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How to Deal with a Woman Trying to Make You Out as a Creep at the Gym
Feeling like you’re being unfairly judged at the gym? Don’t worry; you’re not alone. It’s important to handle these situations with tact and awareness to maintain your peace and gym routine.
Recognize the Situation
⚠️ First, it’s crucial to:
- Identify the context: Is she uncomfortable, or is it a misunderstanding?
- Consider the environment: Public spaces like gyms can be sensitive areas for interactions.
Stay Calm and Composed
🧘 Remaining composed is key. Do not:
- Engage in aggressive or defensive behavior.
- Stare back or cause a scene.
Stay cool and continue your workout as planned.
Non-Verbal Communication
👀 Often, body language speaks louder than words. Ensure to:
- Avoid prolonged eye contact.
- Respect personal space.
Projecting a relaxed and focused demeanor helps in diffusing any tension.
Choose Your Equipment Wisely
💪 If the tension persists, you might:
- Opt for another machine temporarily.
- Select spacing with more distance if the gym is crowded.
Remember, your fitness journey is more important than fitting into exact equipment or spaces.
Communication Techniques
🗣️ If approached, respond calmly:
- Use a polite tone.
- Explain your workout routine if questioned.
Develop a Thick Skin
🥋 Building emotional resilience helps:
- Remind yourself it’s likely a misunderstanding.
- Focus on your goals and workouts, not on the opinions of others.
Should You Stare Back or Cause a Scene?
🤔 Short answer: No. Instead, prioritize:
- Personal peace and gym harmony.
- Constructive and non-confrontational resolutions.
Self-Reflection
🪞 Sometimes, reflecting on the situation aids in:
- Understanding if any of your actions might have been misinterpreted.
- Learning and adapting for future gym visits.
Seek Support if Needed
🧍♂️🧍♀️ If you’re constantly uncomfortable:
- Consider speaking with gym staff.
- Engage in gym community conversations, fostering understanding.
Final Thoughts
Dealing with misunderstandings or unfair judgments at the gym can be tough. However, by staying calm, composed, and respectful, you ensure a positive and uninterrupted fitness journey. Everyone has the right to feel comfortable and safe during their workout, and handling these situations maturely will always serve you best.
Stay strong, stay focused, and keep lifting! 💪🏋️♂️
Why do you need to do anything? Ignore her.
Nope, let them play their victim game, don’t play into it.
Who cares. Don’t buy into it. Just ignore her and let her do whatever she wants.
Getting accused by women for being a creep is a thing I am conscious about. But guess what, you were at the gym. She’s not using the machine, nobody’s using the machine. You want to use the machine, use it! That girl might’ve been an introvert who didn’t want to make small talk, or maybe she wanted to get out of your way. Or, maybe she never used the machine you’re using and wanted to learn how to use it. Don’t take it personally. Either way, it’s okay to use a machine at the gym if nobody else is actively using it.
Don’t stare back, some people don’t like getting stared at. Don’t cause a scene, it’s not necessary.
She’s doesn’t own the space in an arbitrary radius around where she decides to work out. You needed the machine. You used machine. She’s the problem.
Ignore her. Workout. Repeat.
When I enter the gym (it’s been too long… I’ll be back hopefully someday this year), I end up mentally putting on “blinders”. What happens to right and left of me doesn’t matter. Only focus on me (after a quick check to make sure some dum dum next to me isn’t going to injure me or something… But most machines are spaced out enough to account for dum dums)
Ignore
If you’re not being a creep then you probably wont have to worry about it. My go to at the gym is to not look at anyone, period. I know eyes can wander but try not to maintain contact for more than a couple of seconds. No one really wants to be looked at while working out (unless they do, but then that’s not on you anyways).
Girls need to watch out for creeps so they might be vigilant but if you’re not establishing a pattern of following and staring at her then she’s gonna stop worrying about you.
Why do you care?
personally i look wherever the fuck i want to look
Watch a few Joey swoll clips. He’s on X.
I’m not feeling that way except shy sometimes because I’m there to workout but I’m going to see what’s around me due to my own curiosity, if I can’t handle this attention then I’ll just buy some dumbbells and get my workout done at home. LMAO 🤷♂️
Did you edit your post? I’m not seeing the part where this woman tried making you out to be a creep.
If this really is the entire post then with all due respect you *do* need to grow some thicker skin, and that’s coming from someone who has been on the receiving end of an almost life-ruining false allegation and now has a healthy amount of caution/apprehension around women they don’t know.
This woman is being a dick, yes. It seems to me that she wanted private space in what appears to be a public gym and took the very adult stance of foregoing conversation & staring you down over it. That’s it.
Unless there’s information you aren’t sharing, the title doesn’t fit the post.
Put headphones in and continue with your routine.
I wear glasses, but I typically take them off during a work out. If I see what looks like a human shaped blob staring at me, I make a show of putting on my glasses and asking if they needed something. I’ve done this enough times that the frequency of this has dropped basically to zero
If she says anything, laugh, say “you?” Laugh again, shake your head and walk away.
>Should I have stared back? Cause a scene?
No. Never. If she had that intent, it’d only play into her hands more.
Something like this isn’t a battle you can win if you get into it (believe me, I’ve been there), so do your best to avoid it. Take no notice of her if you can.
Report her to the gym faculty.
Say she’s staring at you, making you feel uncomfortable. No need for an altercation which is what she’s probably looking for. Reporting this to faculty before her protects you as well because you reported the behavior and weird looks she’s been giving you first so when and if she decides to outs you as some gym creep they can have that official report saying “wait a minute, this gentleman reported this already.” Even if it’s in a “just to let y’all know… ” manner.
Doesn’t hurt and it can protect you just in case of a false accusation. Odds are she’d go to the gym faculty and report you anyways no matter what you were doing.
It’s not a wild idea she’s probably been recording you for some time as well and looking to get a reaction out of you for social media clout. Which is apparently pretty popular lately… Either way it’s rage bait.
Unfortunately a lot of radicalized women are looking for ways to advance an agenda against men and the “gym creeps” stuff has been becoming very popular on social media. Protecting yourself from false accusations is almost a daily effort with how easy it’s becoming to report a man for even just staring in the general direction of a woman.
There was this guy that was literally and legally blind working out at a gym that was reported by some Karen accusing him of staring at her and getting gym management involved trying to get him kicked out/arrested.
Apparently staring in a general direction of a woman is enough for a sexual harassment accusation.
Since she didn’t say anything or talked to anyone about you could just assume you absolutely reeked of sweat if that makes you feel a bit better.
You don’t actually know why she was staring at you. Not sure why you’re assuming she was trying to “make you out as a creep”. Just ignore it.
Are you sure she wasn’t checking you out?
The cardinal rule is not to look at them or give them attention whatsoever – if one of them wants to speak to you she’ll make that clear, otherwise just focus on your sets
No. You just should be indifferent and laugh it off if she suggests anything. If she pushes on you insist that she give proof for false accusations.
I make it a point now to say to whoever it is male or female I’m going to use this/be here if I think it may be seen as creepy to be in that position, gives them the chance to move or raise objections before I can be accused of anything.
Best you can do is ignore her. If such a person ever comes to you and starts bitching, just remind them they’re in a public space, and they’re more of a creep by filming you.
You did the right thing by ignoring her. The real question is why are you so hung up on it? Who tf cares!? Let the girl be upset. Women are always upset over some minor bs. Don’t let such small things affect you.
Ignore.
If she dares to make a scene, report her.
Nah, just ignore it. Girls get upset for all sorts of things. Sometimes I can understand how they misunderstand immidealely, but it doesn’t take much thinking to realize you just wanted the machine.
There is so much such stuff where I just do what I normally do, and do what I am supposed to do and some girl think it is wrong or misunderstands it. & what can I do? if she is not willing to seek or accept further information? Just ignore it
I’d try to communicate to them what my intentions are that make me not a creep and if they still communicated thought I was one I’d get an employee to resolve their issue with me. You handled it pretty well, if you had stared back that would’ve been a micro-aggression. Unless someone becomes so aggressive that you couldn’t not be favored by anyone who was important to be favored in regards to getting mad I’d recommend not getting aggressive.
I dont thjnk the woman had anything going on in her head besides “what rational reason could anyone have to use the machine behind me besides wanting to see my ass” and just didn’t want to be unintentionally discomforted by you any further so I wouldn’t think she has something personal against you.
You have to realize that the women who do this are likely suffering with severe mental illness.
They’re fucking bat-shit, is my point.
Don’t spend mental time or energy worrying about what crazy people do or think of you. They’re crazy, so they don’t matter.
She’s just a woman, a normal human being, so relax, it was actually her being a creep for staring at you.
She defines herself through her wishlist of minor victimization. Just can’t wait to run to ger friends and socials to score points for being leered at the gym.
By assuming the worst of you she reveals the shallow depths of her character. Ignore he her, she is beneath you.
I was here for this incident.
OP, I guess you didn’t notice your dick was hanging out?
This is why I built a home gym. I just wanna lift and go home with no BS.
One time I was using the rowing machine (concept2) to do a warm up for 10 min. I swear this chick set up her “leg day” literally right in front of the machine. And by that, I mean just did a bunch of bent over exercises literally right in front of my face.
Now, I’m not complaining about the site itself? No lol. But I was stuck on this machine for 10 min…i literally just stared at the wall the entire workout to not be a creep. But of course, she gave me that look like I was being a pervert. I couldn’t believe it. I was there first!
You did the right thing by just ignoring her.
Dude. First, ignore and continue your day. Two, work on self-esteem so this stuff bothers you less.
I feel like there might be things missed in your description. Were there other (duplicate) machines available to you that we’re not in the immediate space where she was exercising? Was she in a prone position that made it uncomfortable to be in with a strange man? Per your story, she was there first. Perhaps she was about to switch to positions to one that required even more space until you moved in. Not at all condoning what she did, but we all have to assume other people are just trying to work out without being ogled or unnecessarily made uncomfortable. (Also, sometimes people stink offensively of BO, weed, cologne, cigarettes, etc.)
Staring back and making a scene would’ve made her look like she’s right. Prove her wrong by ignoring her.
You don’t need to do anything
Smile and wave, boys. Smile and wave.
People suck. Unless you never go outside you’ll occasionally run into someone toxic and have a bad experience. Just don’t take it personally. They’re the one with the problem.
Some people are just judgmental cunts. Don’t acknowledge their existence.