I’m sorry to hear about your difficult situation, but I can provide some informative advice and resources to help you through this challenging time. π
Firstly, it’s important to prioritize your immediate needs. Since you only have a backpack, focus on essentials like clothes, hygiene items (toothbrush, soap), and important documents (ID, birth certificate, etc.). As for the weather, it’s good to have a mix of warm and cool clothes to be prepared for any situation. πβοΈ
Considering your limited financial resources, exploring available support services is crucial. You mentioned looking up youth services, which is a great step. Additionally, you can reach out to organizations like the National Runaway Safeline (π1-800-RUNAWAY) or local shelters for assistance with finding temporary housing and other necessities. π
In terms of your education, it’s impressive that you were a straight-A student and received college level credit on your GED! This could open up opportunities for further education or scholarships. ππΌ Research local community colleges or vocational programs that can help you gain skills and increase your chances of finding stable employment in the future.
While your military aspirations may be affected by your TBI and recent concussion, it’s worth exploring other career paths. Look into vocational rehabilitation programs or colleges that offer support for individuals with disabilities. They can provide guidance and knowledge regarding job opportunities that fit your abilities and interests. πͺ
In terms of your family situation, it’s understandable that you may not want to ruin their reputation. However, it’s crucial to prioritize your own well-being and safety. Consider reaching out to your dad to see if he can provide any support during this transition. If that’s not an option, continue seeking community resources and support networks to help you build a new foundation.
During your initial phase of uncertainty, visiting the library during the day is a great idea. They usually offer free WiFi and a comfortable space for you to plan and connect with resources. Utilize their resources, such as books on job hunting, financial planning, and self-help guides.
Lastly, remember to take care of your physical and mental health during this challenging time. Engage in self-care activities, reach out to friends or supportive individuals, and consider seeking counseling services if needed. There are resources available to help you navigate through this difficult period. You’re not alone, and I’m here to support you. π€π
She can’t kick you out without legally evicting you
You can force her to do that by refusing to leave.
>If I told them what was going on their reputation would tank.
You should absolutely go to their church then for help. This is certainly ‘conduct unbecoming’ of a certain faith if I understand the implications.
Talk to a recruiter. Having been on Prozac once shouldn’t disqualify you if you don’t currently need it.
The TBI or inability to get a license may be a problem though but a recruiter is who I’d talk to about that. Definitely don’t assume what they will or won’t accept.
I joined despite a decade of medications because I wasn’t on it any longer. A navy shrink cleared me and that was the end of it.
Your mom is kicking you out with no money, no job, and no other place to live and you are worried about her reputation with her church?
Make her evict you. That should give you a least a month to find a job and try and save SOME money.
– why protect any one’s reputation when they are treating you like crap???
– social services even in Florida…..
If your mom has no problem with throwing you under the bus, I donβt see why you canβt do the same?
>My parents are really into church
But apparently not into compassion for others.
>If I told them what was going on their reputation would tank.
As it should. It’s abhorrent behavior to kick someone out who is not yet in a position to care for themselves.
This is absolute nonsense, you shouldnβt give a single f- about your momβs reputation, donβt you see how she is treating you? $1000 is better than nothing trying to take as much money as possible and save keep saving, donβt you have school friends who are willing to host you for some days?
Make sure you pack your important documents – birth certificate, social security card, passport if you have one.
Gather all your documents, everything and put them in a safe place like your bag or smth,
Talk to social services. Has your TBI left you disabled or medically vulnerable? I’m thinking there’s probably something there to keep them from kicking you out — depending on the state.
Also, what caused the TBI?
I’m sorry you’ve been dealt the very worst cards with your mom -but if physical abuse is happening you absolutely need to move on.
Do you have any friends or extended family you could stay with until you get on your feet?
Check out coolworks.com to see if there are any jobs that provide housing close to you. Definitely reach out to any assistance programs as well – both government and church. Your church sounds horrible so I would begin my search elsewhere.
Best of luck to you!
Kick her out to assert dominance, change the locks when she is out
Also go to church denounce her and ask for cash assistance, preferible while in a service
The library is a great place to go for help. They can help you find the resources you need right now. Plus they have bathrooms and climate control.
Do you have a notebook and pen so you can write down information to refer to it later?
Is there a cheap motel that you could afford for a week while you get things sorted? Even if you can get a bed at a shelter, sometimes it’s nicer to have your own locked door.
Call 211 (United Wayt) and ask for help. Things to ask about would be a homeless shelter, food stamps, food banks, and Medicaid. For starters.
As far as first move goes, I agree the library would be a good starting point. That will give you time to figure out a game plan.
Do you currently have a job? If not, you will need to find something to have some cash flow.
In the meantime, youβll have to dip into that $1000 of savings, but that will be replaced soon enough after finding a job.
I work with many people in personal finance. Feel free to reach out if you have questions.
Tell your family and ask them for help.
Go to your church and ask them for help.
She canβt just kick you out without evicting you.
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I would stay . The police will do nothing because you are a legal resident there .
You should look up a local jobcorp in your area. They can help you get your driverβs license if youβre able, they provide housing, food, basic allowance, and job training. Looking at the Florida page, they can get you certified in some trades, nursing, pharmacy tech, etc. They also help with job training when you leave. Itβs for people 16-24, so youβre the perfect age.
I wish u lived up north would have loved to help ..I been homeless & as girl itβs tough out there Goodluck beloved
In Florida, in order to remove you from the home, she needs to file Unlawful Detainer action in order to have you removed which buys you 4 weeks. If she wants to put you in an impossible position, do not make it easy on her. This sets you up for the rest of your life, however it winds up going. You have you to depend on now and clearly no one else.
You owe her no protection from humiliating herself. If she is breaking the law and her βmoral codeβ, then she needs to be held accountable. You might think you love her but itβs just a desire for what you wish she would be. The truth is sheβs an abuser.
Hold your ground in the house and wait for her to confront you with a strategically placed camera filming the interaction. That should be enough evidence to convince the church community to assist you and hold her accountable. If you let her off east, sheβll think she was always in the right. She has no problem βembarrassingβ you, why protect her at all?
First, I am so sorry you are having to go through this and have been dealing with abuse for so long. Please know that what your mother is doing and has done is not ok. Her violence is domestic abuse. Getting out will be important to escaping her abuse and control and there are organizations designed to help. Here are a couple in your area that you can contact to see what they might be able to do for you:
Women in Distress of Broward County: https://www.womenindistress.org/we-can-help/
Salvation Army Family and Transitional Shelter: https://www.womenshelters.org/det/salvation_army_family_and_transitional_shelter_broward_county
Be sure to tell them you are 18, tell them about your mother physically abusing you (beatings), and that you have been kicked out with nowhere to go. Let them know you suffer from a disability and are trying to avoid ending up homeless but donβt know what to do. If they at all hesitate about helping or indicate they serve a different population, ask them if they can refer you to someone else.
After you get past the immediate crisis of getting into shelter and support, see if they can help you navigate assistance and voucher programs in your area, and maybe find work that is compatible with the accommodations you might need. Iβll give you a link to an organization that helps with disability issues in Florida for the future: https://disabilityrightsflorida.org/disability-topics/disability_topic_info/assistance_vouchers. But that comes later. For now, please stay safe and reach out to Women in Distress or the Salvation Army (or both).
I will keep you in my thoughts and wish you all the best.