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Breaking up is never easy, and it can be especially challenging when you live with your partner. If you find yourself in this situation, here are some tips on how to go about breaking up with someone you live with.
1. Have an Honest Conversation
Before making any decisions, it’s important to have an open and honest conversation with your partner. Choose a time when both of you are calm and can talk without interruptions. Express your feelings and explain why you think breaking up is the best decision for both of you. Listen to your partner’s perspective as well, and try to come to a mutual understanding.
2. Create a Plan
Once you’ve decided to end the relationship, it’s essential to create a plan for how you will move forward. Consider practical matters such as living arrangements, finances, and belongings. Having a clear plan can help minimize stress and confusion during the breakup process.
3. Give Each Other Space
After the breakup, it’s important to give each other space to process the changes. If possible, consider finding temporary living arrangements for one of you while you both figure out the next steps. This can help ease the transition and reduce tension in the household.
4. Seek Support
Breaking up with someone you live with can be emotionally challenging, so it’s crucial to seek support from friends and family. Surround yourself with people who can offer emotional support and practical assistance during this time. Consider reaching out to a therapist or counselor to help navigate the emotions and challenges of the breakup.
5. Be Respectful and Kind
Regardless of the reasons for the breakup, it’s important to be respectful and kind to your partner throughout the process. Avoid placing blame or engaging in hurtful behavior. Instead, focus on finding a solution that respects both of your needs and well-being.
6. Handling the Logistics
Logistical matters, such as dividing belongings and finding new living arrangements, can be difficult to navigate when breaking up with someone you live with. It’s important to approach these matters thoughtfully and with sensitivity. Consider the following steps:
– Create a list of shared belongings and decide how to divide them fairly.
– Discuss the living arrangements and decide who will move out or if you both need to find new living spaces.
– Address financial matters, such as shared expenses and joint accounts, and come to an agreement on how to handle them.
7. Seek Legal Advice if Necessary
If you and your partner have shared assets, joint accounts, or other legal matters, it may be beneficial to seek legal advice. A legal professional can provide guidance on the best way to handle these matters and protect your rights during the breakup.
In Conclusion
Breaking up with someone you live with is a complex and emotional process, but with clear communication, planning, and support, you can navigate the challenges successfully. Remember that it’s okay to seek help from friends, family, and professionals as you move through this difficult time. Take care of yourself and prioritize your well-being as you transition to a new chapter in your life.
Take a shit on the bed
Bro get out of that, whatever uncomfortable shit you have to go through to do it, just get it done. Not worth living with a girl like that and being unhappy.
ask her to leave, it’s your house. you could probably throw her stuff out tonight if you wanted to.
if she refuses to leave you could probably call the cops?
Bro…. breaknip with her. Change the locks, pack up jer shit and call jer an uber to a friend or family members house. She is using you and she’s not respect you at all. Drunk words are sober thoughts.
I would pack her stuff up and throw her out, but it depends on the local laws where you live since she might have certain rights, especially if she has proof she pays bills there.
I would tell her she has 3 days to get out. Any longer & she’s gonna be trouble. After 3 days, move her stuff out &, if you don’t get keys back, change the locks.
She is probably considered a tenant now, so you need to look up the tenant laws in your state. Odds are, you will have to legally evict her. If she doesn’t know her rights then you might could get her to leave but if she does know her rights, then she knows she can legally stay there. If you throw any of her stuff out, YOU will be breaking the law, so be extra careful. If you do not own the home, then you would have to take it up with the landlord.
Fake your own death, of course.
Tell her that her drunken words speak her sober thoughts. If it’s so bad for her then it’s time for her to get out. If you think she may try to steal or destroy anything of any value, hide it or lock it up before you have this conversation with her. Tell her it’s time to move on and give her a short time frame to get out.
>Do I help her move….
No, not your problem to deal with.
Secretly record your conversation asking her to leave.
Kick her out had an ex was the same way they just get worse and more alcoholic, she was a terrible drunk too. Same shit. I divorced moved on and have a good life now
Tell her you’re done, and you need her to find a new place to live, and she has 2 weeks. If she goes over the time frame, start inviting other women over. Since you know, she doesn’t seem to respect you at all.
>If we were to break up….
Don’t threaten yourself with a good time! You might just have one!
Seriously – initiate launch sequence! Life is too short for this shit!
>Do I help her move…. Do I just make her figure it out?
Dont you think you’ve helped her enough? Maybe just put her shit on the porch and change all the locks?
Call the garbage company get the bill in your name. Tell her she needs to move you’re breaking up. If you’re worried she may get violent, have other people there to witness the conversation.
Sounds like a shitty situation.
Before you do *anything*, and *I mean ANYTHING*. Do the following, in order, and without raising suspicion:
1. Update every password.
2. Manage your browsing history.
3. Collect all sensitive and sentimental documentation and items from around your place and secure them under lock and key.
4. Talk with a lawyer, tell them EVERYTHING.
5. For you and your lawyer, keep a record of events, conversations, and behaviors.
6. Begin reiterating verbal conversations via text message with her; OR, if your state permits, record as many verbal communications as possible related to the situation.
7. In a text message, ask her if she will go to therapy to talk about the relationship – should your lawyer state that your affairs are in order *no matter the outcome*.
Do not skip any step, do not alter any step – these are the bare minimum requirements you need to take to mitigate the risks from a fall-out. You *may* think you have chosen a rational partner, though, people do awful things all the time when they are emotional and not thinking rationally; and, she is a “people”.
I throw people out for way less, stop being a doormat
she is classed as a teanant she has the right to 30 days notice so serve her her notice asap to get her out inform her she only has teanant rightsd youve checked with a lawyer dropping this bombshell might get her to move out sooner with some luck
heres some advice i gave my brother crazy bitchs cannot be reasoned with
I would speak to a lawyer before u do anything and take it from there. Maybe u can take over paying for the garbage so her name is off of that for a bit and then break up with her and get her out of your house. Otherwise if her acting like this when she drinks is a think start recording things. Like either like with it in ur pocket. Hidden camera etc. bc u could get her to leave if she’s being hostile etc. look into ur state/ local govt laws on the topic as well
Yes break up, this relationship is all about you giving to her and her giving nothing back. If she is not on your lease ( or mortgage) you need to summon your courage and tell her it’s over. A simple “this is not working, it’s over, you need to move out”. “Indifference is the opposite of love” , it’s time for you to become indifferent. Have a friend or relative with you when you tell her if you need the moral support.
No need to break up with her, make the break by yourself tell to sleep on the couch, pay all your own bills any attached to the residence if she pays it shut it off. When all done tell her it,s over.
She doesn’t sound smart enough to know anything about tenancy laws but sounds unhinged enough to trash your place and key your car. Maybe just tell her you’ve fallen out of love with her and would like her to move out and see how that goes but not before securing anything of value and importance. Set up a security camera or something to record the interaction if things go south.
Best case scenario, she packs up her shit and leaves to stay with friends. Worst case she comes unglued and tries to assault you or break your things (which you will have on camera as evidence if you need to contact police).
Just tell her you’ve had enough, pack your shit and go.
It’s only as difficult as you make it.
Best of luck mate
She sounds like a fucking nightmare. I’d give her 3 days to pack her shit and leave.
Been there done that my friend. Get out while you can. You have the upper hand with it being your house. She can sort her own shit out. Things will not get better in my experience.
Tell her you got something out front to woo her . When she goes out to look ,close and lock the door.
This is that movie with Vince Vaughan and Jennifer Anniston. You could watch that for help.
Like somebody else mentioned drunk mind speaks sober thoughts. She has eventually exploded, but imo nothing justifies getting guys numbers. If she wants more attention she should be breaking up with you.
It doesn’t sound like there has been a serious conversation about the lack of woo-ing her if she also mentions it when trying to get intimate and she’s sober
However I understand not wanting to take her out etc if she is unappreciative or it doesn’t change anything if you have tried it
I don’t think there is any salvaging but why are you staying with her anyway – it’s not for sex so? She hasn’t sounded like she makes herself worth you staying with her imo
I thought you meant someone you own a home with or have a contract to rent with. She just lives with you and doesn’t pay rent? Lol throw her out on the street.
Do what my ex did: accuse me of cheating and then take a break and then physically move all my shit out, move on immediately and forget about a decade together
I sat my ex down and asked her if she still lived me. I went through everything she did to show how her behaviour wasnt good enough and unacceptable and listened to her responses and excuses and then i said it was good enough and we need some time apart and im gonna take her to her mums house (you can take her anyehere she wants to go) pack her stuff and yeah.
Stay intouch and stay friendly but then slowly distance yourself… worked great for me.
ITT – people who don’t understand tenancy laws. Unfortunately you can’t just kick her out.
She is a tenant, and Hopefully will leave without drama. But OP you have to follow the law. She may be dumb enough that she doesn’t know the law, but you have to give a notice to move out based on your state and local tenancy laws. Usually 30 days. And hope she moved out.
if she doesn’t leave, you have to file an eviction and go to court, and all that. It could drag on for months.
Meanwhile you can make life a little uncomfortable for her. But talk to lawyer on what is in legal limits. You can bring friends over and have loud parties. Set heat to 68 (or lowest allowed legally). stop paying for groceries. Etc.
There are also easier strategies like throwing money at the problem. “Cash for keys”. You pay them to leave, that way they have an incentive. Money would be enough for a security deposit for an apartment or what ever.
Just break up and say you have X- days to move and if tries to break stuff call the cops and she has to leave immediately she is a leech she can try to live for free somewhere ekse
Call a lawyer to get a free consultation then go from thereml.