#TheTabooQuestion
#FriendsWithBenefits
#LoveDuringSex
#RelationshipEtiquette
Have you ever found yourself in a friends with benefits situation and wondered if saying “I love you” during sex is crossing a line? 🤔 Many people have different opinions on this topic, so let’s dive into it and explore whether it’s taboo or not.
## What is a Friends with Benefits Relationship?
In a friends with benefits (FWB) relationship, two individuals are engaging in casual sexual activity without any romantic commitment. There is typically an understanding that the relationship is purely physical and lacks the emotional attachment of a traditional romantic partnership.
## The Taboo of Saying “I Love You” during Sex
When it comes to expressing love in a friends with benefits situation, opinions can be divided. Some people believe that saying “I love you” during sex can blur the lines of the relationship and create confusion, while others see it as a harmless expression of feelings in the heat of the moment.
### Pros of Saying “I Love You”
1. **Authenticity**: If you genuinely feel love for your FWB partner, expressing it can be a true reflection of your emotions.
2. **Emotional Connection**: Saying “I love you” can deepen the emotional bond between you and your partner.
3. **Honesty**: Communicating your feelings openly and honestly can lead to a better understanding of where both parties stand.
### Cons of Saying “I Love You”
1. **Misinterpretation**: Your FWB partner may misinterpret your words and believe that you want to change the nature of the relationship.
2. **Expectations**: Saying “I love you” can create expectations for a more serious commitment that may not align with the original intentions of the FWB arrangement.
3. **Awkwardness**: If your partner does not reciprocate your feelings, it can lead to awkwardness and potential feelings of rejection.
## Communication is Key
In any type of relationship, communication is essential. Before expressing your love during sex in a friends with benefits situation, consider the following:
1. **Set Clear Boundaries**: Discuss the boundaries of your relationship and ensure that both parties are on the same page.
2. **Check-In Regularly**: Keep the lines of communication open and check in with your partner to ensure that the relationship is mutually satisfying.
3. **Express Your Intentions**: If you feel compelled to say “I love you,” communicate your intentions clearly and honestly to avoid misunderstandings.
## Final Thoughts
Ultimately, whether saying “I love you” during sex in a friends with benefits situation is taboo or not depends on the individuals involved. As long as both parties are honest about their feelings and communicate openly, there is no set rule on what is acceptable in this type of relationship. Remember to prioritize mutual respect, understanding, and consent in all interactions, both in and out of the bedroom.
So, what are your thoughts on this topic? Have you ever experienced a similar situation in your own relationships? Share your insights and experiences in the comments below! 👇
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In America (U.S.), saying ‘I love you‘ means you have very strong feelings and are serious about someone. It’s not just an expression and not something you would say if it’s supposed to just be a fling.
Don’t do that
If you feel you must tell them, sit down with them and tell them. I wouldn’t blurt it out during – what’s supposed to be – casual sex.
It’s very simple
Romantic feelings- romantic confession
No romantic feelings- no romantic confession
Classic Schmosby
Yeah don’t do that. Americans (in general) get real weird about “I love you” being said at the wrong time.
No going back in time, after it’s out, probably changes the situation between you two.
If it was just a fling/fwb thing you wouldn’t love them. If you do, it’s more than that, at least on your end
I scared a female away doing this.
If it was strictly a FWB relationship I’d finish up the night like normal then break it off if I heard that
There are other ways to say what you’re trying to say, and I would suggest using them. “I love you” might scare the person off if they’re expecting a fling because it implies romance. You can still use “love” if you’re adamant about it but use it like “I love when you do that” “I love your body” “I love the way you feel.”
Don’t say it unless you mean it. Don’t just use those words.
Instead, say things like, “I love how you’re making me feel.”
Yes.
It wasn’t when I used to have them.
I say “I love you” to my close friends all of the time. It’s interesting that sex changes one’s ability to say it. My guess would be it can no longer inherently be a platonic “I love you” because having sex makes the situation inherently no longer platonic, and it therefore changes the meaning.
What a crazy thing to ask
I went back and forth with this one. On one hand, I tell my close friends all the time “I love you”, and we aren’t close enough to have sex lol. Also, IMO it doesn’t “count” if its said during sex, some sessions can get pretty intense (especially with a new partner) and if my partner shouted out “I love you” during sex, I wouldn’t take it as a genuine confession of love. I can also understand why that would scare some men though. For me personally, I wouldn’t mind it. I would take is as confirmation I’m doing a good job.
You have bigger issues at that point.
A girl did this to me the first (and therefore only) time we slept together, I was only looking for a FWB and she knew so when she said it during it was red flags in my mind. I wasn’t trying to break hearts so to prevent her building up a romantic desire for me I mentioned it to her after then never saw her again.
Another girl did similar, kept saying I may want more after we meet up and convinced she could change my mind, I let her stay at my place for a few days and she understood my mind wasn’t going to change and just enjoyed the few days we had.
By contrast I slept with one girl for about 2 years as just FWB because she was able to keep it as just that an never more, right up until she got married to someone. That was a perfect FWB situation.
Moral of the story don’t say I love you to a FWB
You could say “I love the way you (do this to me)” or “I love your (body part)”, but “I love you” is gonna scare a casual partner off real quick