#RelationshipAdvice #CostSavingTips #HealthyEatingHabits
Hey there! Dealing with a partner who eats large portions and racks up the grocery bill can definitely be frustrating. But don’t worry, you’re not alone in feeling this way. Let’s dive into some advice and tips on how to handle this situation without breaking the bank or causing any unnecessary tension in your relationship.
Understanding Your Partner’s Eating Habits 🍔
It’s important to remember that everyone has different appetites and eating habits. But when it starts to become a financial burden, it’s okay to address the issue. Here are a few things to consider when dealing with a partner who eats large portions:
1. Communicate Openly: Have a candid conversation with your partner about your concerns. Let them know how their eating habits are impacting the grocery budget and your peace of mind.
2. Meal Preparation: Consider adjusting portion sizes when cooking meals. This can help prevent your partner from consuming excess amounts of food while also ensuring there are leftovers for later.
3. Create a Shared Shopping List: Sit down together and make a grocery list that reflects both of your dietary needs. This way, you can keep track of what items are essential and what can be considered as personal indulgences.
4. Compromise: Find a middle ground that works for both of you. Perhaps you can agree on a separate food budget for items that are more personal preferences rather than shared necessities.
Splitting the Grocery Bills Fairly 💰
When it comes to splitting the grocery bills, there’s no one-size-fits-all approach. However, here are a few suggestions to consider:
1. Evaluate Consumption: Keep track of the groceries consumed by each person and try to split the bill accordingly. This may involve some compromise on both ends.
2. Allocate Personal Expenses: Consider having a portion of the grocery bill designated for personal items or indulgences. This can help alleviate any disparities in consumption.
3. Take Turns Cooking: If one person is consuming more, perhaps the other person can take charge of meal preparation or contribute in other ways to balance out the expenses.
Applying the Bhagavad Gita’s Teachings 📖
The Bhagavad Gita teaches the importance of balance and moderation in all aspects of life. While it doesn’t directly address split grocery bills, its principles can be applied to your situation:
1. Self-Control: Encourage your partner to practice self-control when it comes to food consumption. Emphasize the importance of mindful eating and avoiding wastage.
2. Equanimity: Strive for fairness and equilibrium in your shared expenses. The Bhagavad Gita teaches the value of maintaining harmony, which can also be translated into managing shared resources.
3. Open Communication: The Bhagavad Gita promotes open and honest communication. Use these principles to guide your discussions on how to fairly split the grocery bills.
Remember, it’s important to approach these discussions with empathy and understanding. Be open to finding a solution that works for both of you. And don’t be too hard on yourself – addressing these concerns is a necessary part of any partnership. Good luck! 🌟
Ask him to contribute more to the grocery bill…I don’t think it would be strange to do at all.
I wonder if the real issue, though, is that you’re doing a lot of the work in making food, expecting there to be leftovers, and there’s nothing left. Where, in the past, you could count on there being more when you go back to it.
Yes it is fair. But most importantly, why are you not communicating this with him immediately. Do it in a stern, but direct, way. That is the only way you could have this resolved (hopefully).
When I read this posts like this, in my opinion, the issue that is written about is never the issue. 4-5 months and he’s living with you, splitting the costs? I’m sorry, but no. Even if his house caught fire.
Sigh. So… to the issue. At the very least, you need to stop splitting the costs. Tell him to buy his own food, you buy your own. I don’t care if it’s awkward, or weird. It’s your house, your money, and you’ve only known him 4-5 months, which is no time at all. At the most, he needs to leave. lol Girl, no.
He is taking advantage of you! Give him a 30 day notice now or he will never leave. This man eats like a family of 5. Stock up on toilet plungers too. 🤦🏻♀️
Make him buy 100% of groceries since he eats a lot more than you do. You are helping him out by giving him a place to live; it is the least that he can do
Surely you deserve better than dating an inconsiderate fatass?
He sounds kind of gross and rude tbh… Split stuff proportionately if you insist on keeping him around. If he uses 75% of everything in the house he should contribute that much. But it’s also rude as hell that he doesn’t consider you at all.
Are you communicating your expectations with him?
As in ‘I’ve had 5 wings, youve had 10, the other 5 are for me to take to work tomorrow, don’t eat them’. If you know his appetite is bigger then he needs to pay extra and ensure he has enough food without taking from you.
My partner and I are always checking in about meals to make sure everyone gets what they want. It’s something that took a fair bit of time to get used to. In the very early days he’d sometimes take the extra without asking but he soon learnt to check first. Its courtesy and politeness. I find making it super clear when we are doing the shopping means there’s usually no issues later.
You really need to look at the whole relationship though as you don’t seem as if you even like the guy. It’s okay to tell him that staying with you isn’t working and he needs to go somewhere else.
Tell him it’s time to go, you can’t afford to feed him.
I hope he is paying for more than food while is staying with you.
Partners shouldn’t be burdens.
I think the grander issue here is that he is inconsiderate. You’re beating yourself because you think you are food shaming him, when that’s not the grand problem. He eats your leftovers. He doesn’t ask if you want to save your half. He takes food you bring home from meals that didn’t involve him. That’s rude. It’s not considerate of you, your money, or your space. I think you would feel less guilty if you framed it this way, as it’s totally valid and isn’t a “shaming” issue.
I recently went on a date, guy was average weight, but wolfed down shared sushi dishes to where I felt like I had to keep up ir grab my share and put it in my plate if I was going to get enough to call it a meal! It wasn’t that I was grossed out by fast eating, it was that it was clear he wasn’t going to wolf down just his half, but was going to keep going if I didn’t fight for my share. Thats rude and unattractive.
You’re not a bad person, you just want some manners and consideration. Starting with “hey, can you ask if it’s okay to eat my portion before doing so? I was planning on saving that for tomorrow” and “please don’t touch my leftovers, I want that for tomorrow and you’ve taken them from me in the past”
Also…why has he been there this long? Why can’t he find a place?
Ugh my friend had a boyfriend like that. She would buy 4 big grocery bags worth of food for one week, pay for it and cook everything for this POS. She was always broke and unhappy because he was a useless leech who played on her insecurities. Their relationship kinda started the same way. He needed somewhere to crash for a while and then four years had passed. After she found the courage to dump his ass she saved enough money to buy herself a house, and lost around 50 kilos (110 lbs). I do hope you won’t take this quietly because your boyfriend is being super inconsiderate and is giving off major leechy vibes. Be careful.
(Edit: wrong lbs conversion)
Don’t split the cost of groceries. Buy groceries individually and label everything and keep food separate. You’re losing money and paying him to eat while you get scraps.
Why are you with this guy? I didn’t see you say anything about what you like about him or what he does for you… Do you eat or weigh as much as he does (comparably, for a woman)?
He has an addiction and he has some sort of mental issue if he’s a constant overeater
Some people might be okay with the way he lives his life, but you need not justify yourself to anyone if you have a problem with it
Take back your life and your money… and if you feel generous, tell him you are concerned about his habits and you think he should talk to someone or join a support group to try to stop this behavior. But you won’t have any part in it
It’s time for him to find somewhere else to live. Tell him you need your space and privacy back. And tell him until he finds a place to stay he buys his own food and your food is now off limits and be clear about his lack of respect in regard to eating your food. Be clear and firm and make him stick to the timeline of moving out.
OK, if he weighs 270 lbs, and he’s not at least 6’4, he needs to start thinking seriously about his eating habits.
Here’s a thought: send him out to do the grocery shopping a few times, see if this doesn’t give him an appreciation about what this is costing.
You’ve gotta get this guy out of your place. He’s not going to find a place. He’s very comfortable feeding himself to death on your dime.
Just tell him he’s eating more than his fair share so you’d like to separate your groceries or he needs to pay 2/3-3/4 of the total grocery bill.
Also, if he’s this inconsiderate and you don’t feel comfortable enough with him to have these types of conversations then I’d end the relationship. Keep on him about finding a place and end it.
Are you sure his house caught on fire? I’m like half joking but a lot of guys love to move in with women they barely know because they didn’t have a great loving situation. Maybe I’m just thinking badly idk. But anyway he’s gotta go like yesterday. I live with my brother and he eats everything (he’s a teenager) but he’s very aware of what food to eat, what food I eat, and how much of it is there in general. This man does not seem to think of or care about you. Splitting the food bill 50/50 will not magically make him have manners and I’m worried about how you’ll be able to survive if he stays with you. Girl you gotta eat!
Oh my god, get this guy out of your house, OP.
There is no reason he should be living you. That sucks about his house, but you should never have taken him in. You do not know anyone well enough after…3 months?! to have them move in with you.
GET HIM OUT OF YOUR HOUSE. You’re focusing on the damn groceries when you’ve let a giant leech into your home.
You’re going to have to sit him down and tell him plainly that he needs to find someplace else to live asap because you can’t afford to support him. In the meantime he has to cover his own groceries and other things he uses up. Remember that the two of you have only been dating for a few months so you’re not obligated to take care of him at all.
I also live in Canada and know the price of food is ridiculous.
Lock up your birth control, give him 30 day notice, and get this leech off your back. It’s not even about the food or the money. It’s about a toddler masquerading as a man. Respect yourself and throw away this selfish baby man.
Time to tell him that splitting the groceries just doesn’t work because is appetite is so much larger than yours. He needs to buy the groceries 100%
OP, him know that you think its too soon for him to have moved in. That you were ok far (a few days? a week?) But that it now seems like he should be making alternative plans.
He is not only imposing on you, but he is not paying his own way. Besides food, is he contributing to other bills? Rent? Electricity? Water? Cable/internet? And is he doing his fair share of cleaning, cooking, running errands?
Ask him to buy his own groceries bc you can’t afford to feed him. You can just be honest.
This man has a relationship with food, and you’re the side girl.
Hell nah. He eats 3/4 of the food, he pays 3/4 of the grocery bill. And did I understand you that you’re housing him too? Girl, cut this off. You got a hobosexual
This guy. This man. Sounds to me like you don’t even like him. Honestly, I think you should cut your losses. He can find someone else to finance his gluttony.
Look, my husband is a big eater. He’s 6’ and over 300 pounds. I always get my food first and he ALWAYS asks if I got enough before he eats. Always. If he thought for one second I had not had enough he would immediately fix that. If he ate all our food and left me with nothing, I would never have married him. No way in hell.
One time, early in our relationship, we were sharing a snickers bar. I took a bite and handed it to him and he ate the whole thing. When he saw my shocked face he was apologetic. About 3 days later the man comes home with a gift box FULL of snickers. The little bars. It took me MONTHS to eat them, over 6 months, and eventually I just gave him the rest. It was a little joke, and we still giggle about it now. I think that’s when he started asking if I had enough food.