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Hey guys, so I had quite an interesting experience recently that left me feeling a bit down. I was out for drinks with a friend when a girl made a comment about my hairline that really hit hard. I’ve been struggling with my hairline lately and her words just added fuel to the fire of my insecurities. It’s amazing how a simple comment can affect someone’s confidence, right?
So here’s my question – How do you regain confidence after a put-down comment like that? I mean, it’s easier said than done to just brush it off, especially when it hits a nerve. My friend tried to reassure me, but it’s tough when you’re the one feeling the sting of the words.
This incident has really made me think about the power of words and how they can impact someone’s self-esteem. Has anyone else experienced something like this? How did you bounce back? Share your tips and tricks to help us all feel a little more confident in our own skin.
Let’s start a conversation and support each other in boosting our self-esteem. Because at the end of the day, the things we say matter. Let’s lift each other up and brush off those negative comments like the champions we are! 💪🏼 #SupportEachOther #BoostConfidence #PositiveVibes #YouGotThis!
Lol bro this is why you don’t give random hoes attention. Their ego is inflated enough at it is. If you’re gonna go and talk to them at a bar and you’re not hot, this is gonna happen more than once.
Your communication skills and sex technique, in that order, are more important than your hairline.
Sorry, man. That’s a shitty thing to say to someone. Personally, I wouldn’t have been okay with someone disrespecting my friend like that and would have called her on it before walking away. As for you I’d recommend some canned, funny responses that just own it to show it doesn’t bother you. Obviously it does, but you don’t have to give someone like her the satisfaction. Sticks and stones. At the end of the day no one will ever love you like you. Again I’m really sorry. Hang in there, bro
Laugh at her, and move on. It’s hard if your already insecure but only you can bump up your confidence. Remember as well, she’s still essentially a child in today’s world. Fuck her( but not literally, obviously).
It’s hard but learning that not everyone will respond to you is an important part of maturing. Either physically or personality, but there is ALWAYS people that will respond well to you.
Growing your mental fortitude to shake off the bullshit and instantly forget twats like her will take you far.
I think for you it begins with correctly attributing blame – your confidence had to already be low for the comment to hurt. You had to be telling yourself lies such that when you heard the truth it was unpleasant.
The problem did not begin with her. Instead of blaming her, focus on whatever way of thinking about your hairline was *already* causing you so many problems that a single comment about your hairline was so unpleasant.
You cut them down with words back and/or walk away. That’ll blunt that feeling afterwards.
Try something like this: “I want to thank you sooooo much for showing me how shitty a person you are. ~WHEW~ You really helped me dodge a bullet!” Then leave.
Beside this; brother, you work on confidence before these situations happen to mitigate them better. Embrace the hairline; most women don’t care about that if they like you. Do some therapy, work out more, make sure you’re dressed well whenever you go out. That way, next time something like this happens you can say, “Did that trashcan just speak? WOW technology is awesome! I wonder if comes in colors other than whore red?”
Lastly, you gotta be careful with doing stuff like this; the more reactive you become to their comments, the easier it is to react next time. Honestly, your best bet is laughing at them and walking away.
Oh, and fuck that bitch for saying such a messed up thing to you.
One time i went to a bar after a gig ended early, looking to carry on the night and see if i could find some friends out. Went to the dancefloor minding my own business just trying to enjoy the music and this girl steps out of her way to shove me. Brush it off and continue, not trying to bump up on anyone or anything, literally just dancing to myself, and she does it again. So i ask what her problem is and she throws a drink at me, starts walking away and shouting shit as another guy in her group has a crack at me.
Follow them out asking what their problem is as i didn’t do anything and was like 6ft away from their whole group beforehand, and she says “you were being creepy”
Totally killed my really happy vibe prior and i just headed home from there… I’ve always made a point to never initiate anything on the dancefloor without enthusiastic reciprocation from a girl first, so this comment has really sat with me for a long time and still gets to me now and then.
You just have to accept that there are some really shitty people out there that will go out of their way to be judgemental, rude and bring people down. But thankfully there are enough good ones out there who aren’t so nasty…
I am sorry, that is rough.
Not their hairline but that they said that.
Are you familiar with working scientifically? Then you’ll know, that N=1 isn’t a good sample size.
At least you wouldn’t want to hurt someone else like that.
You also regain your confidence, by reminding yourself of what makes you you and what about that is really cool.
Dude, realize the only opinion in this entire world that is important to you, is your own opinion. That bar fly does not know you; she is oblivious to your life, struggles, and circumstances she is nothing. Value your opinion above all others.
“Let me guess, because your dad is still out for cigarettes?”
She’s trying to see if she can get under your skin or how much she can get away with. Everyone does it to some degree and she went way too far with it. How did your friend react to this?
For years I had zero confidence, reinforced by some moments like that. What I came to realize is this: I go out with chick A on Monday, we hit it off great. Chick B on Tuesday and it was a total bust. Well, I didn’t change fundamentally as a person overnight, and the only difference was a different date. So I went from seeing relationships and dating as black and white to seeing color. So what if that chick didn’t dig your hairline; you will find one that digs you for that aspect of you and you’ll be pulling down more 🐈 than you can handle, from that one chick. I got one man. She loves my dad bod and man….the 🐈🐈🐈🐈🤷🏻♂️😂
im really sorry that happened to you OP that’s fucked up
Rules 1 and 2 apply when talking up women at a bar. It’s a sad truth of life. I follow rule 2, but I can’t do anything right now about rule 1, so I usually avoid that kind of environment for dating.
As for getting over the comments, I’d suggest you focus on the core values and attributes that make you, you. If you’re kind, smart, attentive and polite, then it doesn’t matter if a girl insults your hairline. It isn’t a relevant component of who you are.
Regarding the hairline… I know it’s rough. I had the donut hair way too early, I was 22. Started shaving my head. Night & day difference for my confidence. Either way I’m bald, but shaving my head is a conscious style choice that I can confidently defend.
I would take note of who said it to me and ask myself why her opinion is important. The answer would likely be that it isn’t.
I tend not to have my self worth tied to validation from other people, especially strangers.
who cares what a random person said
Fuck her man, she’s literally a dime a dozen.
I wouldn’t concern your self to much with a strangers opinion.
Don’t internalize anything people say to you. Especially strangers.
Lean into it and talk shit back.
Well she’s certainly not wife material with rude comments like that. You should tell her that if you get comments like that again because it’s true. The right one will come along and she’ll be nice about how you look – don’t accept any girlfriend into your life who isn’t.
Learn to fire back. I would have said “are you always a stupid cunt or just for tonight?”
Wow she’s trash
She’s not worth your time OP. Chin up
Remember that she’s gonna be single the rest of her life acting like that and she ain’t shit
I wouldn’t focus on negging comments like that. You gotta end up rolling with whatever gets said and make it into something funny or otherwise fun. Turn the tables back on her.
“We’re not going to make out, but if we were, you wouldn’t care.”
you go gym and get your ass so fat that you don’t need compliments from other sheeps to feel good.
A person that’s okay with putting a stranger down for no reason isn’t someone whose opinion I’d care about. A solid “yikes” and move on might clue her into the fact that middle-school behavior isn’t acceptable in an adult environment. If your friend isn’t thinking with his dick he shouldn’t have given her the time of day after that display.
Shave every thing off and accept it just like van desil and the rock Jonson
This is a hard social interaction because in polite, adult life people are supposed to be kind and civil to each other. Middle and high school is where bullies are supposed to exist and lob mean things at others.
All you can do is dust yourself off. However, best way to approach this in the future is to be quick. I know, I know, easier said than done. But what she is doing is exploiting vulnerabilities. You must do the same.
Exploit ANY vulnerability. Acne? Pizza face. Overweight? Small boobs? Point out that the ranking member of the Itty Bitty Titty Committee obviously knows how to point out flaws. Big boobs? Call her a slut. Short? Too tall? It’s easy once you get good at it and can respond to the situation. That’s how they’re so good at it, lots of practice. That’s not a “how to attack females” thing. That’s a “how to attack ANYONE” thing. That’s where President Biden’s predecessor gets his playbook from – he brands his enemies with known and obvious weaknesses.
This useless chick elevates her self-esteem by stepping on others. In seven years gravity will be dragging her tits down, and her low self-esteem will have her building a high body count for fast validation. Probably be a single mother and unable to lose the baby fat. And constantly accepting lower and lower standard men into her bed obsessed with finding anyone who will take care of her. By her 40s she will have thin grey hair she wears in a butch chop haircut and self-medicate with beer and prescription drugs.
You on the other hand will be in your prime, you will have discovered your hair isn’t nearly as attractive as your accomplishments, and you will have built yourself up to be a catch and have a swarm of 23-year-olds begging for your attention. Take care of your body and mind, keep your hair short and your vision long.
Biotin shampoo and capsules. Helped with my hairline a ton.
“I may have a receding hairline, but you’re a bitch and I can get plugs.”
Be together when you go out
Not sure.. My self coinfidence isn’t built on the opinions of strangers. Not on my hair either.
Grab your friend while saying to her face “you have a face & personality that look like you’ll be single for life” and ditch her energy
I recently came across some advice that if you take an attitude of being curious, you sidestep other reactive emotions…
Like thinking about why someone would say such things, what’s going on in their lives, what choices are they making that lead them to think that’s ok
Then it’s a lot easier to realise their awfulness isn’t about you, it’s 100% on them.
Plus it puts them on the spot when you ask out of genuine curiosity, and aren’t affected by it.
“Wow. That’s a really inappropriate thing to say to someone. Why did you decide it was ok to say?”
They’re then left with the choice to own their actions, or double down and be keenly aware that they sound like an asshole and everyone can hear it.
Time. To get over things like that takes time and for the other thing about your look, what if you change your style? If your hair doesn’t improve try something like a hair transplant, or maybe go bald (for many chicks that is hot) and maybe you start seeing yourself in another light, and also for a lot of girls the “dad” type is also hot so, start being a little more positive my friend, there is always answers and options! May you have nice and good moments going in your way!
First off, a girl who says that to you doesn’t deserve the attention, hope she’s hopelessly alone for the rest of her life.
On a personal level, i’ve had similar comments in the past about my hairline so at 25 i just shaved my head and kept it shaved ever since. People still make some comment about being “bald”, but there’s honestly worse things to care about in life. Accepting my hairline, or lack thereof, was one of the best things i did for my confidence. I put my time and effort into things that i have control over changing (my weight/muscle/body, my clothes, etc)
Here is the deal. She is someone to avoid. Some people get off on hurting others, they just want to watch the world burn.
Some might disagree with me, but there gets to be a time where it is completely acceptable to be an asshole. And this is one of those times.
I’m 6’9 and I remember a girl in the bar referred to me as “freakishly tall”. Just rude as hell. It gets hard enough sometimes noticing everyone staring at you like a carnival attraction. God forbid if a guy gets a beer after work.
I gave her a response, which I promptly called a piece of shit, and that was the end of it. Was it mature? Nah, not really. But hey, maybe she learned to think before she said her opinion to a stranger on their looks. 🤷🏻♂️
Next time I would tell the woman that if she think you look like a “Dad” that must mean she wants you to have her children other wise why mention it? I’m flattered I really am but you’re really not my type because your mouth is so large it can’t keep up with your brain. I’m into people who have actual brains and can carry on a conversation but appreciate your offer to be a Dad!
I don’t put up with people who behave so horribly and have found a Lot of times the reason some people both men and women behave this way is because they have never been called out or on the receiving end. OP don’t let people treat you like this it’s nasty behaviour that should be called out.
This is a classic “shit test” and you failed pretty hard. She was testing you to see if you are emotionally weak or lack confidence and the answer is … both.
I suggest you read books like “Atomic Attraction” and stuff like that. Also, there is a book called “What Women Want When They Test Men” by Bruce Bryans. If you read books like this you can avoid making the kind of blunders you committed in the episode described.
You are not pretty enough to have this sort of attitude.
Mate. You admitted she was mid yourself. Why on earth do you care what some mid girl that’s probably a dime a dozen, says about you? You’ve got sauce. That inner sauce. You know it too, you feel it, but some part of you doubts it. That’s why the external comments leave an impression on you, because that negative side is searching for confirmation. Build up the positive side, and the negative voice will be quieter. Once you embrace exactly who you are, and love it, no-one can call you out or put you down.
For the hairline thing, I got you bro. First things first, hop on finasteride, and use a mild growth agonist like castor oil. If that’s not working add in some RU58841. Can also just use RU58841 solo and it works very well. Good luck.
You both dodged a bullet there. Be thankful.