ย #WorkplaceCommunication #Colleagues #Feedback #Professionalism
Hey everyone! ๐ Have you ever been told you’re “too friendly” with colleagues at work? I recently had an interesting experience where my boss called me out for being too informal with some male colleagues during a Zoom call. ๐ค
Here’s the situation:
– My manager felt I should have been more formal with these colleagues, even though we are not in a hierarchical relationship.
– She mentioned that I made one of the men feel uncomfortable based on his facial expressions during the call.
– The only specific example she could give was when I asked for their opinion – apparently, not formal enough!
I’m curious to hear your thoughts on this. Do you think being friendly with colleagues can sometimes cross a professional line? How do you balance professionalism with building relationships at work?
Possible Solutions:
– Setting clear boundaries while maintaining a friendly demeanor
– Seek feedback from colleagues on your communication style
– Address any concerns raised by your manager proactively
Let’s discuss! What would you do in this situation? ๐ค #WorkplaceEtiquette #ProfessionalBoundaries
She sounds cray cray
she doesn’t like you and wants a paper trail to let you go
She sounds jealous, honestly. Be careful, this is how paper trails are started to let someone go.
Fuck all of them on zoom at once and bee like is this what you thought i was gonna do? -nut hits the camera-
I would email her back after this feedback and list off the points she brought up and ask if this is correct so you can keep this to ‘work on’.
Paper trail it.
What do they call those girls that “want the boys to like her”? Pick Me’s? That’s what she is. She appears to have gotten jealous you were getting along with “her boys”. just my opinion….
A while back someone said โevery workplace has its own pathologyโ and another good one is โshit runs downhillโ. Putting these gems together, managementโs pathology fucks up the workplace
Sounds like she’s jealous. Document this for yourself privately. You may need it one day.
women is clearly threatened by you.
NAL. Document this, it’s important. Date, Time, coworkers present, coworkers involved, what was said, and your response. Save evidence by sending them to a personal email.
Every time this occurs document it. This could potentially be gender discrimination if she solely criticizes your communication with men but not anyone else. If work becomes toxic, or you’re terminated, then you have this information to take to an attorney.
Wear a low cut top next time. Add a little fuel to the fire.
She sounds like she’s threatened at your ability to rapidly build a rapport. She thought this run of the mill people-skill was a superpower she had exclusivity on.
She’s threatened by you. Allow that to motivate you and be the best.
Document.
If it happens again approach hr with documentation that you’re being coached on speaking to coworkers normally. They’ll find it odd because if your boss hasn’t reported your alleged infraction to them it looks like she’s a wild card and full of shit.
Jealous. Period, point, blank.
Internalized misogyny 101
100% Internalized Mysoginy that she’s pinning on you.
I would go to those men and say “hello sorry if I was too informal on the call the other day. X manger told me I should only use formal language with you all so I wanted to sincerely apologize for being inappropriately informal.”
Then let the chips fall where they may.
Man, is your manager trying to bang one of your co-workers or something?
She sounds insane and catty, good luck with that
If I heard โwhat do you guys think?โ I would be super uncomfortable. Asking my opinion is crossing some serious boundaries.
This is just bullying.
“I recorded the meeting for documentation purposes. Can you please point out the specific examples of what i did, and when , that I may improve for future meetings?”
If you cant respond with this, record the next Zoom meeting so that you can.
Once she gets pinned up against an objective record, she will either shut up, or find some other (undocumentable ) nit to pic.
Ask for a formal review of the phone call. Tell her you would like to have the feedback in writing so you can properly conform to standards. Say that you specifically would like to hear what the gentlemen found uncomfortable so that you can avoid that behavior. Cc HR when you do so.
If you are afraid of HR getting involved itโs too late. The talk from your boss was them building up โevidenceโ against you so they can fire you. Itโs circumstantial on its own but if you make an actual mistake at some point they can tack this on like, โโฆand I had to warn them about being too friendly with the male staff.โ
Email all of them a heart-felt apology referencing your manager’s feedback, and Ccing her. They’ll deny it and make her look like a fool.ย
She sounds territorial.
Women are always dragging other women down. Crab bucket.
You may be stepping on her toes. Because it sounds like she has a thing for at least one of them.
You might consider a report to HR. To CYA in case she takes this any farther.
She is jealous of you and has made that a you issue instead of a her issue. I would like to suggest HR but we all know that wonโt help. Might be time to move on
>that I made one of the men feel uncomfortable (no, he didnโt tell her that, or give her any feedback at all; apparently she was โreadingโ his facial expressions during the video call and decided he was uncomfortable based on his expression).
Here’s the thing about “uncomfortable” facial expressions: they can happen for any reason. Your boss is definitely full of shit.
Your coworker could’ve been: thinking about an unrelated work task, having stomach cramps, tired of being in a meeting (informal meetings can be productivity holes if you’re not in the right mindset), etc.
The only way to know if someone’s actually uncomfortable, who isn’t already saying something, is to ask them.
Your boss should never assume she knows why someone’s expression exists.
she sounds like sheโs fucking one of em tbh
She wants to bang that dude and feels like youโre competition
Sounds like a middle manager desperately trying to justify their position by providing the only *feedback and corrections* they could find