#LifeUpdates #MentalHealth #FindingYourWay
Hey everyone, I’m a 25-year-old guy about to hit the big 26 in October, and honestly, I’m feeling a bit lost. 😟
Here’s what’s been weighing on my mind:
- 🚀 **No Skills or Career** – I feel like I’m drifting without skills or a clear career path.
- 💔 **No Relationships** – I’ve never been in a relationship or even had my first kiss. The thought of dating is intimidating.
- 👥 **Job Struggles** – Job hunting is tough in my country. The government doesn’t really support young people, making it feel like an uphill battle.
- 🧠 **Mental Health** – I’m on the autism spectrum, and I’ve faced challenges fitting into workplace cultures. I even dropped out of university after some tough experiences last year.
- 😞 **Panic and Anxiety** – I deal with panic attacks and severe agoraphobia, which makes it hard to even leave my house.
- 📚 **Daily Routine** – Lately, my life has been a cycle of reading and binge-watching while munching on junk food, which isn’t helping.
I love literature, especially sci-fi, horror, and works by authors like Dostoyevsky and Poe, but I struggle with feeling competent. Writing has crossed my mind, but I often tell myself I’m not cut out for it. It’s tough to shake the feeling that I’ve wasted these years, and I wish I could turn back time and make different choices.
But I don’t want to stay stuck! 🛑 I really want to improve myself and finally start living. Still, it’s hard not to feel like damaged goods when I think about my future.
So here’s where I’d love your input: **Have you ever felt like you were wasting your life? How did you find a way out?** 🙌 Any tips or experiences you can share would be super helpful!
Let’s support each other! ❤️
”25”
”wasted my life”
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Though your trauma and personal issues will always be with you – you’ve got to approach the job market as if they don’t exist because nobody is realistically going to accommodate them. Be pragmatic and practical and find a foundation which you can build on. If you’re smart and adaptable – reach out to friends and family who might start you out in a business they own or established in to start building some skills. If that’s not an option, look for work where there is potential for growth even if you have to start at the bottom. I’d avoid retail. If possible, see if you can finish your nursing program as that’s a field that pays well and is in high demand. If you’re sure that your social issues are permanent, take some online classes in accounting and see if you can get a part time job in bookkeeping or payroll and build from there.
you can’t waste your life at 25 buddy you’re just getting started. sounds like all you need is a little confidence boost and to not compare your life with others. when i’m in a bad funk and think the same thoughts you just posted, i try to listen to self-help, philosophy, and spiritual books. My brain is wired to gravitate toward negative thinking so when im alone for too long and stressed out my depression/anxiety just gets worse unless I physically make an action against the negative thinking. breathing mediations, yoga, learning about taoism, and music seem to help me get my thinking back on track. along with exercising and eating a diverse diet. When I started writing songs I could never finish one because all I thought was how shitty it sounded. though I was correct (ha) that thought process wasn’t helping me progress. So i looked into stuff like “brain hacks” and meditation. Try to take yourself out of how you’re feeling and focus on how you want to feel really helps me. Also try not to think of everything that’s bad all at once. it’s tough i know trust me but if you can find a way to minimize the stress of your shortcomings into separate and small pieces in your head I feel it helps with navigating the obstacles you’re trying to get through. Feeling overwhelmed with issues never helped me get through them, but finding a way to makes them seem less of an huge issue and more of a puzzle to solve makes the end result more tangible in my head; thus gives me more drive to power through stressful life situations.
Start doing things today.
Everything you’ve been through has made you the person you are today. Every moment was a building block, none of them wasted.
Keep building, you got this! 🙌
Keep push forward. You got life ahead of you
Know this. You’re not a bad writer. You kept me engaged with so few words. Because you enjoy literature, you expose yourself to more, thus making you better at literature as a whole: grammar, spelling, etc. If you aren’t from an english speaking country, you’re EXTREMELY eloquent. The real issue, is self-esteem. You’re too hard on yourself and you know this. You’ll get there. You say “I’ll never have friends or a relationship” but how can you know this? Do you have a time machine that you took to your deathbed to check if you were alone or not?Saying “I’ll never have this” is negative confirmation bias. You believe you never will so you end up subconsciously making life choices in order to sway it in that direction. My advice: Lean into writing. HARD. Go easy on yourself; whenever your mind criticizes you, ask yourself if that would be okay to say about another person. And last but not least: Figure out some way to get therapy.
Do acid.
You’re so caught up in monkey bullshit right now man and you can’t even see it. Just do what you want to do inside of what you can do. Everything outside of that sentence is just complete bullshit.
You’re too wrapped up in the game to see the bigger picture.
You need to step back, man, like WAY back. You’re getting too serious and too involved in all this and it’s making your life terrible when it doesn’t need to be that way. Like, at all. You are torturing yourself over something really silly.
If you’re getting fired for cultural reasons, you need to be working with a social worker or therapist. There’s no other way.
You need to add two words to your topic.. “I think I’ve wasted my life”….*so far*. You are still young and have plenty of time to change course in life. Seriously, you are fine.
Bro my life didn’t even begin until 25. What you talkin?
A lot of very attractive girls date dumpster ugly looking guys don’t worry about looks
Imagine being 35 and thinking the same thing… it’s really scary 🙁
Unaliving is pretty dumb as a word indeed. What about dealiving? I want to make it a thing 😉
20s are for figuring shit out and making huge mistakes dw u good
Well you aren’t dead yet so you obviously haven’t wasted your lif
Bruh you’re 25. I didn’t get my shit together until I was 30. Take small steps to improve. The best time to start is now.
Get off the fucking internet dude. You’re in your prime. I fucking wish I was 25 again
You’re just starting your life. Do you have Microsoft Office skills? Look into AFSCME union jobs.
Go to college, go to the gym, get a good job, you’ll end up being 30 anyways, the difference is you’ll have the skills to back you up, a title and muscles to get ladies.
If you’re undecided just go do that, seriously.
Thank Uncle Inferno later.
you can start your career right now and be financially stable by 30 or 35 or you can keep saying “i wasted my 20s and it was too late to start at age 26” etc
im 16 about to be 17
i have a lot similar issues as you and also I would give anything to go back to when I was 10 with all the knowledge and information i have now because if that happened i will be at much better place now but as you see that impossible and will never happen
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“you gotta focus on what is real”
sorry for dumbass English 😛
good luck 🙂
Enroll yourself in the gymn.
it’s okay to seek help and support when you need it. your feelings and experiences are valid, and taking proactive steps towards change can lead to a more fulfilling life
I think it’s typical for that age that people assume, they wasted, ruined their life. It’s because you don’t have a lot of experience. I was the same. Now ten years later I can tell you: there’s so much more life had to offer. I quit my job at 31, started a whole new career, I’m now studying. Next year I’ll be 35 and my life seems to slowly form in front of my eyes. It’s getting better day by day. I wouldn’t go back to being 25 for a second. You will grow older and get a different perspective on all of these things, your entire life. Life is definitely one of those trust the process things. 🙂