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Hey everyone, I need some advice on a sticky situation involving my dad’s wife. Recently, she’s been spreading rumors that I kidnapped my own father and that he has dementia. Here’s the deal:
– My dad, 64, left his wife, 49, after being unhappy for over 2 years
– She’s now accusing me of brainwashing him and keeping him away from her
– Dad had a stroke a year ago, and she’s using that as an excuse for his supposed “dementia”
– Doctors recommend he be in a familiar environment for his well-being
– Dad is adamant that going back to her will make him worse or even lead to his death
I’m at a loss here. How do I navigate this situation and help my dad? Any advice or similar experiences? Let’s chat and support each other through this difficult time. 🤔💬 #FamilySupport #HelpNeeded
Elder law attorney if she files to have him labeled incompetent
Divorce attorney for the legal separation (or divorce, if he decides to do that instead)
Help him find an attorney and file for divorce. Promptly.
NAL. If she’s telling other people you’re doing something illegal, you may have grounds to sue for defamation.
It might be worth paying an attorney to send a letter telling her as much. That might just scare her into backing off.
(not a lawyer)
It sounds like he has capacity (his marbles). He should divorce her while he has capacity. And he should do paperwork making you the medical POA and financial POA in case of incapacity. He should also update his will and insurance if he does not want her to be beneficiary.
If he has another stroke and/or is deemed incapacitated, she could be in charge of him from that point forward. Maybe not if they are legally separated but it is a risk.
If he is deemed incapacitated, divorcing and updating his paperwork becomes tricky/difficult/maybe impossible. So go ahead and help him get the divorce done ASAP.