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You’re definitely not alone in this struggle! It can be tough to come to an agreement on baby names, especially when you and your partner have opposite tastes. It sounds like you and your wife are in a bit of a standstill when it comes to choosing a name for your son, but it’s important to approach this situation with open communication and understanding.
Here’s some advice to consider when it comes to navigating this sensitive topic:
Understanding Each Other’s Preferences:
It’s essential to have a candid conversation with your wife about each other’s preferences when it comes to baby names. Take the time to understand the reasons behind your choices and be open to compromise.
Setting Boundaries:
In your case, you have voiced your concerns about the potential of naming your son after a TV show character. It’s important to establish boundaries and ensure that both you and your wife are comfortable with the names being considered. Setting these boundaries can alleviate any potential tensions and allow you to explore other options that align with both of your preferences.
Acknowledging TV Show Names:
While it’s understandable that your wife may have drawn inspiration from a TV show for potential names, it’s essential to have an honest and open conversation about the influence of these names. It’s okay for your wife to have a connection to a character’s name, but acknowledging the source of inspiration can help both of you reach a mutual understanding.
Compromising on Name Choices:
Consider exploring a list of names that incorporate elements from both of your preferences. This approach allows for compromise and ensures that both you and your wife feel involved in the decision-making process. It might be helpful to create a shortlist of names that hold significance for both of you, ultimately leading to a name that resonates with both parents.
Navigating Differences in Naming Preferences:
It’s normal for couples to have differing opinions when it comes to naming their child. Understanding that these differences are part of the journey can help both of you find common ground. Approach the situation with empathy and patience, knowing that finding the perfect name may take time and thoughtful consideration.
Reflecting on the Future:
As you and your wife navigate through this decision, it’s important to keep in mind that the name you choose will be a significant part of your son’s identity. Take the time to envision how the chosen name will impact your son’s life and consider the potential ramifications of your decision.
In conclusion, choosing a name for your child is a deeply personal and meaningful process. It’s essential to approach this decision with patience, empathy, and open communication. By acknowledging each other’s preferences, setting boundaries, and finding common ground, you and your wife can navigate this challenge together and ultimately choose a name that holds significance for both of you. Good luck on your journey to finding the perfect name for your son! 🌟👶
bro, you do know that like EVERY name EVER has been used at some point for a tv character, right? jfc yta
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> I gravitate towards simple and classic names like James, William, and Daniel
> She suggested the name Dean
Those are all the same fucking thing.
> I don’t want to hear suggestions for a little Zuko or Sherlock or anything like that
… you associate the name Sherlock with *television*, of all media?
YTA Dean is a normal boys name and nothing like zuko or sherlock. Does that mean you’re banning names like Joey because that’s a friends character? Or Will because he’s the star of will and grace?
YTA. You freaking like the name! Where does it matter where it came from??
YTA. Most names have come from TV at some point. Hell, “James” should be off your list because it could be a reference to Harry Potter or Jimmy Neutron.
As long as the name isn’t something outrageous like “Spongebob”, she’s fine with her choices. Dean is a normal name and wouldn’t get any eyebrows raised.
EDIT: If you specifically didn’t want her to use an old crush’s name, then that should be the stipulation. “No old crushes” is a hell of a lot easier to be reasonable with than “No TV characters”.
YTA, but go aheaad and blanket veto all “TV show names” because that means 100% of the names you gravitate toward will be eliminated and your wife’s options will be the only ones left.
Also, what you describe is not the same as naming your kid after a character. She hadn’t thought about the name Dean until she was reminded of it by watching the show. Naming your kid after a character goes like this, “I want to name our kid [somename] after the guy in [someshow] because [somereason].”
Seriously, it sounds like your wife actually listened to what you wanted in a baby name and tried to suggest one she thought you’d get on board with, and you’re throwing a lil’ hissy fit over literally any issue you could find with it.
I get that it feels weird to use a name of her “TV crush,” but if it’s a name you both like (and not an actual ex or anyone she actually knew), this seems a bit over the top.
James (and his giant peach), William (Willy) wonka, and Daniel ( Danny) turner would all tell you how stupid this idea is and those are just the first few I thought of off the top of my head. YTA.
Can you name a single name that hasn’t been used in tv or movies?
YTA. How insecure are you, ffs?
INFO: Did she get the name Dean from Gilmore Girls? Because if so, I wouldn’t name my child after him either!
/s in case it wasn’t clear 🤣
I mean, if this is how you’re acting before the baby’s born good luck. The irony of how childish it is to be fighting and “blanket vetoing” names from tv (which PS good luck finding a name that *hasn’t* been used on tv).
Time to put your adult pants on and sit down and have a conversation about it. Look for names together. There are plenty of lists floating around based on themes, or meanings, or colors, or mythical gods…unless all of those are blanket vetoed too. YTA.
YTA. She’s choosing common names that happen to be on tv.
My son’s middle name is named directly after the friend that introduced my wife and I. Our daughter’s middle name is the same as a friend she grew up with, but isn’t named after her, my wife just always loved the name. There is a difference.
You are about to be a father soon. Learn to pick your battles.
YTA. She was reminded of a name she liked when she saw an old show on TV. That is NOT “naming your kid AFTER a TV character.” Dean is a fine, simple and classic name.
You are indeed putting words in her mouth, and you two might want to consider couple’s therapy as you embark on creating a family together.
EDIT: seeing a couple of your comments, it’s become clear that your issue is actually the fact that she had a “crush” as a child on a character with that name. Are you seriously threatened by this?
But. That eliminates like 99% of names. That makes no sense. YTA. And to the question you didn’t ask: you’re also TA for vetoing Dean just because it’s also the name of a character from a show your wife used to watch. If it was some weird alien name you’d have a point. It’s just a completely normal name, which is presumably your main criterion. Does she have posters and tshirts and social media handles of this character? If no, your objection is insane.
YTA. There are too many TV shows for this to be a practical request.
James — Twin Peaks
William — Star Trek TNG
Daniel — Full House.
Now what?
I mean, William (aka Will was from Will & Grace or Stranger Things) is a TV name.
How about James: Captain James Kirk or James (Jim) Halpert on The Office.
Daniel was on The Walking Dead.
Your names are out too.
YTA if you can’t separate TV from actual names.
Edit: also, supernatural is a great show and Dean is a great name. Or was it Gilmore Girls?
Edit 2: clarity
No no, you have a point. No names from TV shows.
So, just for fun, please provide one boy name and one girl name that have never been in any TV show.
YTA. “Dean” is pretty innocuous, and light years better than all those poor “Khaleesis” out there.
Also:
* James Bond
* James T. Kirk
* James Gordon
* James (Jim) Halpert
* William Riker
* William Adama
* Will Turner
* Will Graham
* Danny Zuko
* Daniel Jackson
* Danny Ocean
* Lieutenant Dan
Oh FFS. Just because she originally came across the name due to a tv character doesn’t mean it isn’t a perfectly good name. You realize that crushes on celebrities are meaningless and absolutely NOTHING like an ex?
It is fine if you just don’t like the name, but clearly the issue is your jealousy.
YTA.
YTA and you’re also incredibly insecure. You sure you’re emotionally mature enough to be a father?
Yeah, YTA. If you were having twins and she wanted to name them Sam and Dean, *then* you would be NTA (although maybe still if you expressed yourself in an insufferable way.) But Dean on its own is a fine name.
Dude,
Please realize you’ve wiped out the whole baby book? You’re pretty much telling her to ….make up a name? You just shot down all the classics.
Being reminded is not the same as being named after,
Take a deep breath, admit you put your foot in your mouth and the YTA will go away.
YTA. You’re actually jealous of a TV character.
YTA
My SIL named all her kids after famous surfers. One of the surfers her son is named after had an accident and I asked “Did you hear what happened to (surfer guy)?” and she asked “Who?” because the only person she associates with that name now is her son.
Dean is a completely normal name. Instead of focusing on the fact it’s the name of a character from a TV show, maybe focus on the fact she’s trying to suggest a name you’d probably like a lot more than she does since you both have such different taste in names (allegedly, you didn’t give any examples of names she’s suggested except Dean).
Once Bub is here, chances are she’ll rarely if ever associate the name with the character again and will only associate it with your son, and no one else will think of the character.
YTA. I may be biased as a huge Supernatural fan but there is nothing wrong with the name Dean. At least she’s not pushing for Castiel or Crowley.
This sounds like a teenage boy wrote this 🫠