#dadlife #parenting #fatherhood #casualsex #responsibility
🤔 Does sleeping around make me a bad dad? 🤔
In today’s modern society, the concept of what it means to be a good father is constantly evolving. Some may argue that as long as you are being responsible and taking necessary precautions, engaging in casual sex does not necessarily make you a bad dad. Let’s dive deeper into this topic and explore the different perspectives.
## The Responsibilities of a Father
1. **Providing emotional support:** As a father, it is important to be emotionally present for your children and provide them with a sense of security.
2. **Setting a positive example:** Children often look up to their parents as role models, so it is important to demonstrate respectful and healthy relationships.
3. **Financial support:** Fathers are expected to provide for their children financially and ensure their well-being.
4. **Protecting your child:** Keeping your child safe from harm, physically and emotionally, is crucial.
## The Stigma Surrounding Casual Sex
Casual sex has often been associated with negative connotations, especially when it comes to parenting. Some may view engaging in casual sex as irresponsible behavior that may negatively impact the family dynamic. However, it is important to consider the following factors:
– **Communication:** Open and honest communication with your child about relationships is key.
– **Emotional impact:** Casual sex can have emotional consequences, which may affect your ability to be present for your child.
## Being Responsible
Taking responsibility for your actions is crucial in any situation, especially when it comes to parenting. Here are some tips on how to navigate casual sex while being a responsible father:
1. **Use protection:** Always use protection to prevent unwanted pregnancies and sexually transmitted infections.
2. **Keep it private:** It is important to keep your personal life private and separate from your role as a father.
3. **Consider the emotional impact:** Be mindful of the emotional consequences of casual sex and how it may affect your relationship with your child.
4. **Seek support:** If you are struggling with balancing your personal life with your responsibilities as a father, consider seeking support from a therapist or counselor.
## Conclusion
In conclusion, engaging in casual sex does not automatically make you a bad dad. It is important to approach the situation with maturity, responsibility, and consideration for your child’s well-being. As long as you are able to prioritize your responsibilities as a father and maintain a healthy balance, it is possible to navigate casual sex without compromising your role as a parent. Remember, communication and self-reflection are key in addressing any concerns or conflicts that may arise.
No it doesn’t
Fuck whoever you want bro, as long as it’s consensual and legal.
Does it make you a bad dad? Not at all, so long as kiddo is your first priority.
Does it make you a bad husband/boyfriend? Well, if your partner (if you have one) doesn’t know, then yeah. 😅
If you’re single, then see the first line. 😁
It’s unclear whether you are cheating on you partner or if you are single ? If you’re cheating then you are setting a terrible example for your daughter and should the truth come out, she would most likely hate you
I’m curious about why you think it might make you a bad dad.
Are you treating the women well and being honest?
Let the jury note- the bro has been scoring some tail
Are you a single parent?
As long as you aren’t cheating, everything is consensual and safe, and it doesn’t affect your child, you do you.
As long as it doesn’t affect your responsibilities or health, do whatever you want. My dad was doing the same thing I just never found out until later and he was single 🤷♀️
God I hope no.
because I’ve been doing it for the last three and a half years.
But I am a single consenting father LOL
Why do you need to ask strangers on the internet if you having sex is okay? Are you unable to think for yourself?
You will get a lot of “do what you want” replies. I’m here with a different take.
Personal integrity is something kids pick up on. My father slept around, and it was never explicitly made known to me, but I definitely got “my dad is a non-committer who cannot be trusted in long term relationships” vibes. I still do not trust him. Your daughter may pick up on it, too, especially as your psyche will have you wearing it on your sleeve, emotionally.
Maintaining high relationship standards for yourself, not being a hypocrite, and not having to “hide” your sleeping around from your daughter, will give you peace of mind, and save her from potential shock and surprise later.
Further, self-medicating with multiple partners and casual sex is not psychologically healthy. You should see a therapist or counsellor and work through whatever problem has given rise to this risky behaviour.
Anyway, that’s my take. This will probably be downvoted into oblivion, but it’s important to consider all aspects.
There’s a lot of missing info here. Are you a single dad? Do you have full custody? Do you take these women to your home while your daughter is there?
As long as no one is getting harmed, go on my man!
Not if you want your daughter to grow up as a stripper or hooker.
Assuming you’re a single dad, it’s not necessarily bad to do. However I will say from personal experience that eventually kids will catch some drift of what you’re doing and are like and may mirror those habits. If you are very non-committal they can learn those traits without really trying to.
As a father…other than being safe, is making sure your daughter doesn’t get confused. Everyone is just your “friend”, like any other adult, until you want that to change, or you represent that person as something more. If they are just people you are interacting with during your normal social time, then daddy is just being friendly. If you have a steady rotation of women in the kitchen eating breakfast when your daughter wakes up, you’re certainly sending some confusing signals to your child.
Being healthy emotionally, cognitively, socially, physically, and growing in self actualization are the keys to being a good dad. If having sex helps you be healthy then do it.
No
I don’t see an ethical issue with it. I will warn that kids pick up way more than we think they do. So be really careful with your plan on how to keep it from her. Having someone over on nights your ex has custody? Go nuts. Having someone over while you have custody? No, unless she’s being babysat somewhere else. How she sees you treat women is teaching her how she should be treated, and she could end up wondering why all these women are coming over but never staying in your lives.
Yes.
Let me just interject – if you’re using online dating apps or services, don’t use any photos with your child in them. Women can be pedophiles, too. Women can search dating sites on behalf of male pedophiles. Don’t blur your child’s face – remove any evidence of her.
Don’t have casual sex while she’s at home with you.
Don’t have casual sex with people who work at places where she could one day spend a decent amount of time (doctor’s offices, schools, etc).
Don’t let your one night stands leave random shit at your home.
If you are in a monogamous relationship with her mom yes that makes you a bad dad. If you aren’t and do it when she isn’t home while practicing safe sex no big deal.
Alan Harper wrote this
Why does this remind me of crazy stupid love
Throw some hip, brother
My birth father did this while I was home. Very traumatic. As long as she’s not home and doesn’t know then ur prob good.
It doesn’t make you a good one, but doesn’t make you a bad one.
Hey, so my dad has cheated throughout his lifetime (still doing it) and as long as you’re not cheating/mistreating other people (I.e partner you had child with is not in the picture) I am somewhat okay with it but at the end of the day it’s truly a you do you thing.
What I will say is that I picked up on it incredibly early and then finding out as an adult the full story – that my dad was banging random women that weren’t my mom (married to her at the time) in the back of the family car, I was pretty disgusted with him.
My dad is a serial cheat amongst other things, I don’t want to imply you’re the same. I’m sure you’re a great dad to your daughter. But I’d say be careful, yeah? Kids are smarter than we take granted for and if I was able to connect the dots at five y/o then I would be mindful about that. I’d say talk to her, see if she says anything about it and comfort or reassure accordingly.
If you don’t want another kid or have the means for another then you should get a vasectomy. Ending up with an oopsie baby you can’t afford could definitely negatively affect your kid.
The only thing you’re doing wrong is not telling me where you find these women bru!!!
The only thing you’re doing wrong is not telling me where you find these women bruh!!
If your personal time isn’t impacting the family time, then you are good. If it starts to affect your lives in a negative way, reign it in.
Chad? 🤣
Depends entirely how you’re going about it.
I don’t know, but I surely would shame you if you were my dad.
Single mom here, when my son is with his dad, I go nuts. Just be safe about who you let in your house.
Yes. It most likely would.
What are you doing later?