Was it fair for me to switch my roommates to decaf after they kept taking my coffee pods without asking? #coffee #roommates #decafvscaffeine
Background:
– I share a pod coffee machine with my three roommates, but they kept using my pods without permission.
– Despite asking them not to take my pods and even hiding them in my room, they continued to do so.
– I eventually switched to decaf coffee and asked them to pay me for the pods they took.
The Outcome:
– Once they confessed and paid me, I bought more pods for everyone to share.
– However, the pods they had consumed were decaffeinated, and they were upset they had been drinking decaf.
– They accused me of tricking them and called me names, even jokingly asking for their money back.
Conclusion:
– Despite their reactions, was it wrong for me to switch to decaf to teach them a lesson about taking things without permission?
– What would you have done in this situation? Let me know in the comments! #resolvingconflict #roommateproblems #ethicaldilemma
NTA…how unfortunate that the product they stole wasn’t to their liking.
NTA. It’s not *your* fault that the pods weren’t theirs and that they were too lazy to read the packaging before using the pods that weren’t theirs. Too lazy to get their own, too lazy to read…….
You’re NTA. I think it’s hilarious.
>they were wondering why they had no energy
Yeah, or they’re just not getting enough sleep.
>They… said that I did it on purpose.
True, but you didn’t force them to not read what they were stealing.
>I said that if they each sent me $15 I would pick up four more sleeves and leave them out to share.
You’re still being generous. All they did was pay back what they stole, and you offered to use that money to buy more and share them.
INFO: So they are pissed that the products they stole weren’t what they thougth they were?
I don’t get your logic, why you baugth decafe for this experiment. But eigther way, NTA. You didn’t trick anyone to consume problematic products (like meat for a vegan, pork for a muslime, milk for someone with problems with lactose)
NTA-reading is fundamental. They can’t be mad they didn’t read.
do NOT buy them pods with the money they gave you. that is money to replace the stolen/used items.
stop being their adult. let them grow up and buy their own damn coffee.
NTA
Well played, OP. Well played. I salute you.🫡
NTA and I think you’re great.
There’s no trick to this. They took what wasn’t theirs and they could have looked at the sleeve to see it’s not caffeinated. You’re NTA
NTA. I actually started drinking decaf after work, regular in thr morning and at work, once back home decaf.
Has helped me sleep 🙂
NTA. They were stealing.
Thieves lose all right to complain about something they stole. Screw them, NTA.
Obviously NTA. But if you’re hard up for money why is everyone buying coffee pods.
Nta. Stealing is never ok.
NTA since when do thieves get to complain about the quality of what they’ve stolen?
NTA, this is great. I had housemates who ate each others food and had a shared milk I never contributed to or used (I have a lot of food intolerances so have to be careful). I loled so much when they finally decided to use my milk – cue complaints that it tasted weird, was off, and that it made their coffee lumpy. No, it’s just soy. Yes, this is why I dont share my food. Yes, I find your lumpy coffee hilarious. Don’t use my food again.
“I am sorry are you under the impression the money was for the ones you stole? No they are for the ones I just purchased.”
Jerky roommates feel no guilt for constantly stealing and then complain.
NTA find some decent people to live with.
NTA. You didn’t trick them. They just didn’t read in their haste to steal.
It’s so weird to me that they wouldn’t buy their own pods. Borrowing 1 or 2 sure, but I would feel the need to immediately replace them. NTA
NTA
However the best way to go was to not let them know that these were decaf and just throw(recycle) the sleeves out.
Telling them that what they stole was not to their liking is like a cherry on the cake for you, but for them it is more like piss on the face.
Your roommates can read I assume? Not sure why you think you “tricked” them
I love me a good food (or drink) thief story! Thanks for sharing.
NTA all the way!
NTA, and nice move.
NTA. Nespresso, by chance? I’d be hopping mad if people swiped my pods. It *IS* about the $1-1.25/pod. That adds up! It’s also having to order online bc you can’t just go to Target. It’s that Keurig, by contrast, is readily available and cheaper.
Share the machine, by all means. But they gotta buy their own pods. Life ain’t free!
not the asshole 😁
The pods and machine would be locked in my room going forward. NTA.
NTA. You didn’t trick them. It was your coffee, on your shelf, so it was none of their business what type you bought. And you didn’t switch the packaging or anything, which clearly stated the pods were decaf. It’s not on you if they can’t be bothered to look at the label of what they’re about to drink. They noticed a difference, they had less energy, so they could easily have gone and checked the labels. They chose not to.
I think you handled this well. Your roommates were A H s for stealing your coffee and lying about it. They figured they could get away with it because it was only a pod here and there and you were drinking it too. They knew you noticed, because you asked. They lied and kept doing it. They knew you noticed again because you stopped storing coffee on your shelf. They started up again the second you put coffee back on your shelf.
It was only when you confronted them with the fact that you hadn’t had a single coffee from the latest packs that were now empty that they admitted to stealing your coffee. And now they’re calling you a jerk because you ‘tricked’ them with clearly labelled pods they could have easily read at any time?
I think what’s needed here is firmer boundaries over what is and isn’t shared groceries. You’re fine with them using your coffee machine, but they have to go back to buying their own pods. Or pay you to buy pods that are for everyone as you suggested. Stick to that, if they don’t give you money at any point, then the pods are yours alone.
Keep the coffee maker in your room. Problem solved 🤷
NTA at all!! No one was admitting to the crime. The only way that you were able to prove it was through the deception. I always find it so amusing when people caught doing shitty things the person who is the true victim who caught them. It makes zero sense.
NTA
“The product I stole wasn’t what I expected”
This is great because now that they know the coffee is decaf, you can put regular coffee into the old box and they won’t touch it.
NTA!
Ha! That’s what they get for doing that. I once had someone at work who was stealing my whipped cream. I know they were stealing it because I brought in a BRAND NEW can, and the next day went to get some and it was almost gone. I was PISSED. So, while we were all standing around the coffee pot the next day (two days after I had bought the can) I used the LAST OF IT…I made a HUGE ASS production of putting the tip in my mouth and squirting some, then I sucked that baby off like it was my last blow….POP. LMAO. You should have seen the reactions. There were either snickers because of what I was doing, or there were a couple of people who looked physically sick. Then I started coughing and saying how I feel like I have this sore coming up on my lip. Two people were quick to ask me if I did that every time, so I asked why. They admitted to stealing my whipped cream. HA! I knew it! LOL! So, I asked them for money to pay me back and if they wanted their can, I would buy them one, but they would never know if I did it or not till I got my money. They each paid me $5, I owned up to the fact that it was DISGUSTING behavior and I would never do such a thing unless I was at home. But, going forward I will buy cream if they give me $5 a piece and I will buy several cans. Worked out wonderfully!!
NTA. Frankly, I’d buy the coffee I like and keep it in my space / room until I want a cup. They’re all adults they can figure it out themselves.