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Hey there, it sounds like you’re going through a really tough time right now. I can imagine how overwhelming and scary it must be to have just found out about your husband’s affair and the fact that his affair partner is pregnant. But you’re definitely not alone in this situation, and there are steps you can take to protect yourself and your daughters.
Here are some things to consider as you navigate this difficult situation:
Find a Good Divorce Lawyer
It’s great that you’re already thinking about finding a good divorce lawyer. Given the complexity of your situation, it’s essential to have a legal expert on your side who can guide you through the process and advocate for your best interests.
Before meeting with potential lawyers, gather any relevant financial documents, such as bank statements, mortgage documents, and information about any joint assets you and your husband share. This can help your lawyer understand your financial situation and advise you on how to protect your assets and secure the support you and your daughters need.
Protecting Your Rights
Since you are a stay-at-home mom and do not have an independent income, it’s crucial to understand your rights when it comes to spousal support and child custody. Given your husband’s substantial income and the fact that you have two young children, it’s likely that you would be entitled to both financial support and primary custody of your daughters. A skilled divorce attorney can help you understand and pursue your rights.
Alienation of Affection
You mentioned that people were discussing something called “alienation of affection.” This is a legal claim that allows a spouse to sue a third party for damages if that party’s actions contributed to the breakdown of the marriage. While alienation of affection laws vary by state, it’s worth discussing this potential claim with your lawyer to determine if it applies to your situation.
Asset Protection
Given that your name is on the deed to your home, you have a legal interest in the property. However, the cars being titled in your husband’s name could complicate matters when it comes to dividing assets. Your lawyer can help you understand how the ownership of these assets may impact the divorce settlement and how to secure your fair share of marital property.
Emotional Support
In addition to seeking legal advice, it’s essential to prioritize your emotional well-being during this challenging time. Surround yourself with a supportive network of friends and family who can provide comfort, encouragement, and practical help as you navigate the divorce process. Consider seeking the counsel of a therapist or support group to process your emotions and gain strategies for coping with the stress and uncertainty of your situation.
Final Thoughts
Despite the complexity and emotional toll of your circumstances, there is light at the end of the tunnel. By taking proactive steps to protect your legal rights, prioritize your emotional well-being, and secure the support you need during this difficult time, you’re setting the stage for a brighter future for yourself and your daughters.
Remember that you are strong, resilient, and capable of overcoming this adversity. It won’t be easy, but with the right support and a strategic approach to the divorce process, you can emerge from this challenging chapter with a sense of empowerment and a fresh start. You deserve peace, happiness, and stability, and by seeking the necessary legal guidance and emotional support, you’re actively working toward creating a better life for yourself and your daughters.
If you’d like assistance navigating the legal aspects of your situation or additional support and resources, don’t hesitate to reach out to reputable organizations or professionals who specialize in divorce and family law. You have the right to advocate for yourself and your children, and there are dedicated professionals and supportive communities ready to assist you on your journey toward healing and a brighter future. Stay strong, and remember that you’re not alone. You’ve got this. 🌟
Best wishes, and stay strong. ❤️🌼
Illinois is one of the few states that still recognizes alienation of affections, but that’s a really hard cause of action. It’s a very disfavored cause of action because it’s somewhat contrary to the modern idea that we can end a marriage when we want for whatever reason we want.
You should meet with a divorce attorney about what your best course of action will be, but I suspect just filing for divorce and seeking alimony for some period of time will be better.
Many attorneys will do free or low cost consults. It’s also possible that a court would order that you be allowed to use marital assets for your attorney even if he “controls” the money, because the money belongs to both of you.
Sorry you are having to deal with this.
Please se a divorce/family law attorney asap before you say anything to your husband. The attorney will tell you everything you need to have lined up before disclosing any information to your husband. I’m sure the attorney will want you to gather all financial information you can gather your mortgage information any evidence you have to prove he is cheating, information on the pregnant AP etc. if you need help finding an attorney contact your local or state Bar Association Lawyer Referral Service and they can get you a 30 minute consultation with a divorce attorney usually for $50 or less. And on another subject, you need to find a job as soon as you can. You need to start finding your independence now. How long have you known he was cheating with his boss lady? If a while, I guess you didn’t care he was cheating. Anyway the whole situation is so sad and I hope you find a great attorney who can get the best settlement for you and your children and all that your are entitled to under the laws of your state. Good luck!
I also think in IL you can sue his boss because of the affair
In many states, after 10 years of marriage, a partner is entitled to some portion of the working partner’s retirement funds. Inform your lawyer if there is a pension or 401k and ask advice on getting your portion of those assets. Also, consider your children’s college potential in the divorce. He should be prepared to contribute if they go to college. This also is lawyer material.
You can sue him and her and make them pay your attorneys fees. Get out, get custody, and take them to the cleaners.