Struggling with getting sick after sex with your partner? 💔 Wondering how to address this delicate issue with your boyfriend? 🤔 Let’s dive in and find solutions together! 🌟
How can I talk to my boyfriend about getting sick after sex?
Are you a 26-year-old female who always feels unwell after intercourse with your 33-year-old male partner? 🤢 Here are some steps to take and topics to consider when broaching this important subject with your significant other:
Assess the Situation
1. Analyze the correlation between sex and feeling sick.
2. Note any patterns or triggers that might be causing your symptoms.
Communicate Effectively
1. Choose the right time and place for the conversation.
2. Use “I” statements to express your feelings without blame.
3. Be open to listening to your partner’s perspective and concerns.
Seek Solutions Together
1. Consider scheduling a doctor’s appointment to rule out any medical issues.
2. Explore different sexual activities or positions that might minimize discomfort.
3. Approach the topic with curiosity and a shared goal of improving your sexual health.
Remember, open and honest communication is key in any relationship. 🗝️ Don’t be afraid to address important issues like this for the sake of your well-being and the strength of your partnership. 💖 #SexualHealth #RelationshipAdvice #CommunicationTips
OP, most likely your new guy has Strep and is probably a carrier (asymptomatic) without knowing it (hopefully). Just have an honest and open conversation without assigning blame and tell him about this.
I’m sure he wants any intimate time you guys have to not end up with you sick. If he doesn’t know though he won’t be able to help you.
Talk to him
Streps mostly harmless, but can actually have huge complications associated with it in certain situations.
Would cut physical contact until he sees a Dr. You could end up with serious problems here, flesh eating bacteria is no joke.
Health comes first. Make him understand that you’re worried about his and your health. If he’s not stupid, he should take it seriously and he would put the ego thing away. Start the convo by saying you like him and what you’re about to say is not you judging him, etc. Have that STD talk asap.
He’s probably an asymptomatic carrier of strep. It’s actually pretty common. He needs to get tested, treated, and replace his toothbrush. However, if you can’t have a simple conversation about your health with this guy, then maybe he’s not the one for you.
Just tell him what you’ve told us. You should be able to have this conversation with someone you are dating and having sex with.
Love, you can’t be on antibiotics this much eventually they will stop working and you’ll be in a world of trouble. You can! Have this discussion has he not been concerned that you’re constantly sick?
I believe you may want to lead with “I think you might have strep” rather than “everytime we have sex I get sick” because I thought this post was going to be about something else entirely and you wouldn’t want him jumping to a similar conclusion.
if you can’t have this conversation with him, you shouldn’t date him. talk to him, this is simple. also you had sex without the std talk?? std talk should come before sex.
If you can have sex with a person you can tell them they make you sick and to get tested.
Don’t be irresponsible with your and his health.
I’m a carrier for strep, so I can have it and have no idea. My freshman year of high school my gf got it like 3 times over 5 months and I thought it was weird I never got it. Eventually her mom called my mom and explained the situation and my mom took me to the doctor and I ended up testing positive despite zero symptoms.
Her mom calling my mom was embarrassing, talking to a 33 year old adult about strep should not be. Just talk to him, chances are he already knows he’s a carrier for this and will go to the doctor right away. If not, if this “hurts his ego” or whatever, you can be comfortable in the fact that he’s less mature than a 15 year old and you’re better off without him.
Correct
i’m not a doctor, but he’s got fuckin strep, genius
You got sick twice?
I feel like I just saw this one from a man’s perspective
You have the STD talk before ever having sex. Not after starting. Using protection is not an excuse.
Step 1. Tell your BF.
Step 2. Have him take antibiotics.
Step 3. Have sex without any bacterial pathogens present.
super simple stuff.
I agree men and women can carry group b strep on their genitals and transfer it. Sounds like that’s exactly what it could be since you had strep throat. I’d ask the doctor or call the nurse. He may very well need a round of antibiotics so he’s no longer a carrier. Ideally you’d both be treated at the same time.
i think hes asymptomatic
Omgggg, I had this happen with someone I was seeing too! Didn’t get strep again after seeing them. Wild reading all the responses because I didn’t realize this was a thing that’s common
If you cannot bring up a conversation about why you keep getting sore throat after kissing him then you definitely should not be having sex with this man. You should never feel uncomfortable about discussing your health.
You haven’t had the STD talk yet but aren’t using condoms? You understand STDs don’t care if it’s your mouth or vagina they infest?
Do people starting new relationships not discuss their sexual health?!
So, just to be clear…neither of you knew the other did/didn’t have an STD? You just “eh, condom” and called it a day?
Fucking hell!
Sit him down, explain that you’ve caught strep twice, and ask if he can be checked to be a carrier.
And, then, both get STD panels just so you both KNOW you don’t have any of that ish!
This is kinda like concluding that because my kids caught colds at the beginning of school every year, it must be the month of September that spreads the disease. Talk to your doctor about how strep spreads, as others have pointed out it may be that your boyfriend is carrying the bacteria that causes strep and doesn’t know it, and he should talk with his doctor as well.
He needs to go to the doctor and also get tested for strep. He’s likely asymptomatic, but there’s a pretty slim chance that if he’s making out with you that he doesn’t have strep as well. I’d stop having sex/making out with him until he goes and gets swabbed.
Peds Infectious disease doctor here. He is probably a carrier. He can decolonize (much like MRSA decolonization). Both of you can do a course of Amoxicillin + rifampin or Clindamycin to eradicate the nasopharynx carriage, then Hibiclens bodywash use in the shower 2 – 3x week for 6 weeks (use old towels as it can stain orange) Wash all linens, towels, clothes in hot water. Do the decolonization together. I’ve done this for kids who get a ton of strep infections and it seems to work.
Did you get tested for gonorrhea in your throat? If not, please do so.
You may want to get tested for other herpesviruses like Epstein-Barr Virus, also known as Mono. He may be a carrier. Lots of people have it but some people react differently when it’s activated
You go abroad for vacation with him but you cannot communicate this to him? How come?
I recently learned I was asymptomatic carrier of mono that should have been noticed as a kid when I kept getting strep . I’m 35 now and just found out .My husband and I have been together for 14 yrs next month and he has never gotten it so lucky for us since he is on meds that lower his immune system. I just wondering if u give oral before or after the condom is on ? I know I say u don’t use it while performing oral but is it after the condom comes off or before it being placed . Could be the lube from the condom or even possibly the shower gel or even his detergent u maybe having allergic reactions to that is causing these .
agreeing w everyone saying hes possibly a carrier asymptomatic. had the same thing happen to me he needs antibiotics. Not only to stop that but also for your sake- the more and more / often you take antibiotics and become “dependent” they become less effective. oral care change is also great as well
My daughter was a strep carrier. Doctor took her tonsils out. Seemed to help.
Ain’t no amount of tall, dark, rich and handsome in the world would get me to put up with this. How about listen to your body? There is nothing in this universe worth compromising your health.
Learn from this ; have the STD talk NOW, I concur with the strep carrying , get regular STD checks and he should get tested as well.
he’s your boyfriend and he doesn’t know you’ve had strep twice? jesus christ
Crazy the lengths some women go to for men they barely know. Like this is crazy you’re getting ill but more concerned ab his feelings. It’s never getting better for women
Ah yeah. Ex BF was on asthma meds, so I would end up getting thrush all the goddamn time when he’d go down on me.
It lead to some wild arguments for years until he finally asked his doctor about a possible connection after a cousin of his told him that the steroids make you more prone to types of fungal infections.
Honestly just have the conversation that you keep getting strep. “Hey this is weird but this is happening and it’s killing our sex life. Is it possible you’re a carrier for strep and are just asymptomatic?”
If he wigs out. He wigs out. Throw that fish back.
For being 26 you seem a bit immature to have not talked about STDs yet AND not feeling comfortable talking to him about how you’re getting sick
I was about to say strep or thrush? Do his balls look red?
Use your mouth and tongue to form words. Expel air from your lungs to make sounds