cheating obviously and he is into her pictures because she is easily throwing them at him. It could have been anyone else but since they have past together, it was an evident call for him. I am certain he doesn’t care about her as a woman but only as someone to jerk him .
“I promise she is no one for me, just a pussy !” Something similar. Start to grieve this bastard and fighting!
Do a screenshot with his phone. He’ll know you know. Let him sweat it a bit
First talk to the lease office. Make sure you will be safe financially after October or maybe sooner. Can you pay the monthly costs on your own? After that, make his life a living hell. Tomorrow when he wakes up and opens his phone the first picture he will see is that picture, right? When he is out of bed just casually mention he was drunk, snored the living shit out of you and left his phone open. Don’t mention any repercussions until you are done talking to the lease office.
Rip 3 years… thats so awful girl im so sorry. Pls keep us updated. Personally id be getting a good overnight bag & a hotel room in order for myself at the very least. Cool off a bit & make a plan.
(cont.) Just make him insecure but refrain from telling him your plans. No intimacy anymore, no friendliness. Just play the role of an angry friend.
Is he an angry, dominant guy? Or is he just very submissive? I hope for you he is the latter.
Good luck, I wish you all the best in this shitty predicament. Under no circumstance forgive him for this. He just lost you and all your beauty, love and affection for him.
I’m sorry girl. So embarrassing for him smh.
UpdateMe!
Whoa…… that text is heart and soul crushing. I’m so fucking sorry
If it were me I wouldn’t tell him anything. If you can’t sleep, pack up what you have and spend a few days outside the apartment. I wouldn’t give him a clear answer as to why. Let him sweat as you start figuring out your exit. And then don’t forget to get tested, unfortunately
Girl!! Omg I’m so sorry.
If this was me I’d be petty – I’d just pack my crap and leave and block/ghost with no explanation. Ew!!!
Your relationship is over!!! He’s so cringy
Go shopping with his credit card
You are awake and dealing with this and you’re letting him sleep? Wake him up and kick him OUT!
I hope you texted it to him.
Now please update us!
Dump him
Holy shit my psycho ass would have woken him up and had him in the street after seeing that shit. You have some serious composure. I am so sorry, this is soul crushing.
Something like this happened to me once.
Do what I did:
Wait until morning, cook a nice breakfast… and when you’re both sitting down and eating, act like you got a text… and then read it out loud.
He’s gonna freak out and ask how you got it, and tell him the ex sent it.
He’s going to be like baby pls bb pls no, and you tell him to tell off the ex if he wants to stay.
Make him show you he texted her a nasty message telling her to leave him alone…. And then tell him to pack up his shit and gtfo.
Updateme!
This is bonkers. Sorry he did this to you. Wait until you’ll you’re in position to safely exit and then bail immediately. Or kick him out and have friends there. Maybe have them come over first thing in the morning.
I’m not gon hold you, there’s dead ass no coming back from this. Sad thing is you’d never had known because I’m assuming you trusted him enough but to go through his phone. I’d make that the lock screen of his phone and dip and never speak to him again. There’s no explaining anything here. Even if this is literally just the start, it started off strong. Goddess? Bugging!! He’s lucky you ain’t pour cold water on him lol
UpdateMe
I would disappear.
There is zero reason he would need vag pictures of an x – and if she sent it ‘unprompted’ he should have informed you asap. My gut is saying there is emotional cheating going on and it was intention/welcomed on his part. And naked ex pictures is NOT the same as random porn. It is connected to emotion (in case he tries that crap). But on the plus side that nasty thing did you a favor so you can see his true colors. You deserve better than someone sneaking around like that.