#JobGuilt #CareerChoices #EmotionalStruggles #CareerAdvancement
Feeling guilt about moving to a different job? 🤔 Don’t worry, you’re not alone. Many individuals face this dilemma when considering switching to a new position for better pay, career growth, or other opportunities. It’s natural to feel attached to your current job, especially if it has been a significant part of your life for a long time. But remember, it’s essential to prioritize your own well-being and career development. Here are some practical solutions to help you navigate through this emotional transition:
Acknowledge Your Feelings
It’s okay to feel guilty about leaving your current job. Acknowledge your emotions and understand that it’s a common reaction when considering making a change. Remember that your career progression and personal growth are essential aspects of your life too.
Reflect on Your Reasons
Take time to reflect on why you are considering moving to a different job. Is it for better pay, career advancement, or a healthier work environment? Understanding your motives can help you make an informed decision that aligns with your long-term goals.
Seek Advice and Support
Talk to friends, family members, or mentors who can provide guidance and support during this challenging time. Share your concerns and thoughts with someone you trust, as they may offer valuable insights and perspective.
Explore Your Options
Consider all your options, including upskilling to qualify for advancement opportunities within your current company. Research different job openings and evaluate how they align with your career aspirations and personal values.
Decision-Making Process
Make a pro and con list to evaluate the potential benefits and drawbacks of staying at your current job versus moving to a new position. Consider factors like salary, job responsibilities, growth opportunities, and overall job satisfaction.
Remember, it’s essential to prioritize your own happiness and professional growth. Don’t let guilt hold you back from exploring new opportunities and taking the next step in your career journey. Trust in your abilities, seek advice from others, and make a decision that aligns with your long-term goals. You deserve to thrive and succeed in your career path. Good luck! 🌟
Leaving coworkers can be difficult, especially when you’ve worked with them for so long. Ultimately this is about your career. You need to make decisions that are right for you, and not your colleagues and certainly not the company. I can assure you that the company will not feel guilty when they need to downsize. You can check if there are any openings internally if you want to stay with the organization. Otherwise don’t feel bad. If they are not paying you fairly then it’s time to move on. Best of luck to you.
No. And no.
If you want to get paid then change jobs.
I personally remind myself that this is just business. That’s why I didn’t care when I got laid off a few years ago. I said ok thanks and collected my severance check.
Or you absolutely can stay and make less than your market rate. No harm at all if you’re content at the smaller salary.
I just left a place I had been at for over 7 years. Great coworkers and managers. Amazing work life balance. Pay was shit and we were understaffed by a crazy amount. I hung around hoping upper management would pull their heads out of their asses but in the long run I just cost myself a lot of money. My new job is 30k more and I am on a team twice the size of my old one that manages half the infrastructure.
Well it’s normal to feel that way but if they don’t offer a match or offer some sort of raise then they don’t have the best interest in you.
Don’t. Employers won’t feel any guilt if they lay you off, it’s just business. You can still keep in touch with co workers…. especially with LinkedIn etc
Consider the fact that your employer could very likely pay you what your worth, for your hard work and years of loyalty, paying you at LEAST average market prices. They’re happy taking advantage of you.
When you leave they will likely try and offer you the raise you deserved years ago (because they know no sucker will accept the low wage you have, since salary expectations have changed over the years). This is a trap. If you accept the raise it could work out, but very likely it will give them time to find your perfect replacement without worrying about you leaving.
Don’t feel guilt. Your coworkers may like you, but your company doesn’t give a fuck about you. They would pay you $0 if they could.
Have you gotten an offer? You might be counting your chickens. Those jobs ain’t guaranteed.
Loyalty don’t pay the bills.
Similar situation here, except ive only been with my company a couple of yrs. I never negotiated on my salary offer, took the first thing they offered. I had zero exp other than a yr in help desk. Ive learned so much and incrementally have been tasked with more projects, in addition a senior worker is retiring soon and ive heard rumours they arent hiring a replacement, but task me to pick up more work. I am grateful they took a shot on me and really allowed me to learn and get some experience. But now i feel i am being underpaid. Do i ask for a raise first before i start looking for other jobs? This job has great benefits, pension, great culture so i do know it could be worse. But idk we work our butts off and i would like to compensated fairly.
Let’s put it this way, if you upskill and wait for a promotion, they will exploit your new talents and not promote you. And to add more insult to injury, they will hire an outsider with less experience to the upskilled position,
That’s how I felt last year. I was at a small company and now I work for a bigger company. I was hesitant with leaving because I felt like I was abandoning them with tons of work. But I have learned that sometimes you just have to do what you have to do for yourself.
I learned a lot from my last company and am grateful, but sometimes you need to expose yourself with new people and new situations to continue advancing your skills. I enjoy the new people I work with and am glad I took a chance with my current company. There’s so much that I’m learning that I know I wouldn’t have been able to at my last company.
Don’t let your own fears, doubt, or guilt stop you from positive change. Wish you the best on your journey.
Never feel guilty – if you died tomorrow your job would be advertised the same day.
Always do what is best for you.
What I’d do is go for it until you get an offer and then give them a chance to match it. If they truly value you, they’ll show it.
I promise you that you’ll forget about whatever loyalty your old place had for you, after you get your new paycheck and the number is significantly larger. Don’t look back
There’s no reason to feel guilty. Them allowing you to grow, and get experience is part of their repayment for you working. You get paid in cash and experience, this place weighed experience as more valuable than money, now you’re at a point in your career where money is more valuable. All that training was why you received 20% less, and why they took a chance on you. You don’t owe them anything because they never gave you anything extra.
Just make sure to do it right, once you have an offer you’re willing to accept, put in your 2 weeks, send your boss and co-workers a nicely worded letter, telling them how much you appreciated working with them. IT’s a smaller field than you think, you may need those connections in the future, especially if the new job isn’t a good fit.
Get an offer and speak with your boss if you have that good of relationship. And tell him you’d really like to stay but finances are making very hard due to current econkmt
Honestly, I got let go for lack of motivation/performance after 4 years, was super ready to take a few months off and unwind/figure stuff out… had an interview the next week for a job I’d previously applied for, next thing I know I’m making 25% more with better benefits and a better work environment. Still missed some of the people/work from my old job but that’s likely nostalgia talking.
I had the same feeling until I got laid off after several years. Do yourself a favor and control your own destiny!
Culture be damned, I’m out of bed to earn a living for my family and zero other things. YOU ARE the commodity of value, NOT the role/company/co-workers. The guilt is a trick, always choose what is best for you.
They’d let you go on a hot second of it’s about their bottom line. This is business and we’re in it to make money in order to support our lives and families. Make your money.
*Has anyone else felt like this before, and do you have any words of advice for me?*
*My other option is to upskill and wait for an advancement opportunity I qualify for to open up here.*
Best advice to you is leave, leave now. Think about how the company would act if they lost some important business. They’d cut your job in a NY minute and say “too bad, so sad.”
They took a chance on you??? Um, no. Translation: They hired you for cheap and you worked your ass off putting in huge effort to earn your place and help make them rich in the process. If they’re not paying you what you’re worth, they just don’t value you. You can’t build your 401K on pizza party, you need to get paid.
Ha ha, if you love the company so much just leave for a few years and then boomerang back. When you come back you do it at a much higher salary and then you can have the love fest you want, just don’t burn any bridges. Find a different job that pays at least 20% more and say you have to do it for your family. Then in a couple of years, do the same thing in reverse, leave your new company to go back to your old one for another 20% increase, everyone wins.