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Are you tired of faking it in the bedroom? Do you wonder how long your partner should go down on you until you hit that sweet spot? If you’re nodding your head in agreement, you’re not alone. Many individuals struggle with achieving orgasm during sex, and communication plays a crucial role in addressing this common issue.
The Frustration of Faking It
As a female who recently left a long-term relationship, I understand the frustration of never experiencing an orgasm with a partner. It’s essential to know that you are capable of reaching climax through self-pleasure and desire that same level of satisfaction in your sexual encounters.
In my own experiences with multiple partners post-breakup, I’ve encountered situations where I felt the need to fake orgasms out of fear of taking too long or disappointing my partner. This is a common dilemma faced by many individuals who long for genuine connections and authentic pleasure.
The Importance of Open Communication
One of the key factors in overcoming this challenge is open and honest communication with your partner. Discuss your sexual preferences, desires, and any concerns you may have regarding achieving orgasm together. It’s crucial to establish a safe space where both partners feel comfortable expressing their needs and exploring new ways to enhance sexual satisfaction.
Understanding Your Own Body
Before expecting your partner to bring you to climax, it’s essential to understand your own body and what brings you pleasure. Experiment with different forms of stimulation, whether through clit stimulation or penetration, to discover what works best for you. This self-awareness will not only help you guide your partner but also lead to more fulfilling sexual experiences.
Setting Realistic Expectations
When it comes to oral pleasure, there is no set time limit for how long your partner should go down on you. Each individual’s arousal and response to stimulation vary, so it’s essential to communicate your needs clearly and be patient with the process. Remember that pleasure should be a mutual exchange, and your partner should be willing to explore and cater to your needs without pressure or expectation.
Building Trust and Connection
In a healthy and fulfilling relationship, trust and connection are the foundation for sexual intimacy. Take the time to build trust with your partner and create a safe space where you can openly communicate your desires and preferences without fear of judgment. When both partners feel heard and valued, the journey towards shared pleasure becomes more enjoyable and meaningful.
So, how long are you willing to go down on her until she orgasms? The answer lies in understanding and collaboration between partners, mutual respect for each other’s needs, and a genuine desire to create fulfilling sexual experiences. Remember, communication is key, and being open with your partner about your desires and expectations can lead to deeper intimacy and satisfaction in the bedroom. Let’s embrace authenticity and pleasure together!
Thank you for reading my insights and experiences. Let’s continue the conversation and learn from each other to enhance our sexual connections and satisfaction. 💖 #sexualwellness #authenticity #pleasureforall
I think you should just talk to this guy. His thoughts and actions are far more important than mine in this context
69 OR SO
42 minutes
If I have time and I’m in the mood? I once went down for over an hour (i enjoyed it but it was also a fantasy of my significant other at the time).
Usually though she finishes in a few minutes so I do that, continue a bit more with foreplay as I love it.
Each guy is different just like some women like to go down and some don’t.
Is that 1.5-5min indicative of how long it’d take you with a partner or just by yourself? That doesn’t seem unreasonable to me.
The women I’ve been with haven’t ever taken an inordiate amount of time. One woman told me flat out she was incapable of orgasming as far as she could tell (including on her own) so we never tried oral on her because she didn’t care, but otherwise it’s “however long it takes” because it’s not all that long. A few minutes like you reference seems totally normal.
As long as it takes is my answer. As long as I’m wanted down there I will stay!
I just wanna stay there, feels like I get more pleasure than she does
A long time, but lemme ask you a question.
Are you sure he knows how? Not knowing sex techniques or not being able to actually do them is a big thing that stops men from attempting. It’s embarrassing.
Eating pussy is kinda hard until you build up the endurance and also a lot of guys just don’t know how to do it.
You might be able to get him to do it if you encourage him to work up the skill in a productive shame free way
I have gone for quite a while maybe 30 minutes or so
Normally until my jaw falls off.
With a regular partner as long as about 20 minutes (after other forms of foreplay (kissing, cuddling, fondling)) if it’s not happening by then it just might not be happening that time.
First few times could need more and I’ll go for maybe 40 minutes.
Until she either asks for my D or until my jaw hurts so much I can’t continue.
Edit: add until she either cums so she needs a break
i’d be more concerned that i myself am taking too long, not the woman
When i pound i dont last 1min so she deserv very long cunilingus xD .. anyway he could not realy like that but find other way to give you orgasm that his tong ?
As long as it takes. I’ve been overly stimulated in the past where I knew I wasn’t going to last that long so I made sure I gave her two. We like a challenge and an end goal so obviously communication is key.
Some things to consider is letting him know what technique he’s using is giving you the most stimulation so he’ll continue doing that. As you well know, rhythm and consistency is big so as long as he knows he’s doing something that’s working, he’ll keep at it. This is also big for girls, make sure you tell him what stage you’re at and how close you are. You can kind of tell when a girl’s getting close ’cause her breathing patterns start picking up, but actually announcing it is very useful. Same with actually saying that you are so he can get a feel for what you actually do and remember it for next time.
As long as it takes because the second I slide inside her it’ll be over in 60 seconds and then everyone is left disappointed so at least this way she’ll be happy
I’m down there until she wants penetrative sex and pulls me up, or until my tongue gets tired. I thoroughly enjoy cunnilingus.
As long as she wants me there, I’m very happy to be there.
Until She Orgasms
Days
Hey OP, this is for you. Enjoy!!!
https://www.masterclass.com/articles/kivin-method
I always start with head before penetration because i can make her cum in a minute or less from head… For men, put her in 69 and suck her clit don’t lick… It always works for me
At a certain point your jaw/tongue will get fatigued.
The best thing you can do is give the guy constant feedback about what’s working. Steer him. Be explicit. Run your fingers through his hair.
Don’t feel bad about using a vibe during PIV sex. In my view Vibe + PIV is way better than Vibe OR PIV.
I LOVE getting in there and making a girl happy. I don’t care how long it takes as long as I’m getting some kind of feedback. I dated one woman who took about 20 minutes to get there. I enjoyed the teasing, light touches she preferred as a warmup before getting into a rhythmic, steady, light slow licking. When I got to that point she would stop moaning, sighing, thrusting her hips, etc., straighten her legs and get really tense but quiet. She needed 5-10 minutes like that before having a really intense orgasm. I don’t mind it, but I’m not ashamed to admit that I fell asleep during this final stage more than once. I would get woken by the loud moaning and grabbing of hair that indicated she was close. I enjoyed that part, but without some kind of feedback I lost interest.
I find it amazing that my body would continue to work subconsciously on this task when I would fall asleep. She never knew that I feel asleep at these times.
I go as long as it takes. I’ve NEVER started penetration before atleast giving my partner atleast 1 orgasm first.
I’m willing to drown if I have to. My general rule of thumb is that if I don’t need to wipe my face I haven’t finished.
Two or three hours. After that, it’s time to get a cheeseburger and a whiskey or something.
Until she orgasms, rain, sleet, or hail
Lesbian here. I know, I know, but I think I can be helpful in this situation. Absolutely love going down on women, I could do it all day. My #1 tip would be just fuck women, but assuming you’re straight, here’s some advice.
1 – Give him tips. Move his hand/head where you want it. If he’s a decent guy, he’ll be happy for the help, and after a while will learn what you like.
2 – Don’t focus all your energy on finishing. Enjoy the experience, and explore what feels good. You’re never going to orgasm if you’re worried about how long it’ll take you to orgasm.
3 – RELAX. You can’t force yourself to come. Just play around, tell/show him what feels good, and remember to breathe. Don’t clench. Just ride the feeling. It’ll happen, I promise. But if it doesn’t and you still enjoyed it, that’s okay too.
Some of us do it because we like to do it. Time isn’t the issue.