Is it common for couples to abstain from sexual intimacy in their relationships? #sex #relationship #intimacy
Exploring the Dynamics of Physical Intimacy in Relationships
When it comes to relationships, the subject of sex can be a complex and sensitive topic. While physical intimacy is often considered a crucial component of a romantic partnership, it’s important to recognize that every relationship is unique. Here are some factors to consider when contemplating the role of sex in your relationship:
Communication and Mutual Understanding
Open and honest communication is essential in any relationship. It’s crucial to discuss your expectations, desires, and boundaries with your partner to ensure that you are both on the same page when it comes to physical intimacy.
Emotional Connection and Compatibility
Sexual compatibility is important for many couples, but it’s not the only measure of a healthy relationship. Emotional connection, trust, and mutual respect are equally vital components of a strong partnership.
Personal Preferences and Values
Every individual has their own unique preferences and values when it comes to sex. Some couples may choose to abstain from sexual activity for personal, cultural, or religious reasons. It’s important to respect and honor each other’s boundaries and decisions in this regard.
Seeking Professional Guidance
If you and your partner are struggling to navigate the complexities of physical intimacy in your relationship, seeking guidance from a therapist or counselor can be beneficial. A trained professional can help facilitate conversations, provide valuable insights, and offer strategies for enhancing intimacy in your relationship.
Ultimately, the decision to have or not have sex in a relationship is a deeply personal one. What matters most is that both partners feel respected, valued, and supported in their choices. Remember, there is no one-size-fits-all answer when it comes to relationships – prioritize open communication, mutual understanding, and respect for each other’s boundaries. #communication #respect #couples
You need to have a conversation with her, not here.
It’s normal for sex to decrease in a relationship after a few years, but under 2 years is early for a five month gap.
It is normal for the sexual activity in relationships to fluctuate.
It’s important to note that when life gets stressful or busy you may find yourself intimately detached from your partner. Which would make it more difficult to initiate sex when both of your minds have been preoccupied for most of the day.
I would recommend having a discussion with her about it, and putting aside some days to focus solely on each-other.
Your relationship is not dying.
If sex is the *only* thing that has dwindled and yet you’re still happy with, and in love with, each other, then what’s the problem?
Sounds like the perfect relationship. It’s not about how much sex you have, is about both of you wanting the same amount of sex.
Satisfaction is normal but satisfaction looks different for everybody and is only achieved through communication
sex isnt what a relationship is about and shes allowed breaks if she dont wanna have sex everyday she dont want to
While sex is important it’s not the main thing that drives relationships. Your relationship is fine. That said, it’s not normal for your age especially. You two should schedule it because the less you do it, the less you’ll want to do it and it can potentially cause problem in the future. So yeah, consider planning ahead and make it fun and exciting, example : date night that ends in a hotel instead of home.
Yes is it normal, if u don’t feel like it don’t force yourself.
I really do believe that feeling loved, happy, safe, and secure in a relationship is so much more important than how much sex you’re having.
If you’re both happy and in love and can laugh and enjoy eachothers company and you communicate well, then you’re doing okay.
its totally normal if both of you are happy not having sex. if one of you wants sex and the other doesn’t, or you both want sex and it isn’t happening, then that is a relationship// lifestyle issue that needs to be addressed.
people glorify and mystify sex, but its the same as anything else in life: “is it normal if my wife and I never go to the movies?” “is it normal for my husband to want to play videogames with me every single day?”
change it from sex to anything else in life, and the answer is the same– there isn’t really a wrong answer, but you have to both be happy with the situation or find a compromise in the middle (◐‿◑)
Your relationship isn’t dying you just have too much on your plate right now. Better schedule it and make that schedule sacred as the birth of Christ himself.
If you’re both happy, then the gap isn’t a problem. Like you said, you’ve both had stuff going on and if you’re both feeling fulfilled in your relationship, there’s nothing really to worry about. When things calm down, sex might become more frequent.
That said, it’s important to touch base with your girlfriend, and check if she feels the same. If not, then I’m sure you can talk about it and sort it out.
I wouldn’t worry on what is ‘typical’, because life does get in the way. Just make sure you are both happy and check where you see yourselves down the line
Start scheduling it.
Also, this is a mistake young folk make too much. Make your life less busy. You’re not in a race through adulthood. Reprioritize a bit and slow down to enjoy yourselves some more. That doesn’t have to mean sex specifically, but what’s the point of being busy and “achieving” stuff all the time if you don’t have time for fun or relaxation?
The most crazy stuff here is that you both are independent and living together with only 21-23 💀.
I want to live that dream too don pool.
Well if your not Asexual then no its normal if its without explanation especially since you used to have frequent sex but for your situation I think its more than normal you are both super super busy with life and all that matters is that you still find time for each other and love each other which you clearly do
Perfectly normal.
There is normal and there is normal. It is not normal to not have sex for 5 months at your age in a committed relationship. That being said it is perfectly ok. If you are both happy and contented with your relationship don’t let it bother you.
You seem like you are happy with the exception of sex. Do what we old married folks do… put sex on the calendar. When life gets in the way sex gets put off. You have to work to get it back on the schedule.
You still have intimacy and love for each other. That’s really important. Sex isn’t as important as those
Its only as needed as much as you guys equally desire. Normal is what you and your partner make of it. If you’re both happy you’re good
Yes Because sex isn’t everything. If you can get along with your partner in other ways that may not be A priority for your both
Maybe plan a day a week where you guys just spend a whole day together. Go on a date, picnic. Relax from all the troubles, and then you just have sex.
Sex is important as it’s a connection of souls in their most vulnerable state. It’s not the only thing that keeps a relationship, of course, but it is important.
I would suggest planning a day, forgetting about everything, and just focusing on you too.
Communicate! She might be thinking the same thing. Even if she isn’t it shows you’re critically thinking about her and your relationship’s happiness. There’s so many hard talks that us guys have and we struggle in silence not knowing how. Just talk to her. You’re completely happy and cool and satisfied but you were wondering if there’s anything wrong with this aspect of our relationship or anything we need to talk about. It’s that easy. She’ll probably reassure you,you’ll talk , you’ll feel more connected AND you’ll probably get some or she’ll wanna give you some just for being on top of the state of your relationship. We aren’t alone.
At 21 I was having sex almost everyday, at 42 its like twice a month.
Sometimes just being woth the person shows more love. Why in this society everyone thinks everything has to be sex related, can’t we just enjoy each other’s company and if it turns to sex, great….
Dude, make time for each other. My gf and I each have high-stress jobs, often requiring long, anti-social hours, and two demanding dogs; we try to have a ‘date day’ at least once a month where we book in a load of activities together and leave the dogs with a sitter so we can enjoy each other without distractions.
Are you horny? Is she? Would you fuck others if you could?
I’d say it’s not nec. normal but it is common. Lots of couples don’t have sex, especially older couples and where one or the other has health problems or injuries
Different for everyone. Me and my partner have never had sex. Together a decade nearly.
Sounds like you’re settling into a comfortable symbiosis. You had intimacy and still do. Do you really need to do it as often as you once had? Your love is conquering!
It’s a long time with no sex at all. Less than two years into your relationship and you haven’t had sex in five months isn’t a good sign for your future sex life. I don’t think your relationship is dying but you are definitely headed for a relationship where sex is not a priority if you continue with this.
Satisfaction looks different to everyone, not to echo what everyone else is saying. But to answer your question, It’s not normal at your age.